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Cast Your Vote:

    • Yes -- Votes: 12
    • No -- Votes: 15
    • Room but not bed -- Votes: 22
    • I would never let my child have a sleepover at all -- Votes: 3
~Milk*Jugs~ Due September 27 (boy); 4 kids; La Quinta, California 1978 posts
Aug 7th '13

I know this would end up being a fight between DH and I because I would be ok with the sleepover but jot bed sharing but he would not be ok withh a sleep over at all.

.Solange. 1 child; Montreal, 5566 posts
Aug 7th '13

it depends on the situation. Say it was a weekend at a beach house and the 13 year old brought along his/her transgendered friend. I woudn't have a problem with it at all, seeing as it would be supervised, meaning the family would all sleep in the same room...



Now would I let this happen unsupervised? No. So many things could happen and it would be an extremely bad parenting decision, imo, to put the kids in a situation where neither of them 100% know the consequences of some decisions they might decide to make...

Bangarang 10 kids; Muthafuckin, GA, United States 27083 posts
Aug 7th '13
Quoting Lizzie McGuire:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Gubler:</b>" Sure but not bed. I was raised not sharing beds ... [snip!] ... with my friends. Even as recently as a couple years ago. Me and my LO stayed the night with my friend and we all shared a bed."


We always slept on the floor. Made it like camping. Blanket forts and lots of pillows.

user banned California 36390 posts
Aug 7th '13

Okay if you said NO they could not stay the night:
What would you tell your child when they asked?
What would you tell the other child's parents if they confronted you?

user banned 1 child; Golden, Colorado 28482 posts
Aug 7th '13
Quoting Lizzie McGuire:" If your son had a friend who identified as male but was biologically female OR If your daughter had a ... [snip!] ... as a female but was biologically male Would you let that friend stay the night and share a room/bed with your child?"


Yup, I would allow them. I am okay with opposite sex sleepovers anyways with rules.



Sharing a bed... ya know it depends. A lot of factors go into this. But I would never disallow a sleepover just because they are transgendered. I mean if Lily had a friend that was born male but transgendered female and she felt straight (meaning, she may have boy parts but she has a female brain and is attracted to men, so she's not gay, she is indeed straight) then I really wouldn't have an issue. It really depends on many factors but I will allow my child to have opposite sex sleepovers anyways with rules so ya know... we shall see.

Anja[VBA2C GRADx2!] 5 kids; Illinois 3578 posts
Aug 7th '13

All sleep overs my daughter has=supervised. If she had a transgender friend , I wouldn't see a problem with them sharing a room , though we'd likely have sleeping bags or they'd sleep on the couches anyway , not an actual bed. I can't say that'd be a differing factor however.



I've had people ask me what I do about my oldest daughter as she has a girlfriend and I feel like people assume all teenagers do is have sex or something when really two people regardless of sex and/or gender identity can be good friends or even together without making things sexual , especially as kids or young teenagers.

.Solange. 1 child; Montreal, 5566 posts
Aug 7th '13
Quoting Anja[VBA2C GRAD]:" All sleep overs my daughter has=supervised. If she had a transgender friend , I wouldn't see a problem ... [snip!] ... gender identity can be good friends or even together without making things sexual , especially as kids or young teenagers."


:!:
Last part. Well said

The Monk Due March 6; Nerima, Japan 723 posts
Aug 7th '13
Quoting Lizzie McGuire:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Gubler:</b>" Sure but not bed. I was raised not sharing beds ... [snip!] ... with my friends. Even as recently as a couple years ago. Me and my LO stayed the night with my friend and we all shared a bed."

LOL, I hated sharing beds with my friends. I slept on their hard cold floor. My room had two beds for when I had sleepovers. But I would let my child as long as they were supervised!

user banned California 36390 posts
Aug 7th '13
Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:" It depends on age, but I don't even think they would have to be transgendered for a sleepover. I'm thinking ... [snip!] ... with the appropriate parent supervising but everyone in sleeping bags. I don't want my kid sharing a bed at all really. :shrug:"


Why? (I feel like I could make this it's on D&D. I had no idea people felt this way.) And no, the majority of sleepovers I had (just one on one, not like, huge groups) were from 11-13.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Aug 7th '13

I would let them stay over but not share a bed.... no matter what their anatomy. I didn't share beds at my sleepovers.

user banned 1 child; Golden, Colorado 28482 posts
Aug 7th '13
Quoting Lizzie McGuire:" Why? (I feel like I could make this it's on D&D. I had no idea people felt this way.) And no, the majority of sleepovers I had (just one on one, not like, huge groups) were from 11-13."


This. I dont really like Lily sharing a bed either. She did share a bed with my ex's son at times but they were like brother and sister, that was different to me. But I really don't like her sleeping with other people, and she needs her own blanket and pillow. I really, really am not comfortable with her sharing blankets and pillows.

rpgmomma8404 1 child; St Ann, Missouri 7591 posts
Aug 8th '13

I was allowed to sleep over at a male friend of mine house when I was a kid. My mom trusted me though because I was the good kid. Nothing ever happen and we never shared a bed.



My son has autism so I'm not sure if sleep overs would really happen but given the situation it would be the same. I don't think he would want to stay the night with anyone unless I was there. He doesn't sleep well when I'm not home. He down right refuses to go to bed if I go out with my friends for anything where we stay out late.

user banned 1 child; Golden, Colorado 28482 posts
Aug 8th '13
Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:" You know, I don't really know. I just know that I'm not super comfortable sharing a bed with people, ... [snip!] ... as long as the otherparents and I were in agreement and there was supervision. I've never been to an unsupervised sleepover. "


The same for me... Ive had very few boyfriends that I liked sharing a bed with. I am just picky with my bed, and so is Lily. I just prefer her to have her own space. Though sometimes she wanted to sleep in the same bed as my ex's son, but they were like brother and sister and would pile into the bed and watch tv so I didnt care :)

user banned 2 kids; Iowa 7762 posts
Aug 8th '13
Quoting Lizzie McGuire:" If your son had a friend who identified as male but was biologically female OR If your daughter had a ... [snip!] ... as a female but was biologically male Would you let that friend stay the night and share a room/bed with your child?"


Hmm, would kinda depend on the age of the children really. Young, like 7 or 8, yea I'd let them share a room.



Teenager?
Sleepover, yes. Sharing a room or bed, no.



But I'm like really understanding of different people. I deffinetly have to be to live in the city I do, we're one of the biggest gay/transgender ones, lol.