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What am I supposed to do? ^-^ Rawr + 2 2 kids; Big Spring, Tx, United States 10210 posts
8th Aug '13

poof

ღSheila Lynnღ 3 kids; Weed, California 47383 posts
8th Aug '13

Wow...I just got chills reading this. Someone in my program had a best friend that recently passed...leaving her husband and newborn as well. How sad :(

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
8th Aug '13

Sad:( was she ill or was it sudden?



I would just comfort him and let him know that you will be there anyway he needs. He may just be really angry right now. I would maybe see if you can your daughter at her dads for a few more days, maybe call and make it a positive thing.

^-^ Rawr + 2 2 kids; Big Spring, Tx, United States 10210 posts
8th Aug '13

She has always been sick, since childhood, but no one was expecting this at all. It's a total shock.
They think it was a blood clot in her lungs.

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
8th Aug '13

I'm sorry for your loss. Can you make arrangements to pick up your daughter since its on the way there?

^-^ Rawr + 2 2 kids; Big Spring, Tx, United States 10210 posts
8th Aug '13

We could do that, but he doesn't want my 5 year old there.

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
8th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ^-^ Rawr + 2:</b>" We could do that, but he doesn't want my 5 year old there."</blockquote>




I wouldn't go if that was the case.

^-^ Rawr + 2 2 kids; Big Spring, Tx, United States 10210 posts
8th Aug '13

Well honestly, i don't necessarily like the idea of her going to a funeral either.
Plus, it's an extra mouth to feed on the road, and I don't know where we will be staying if there will be enough room, ect ect ect.



So I sort of agree. Also, it's not like the two of the ever met.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
8th Aug '13

It's a hard situation but I wouldn't go if only 1 of my kids was welcome & the other was specifically not welcome especially if one was begging to come home or was distraught about being with her father. I understand he's going through a lot & it will take time to heal. I just don't know if I would be ok with the way he wants things to happen personally.

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
8th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:</b>" It's a hard situation but I wouldn't go if only 1 of my kids was welcome & the other was specifically ... [snip!] ... a lot & it will take time to heal. I just don't know if I would be ok with the way he wants things to happen personally."</blockquote>




Exactly

^-^ Rawr + 2 2 kids; Big Spring, Tx, United States 10210 posts
8th Aug '13

Honestly, while I hated the way he went about it, he has a point. A funeral is no place for a 5 year old. She will be bored, probably throw a few fits, and be a distraction from people trying to say their goodbyes.

ThreeLittleBirds Due August 28; 3 kids; Pueblo West, CO, United States 1020 posts
status 8th Aug '13

I understand you want to be there for him. But if I was in your shoes I'd stay home and keep the kids home as well. Then there is only one mouth to feed and you don't have to worry about your 5 year old.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
8th Aug '13

You said syourself you barely knew her. I wouldn't go if I hadn't seen my kid all summer and had no idea how long it would be before I could see her again.



Your SO should go be with his family alone. It doesn't sound like you can really afford to go with him anyway,

Addi's Momma Due January 23; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Florissant, Missouri 5297 posts
8th Aug '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" It's a hard situation but I wouldn't go if only 1 of my kids was welcome & the other was specifically ... [snip!] ... a lot & it will take time to heal. I just don't know if I would be ok with the way he wants things to happen personally."


DD is 4 and went to her first funeral. She did fine and sat on the couch until we were ready to leave. I wouldn't go if only one of my kids was welcome. You should either all go as a family or he should go alone. That isn't fair to your daughter.

These City Walls 1 child; San Diego, California 2605 posts
8th Aug '13

I think you should stay home and be with your child. It seems like it would be best for everyone. You can be available to him via phone for support.