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♥ Black Cat 1 child; Marvel, PA, United States 3827 posts
10th Aug '13

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user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
10th Aug '13

Living with someone is a big step for a kid. Out of sight, out of mind and now that's not possible. Talk to him, he's old enough to tell you what's upsetting him. Constant reassurance.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
10th Aug '13

Did he know your SO before you guys moved in or did you just move him in with a stranger?

Black Cat 1 child; Marvel, PA, United States 3827 posts
10th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Mayhem*:</b>" Living with someone is a big step for a kid. Out of sight, out of mind and now that's not possible. Talk to him, he's old enough to tell you what's upsetting him. Constant reassurance."</blockquote>



I tried to ask him what's wrong, but he just says "I don't know."
I understand its a big adjustment. Maybe he just needs more time.

Black Cat 1 child; Marvel, PA, United States 3827 posts
10th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Now and Forever:</b>" Did he know your SO before you guys moved in or did you just move him in with a stranger? "</blockquote>



Yes he knew him. We would even sleep over weekends SO had his son.

gorgeouschaos712 2 kids; Hickory, North Carolina 596 posts
10th Aug '13

DD is 3 and gets jealous of SO as well.. Only difference is she craves his attention when he is hugging one me! She is slightly over dramatic and loves being the center of attention!

SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7881 posts
10th Aug '13

It's a huuuuge deal for him to be living in a new house with a man he hardly knows. The best thing for SO to do is to give him time and space. He needs to be friendly and let your son know he's there, but don't push too much.



Also, your actions mean a lot. Your son needs to know that HE comes before your SO. A lot of women, (totally not saying you are) get so caught up in their new relationships that it makes their children feel like they don't matter or that their mom would choose the new guy over them.



If your son has an opinion on something or disagrees, talk to him about it. Let him know you're still listening.



It's definitely a hard thing for children to go through. Don't blame him and tell your SO he shouldn't be hurt, he should understand.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
10th Aug '13
Quoting Miss Brittany:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Now and Forever:</b>" Did he know your SO before you guys moved ... [snip!] ... you just move him in with a stranger? "</blockquote> Yes he knew him. We would even sleep over weekends SO had his son."


How long were you two in a relationship for? Is bis biological father in the picture? Is it a possibility that he thought or was hoping you two would get back together?

Black Cat 1 child; Marvel, PA, United States 3827 posts
10th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Now and Forever:</b>" How long were you two in a relationship for? Is bis biological father in the picture? Is it a possibility that he thought or was hoping you two would get back together? "</blockquote>



We've been together a year.
His father is not around much. We broke up when he was almost a year old. He hasn't seen him in a year or talked to him in 2 months. He's only seen him about 8 times in 4 years.

Im watching you 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Adelaide, Australia 4985 posts
10th Aug '13

try to have your SO and child have their own time together , like going for a walk and chatting while they do it



also do time with just you and your child , even if its just reading a book in bed at the end of the day , but make sure its just you two



also family time is important , it will take a while , as I was in the same position but my daughter was younger , she now loves her stepdad ( my daughter and his daughter were our bridesmaid's when we got married , one was 5 and the other was 6)



just don't push them together , it will happen naturally



goodluck

motherofboys 3 kids; Milton-Freewater, Oregon 2263 posts
10th Aug '13

This will pass, it will just take a little time. I have to say, it can happen at almost any age too. I'm ashamed to admit I was quite jealous when my mom started seeing a new man (her husband now) and I was a bit rude as well. What makes me a little ashamed is I was 17 at the time, lol. I guess after having my mom to myself for 5 years I wasn't ready to share. :P It passed though and now her husband and I are great friends. :)

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
10th Aug '13
Quoting Miss Brittany:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Now and Forever:</b>" How long were you two in a relationship ... [snip!] ... was almost a year old. He hasn't seen him in a year or talked to him in 2 months. He's only seen him about 8 times in 4 years."


Then, he probably is just having a hard time adjusting to living with someone other than you. Does your kid & SO get time alone?

Black Cat 1 child; Marvel, PA, United States 3827 posts
10th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Now and Forever:</b>" Then, he probably is just having a hard time adjusting to living with someone other than you. Does your kid & SO get time alone?"</blockquote>



They do get alone time. SO watches him when I work late.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
10th Aug '13
Quoting Miss Brittany:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Now and Forever:</b>" Then, he probably is just having a hard ... [snip!] ... than you. Does your kid & SO get time alone?"</blockquote> They do get alone time. SO watches him when I work late."


Well I mean, other than home stuff. Maybe he can take him to the park, out for ice cream, or a game. While you stay home and cook something fun for dinner. KWIM? So it won't seem as he only spends time with him because you're working and he "has" too.

Black Cat 1 child; Marvel, PA, United States 3827 posts
10th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Now and Forever:</b>" Well I mean, other than home stuff. Maybe he can take him to the park, out for ice cream, or a game. ... [snip!] ... cook something fun for dinner. KWIM? So it won't seem as he only spends time with him because you're working and he "has" too. "</blockquote>



That's a nice idea. Thank you.