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Kait. 3 kids; Iowa 2345 posts
10th Aug
Quoting Monsters ⚓ Mom:" Its a pretty mean move but can you threaten to take away visitation if she doesn't start putting your ... [snip!] ... first? Especially with smoking in the car with her, I know in California its against the law to smoke in the car with a minor. "


I wish more than anything is was illegal here too. It NEEDS to be everywhere in my own opinion. We can't do anything. We had a hearing and we've had trial. She had overnights taken away at trial, but still sees her 3 hours on Wednesdays and every other Saturday from 9-7. It sucks.

Kait. 3 kids; Iowa 2345 posts
10th Aug
Quoting eKnuckles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kait.:</b>" On the cement sidewalk. While her mother sat 5 ... [snip!] ... She wasn't being supervised very well in my opinion. "</blockquote> That is so sad :/ Is she your step daughter?"


Yes, I've raised her since she was 1. She just turned 5 on March 26th :) I honestly thought her bio mother would never come back into her life after no phone calls for 4 years. I consider my own and she's always called me mom and her bio mom by her first name. It's sad that she has to be in a situation like this.

Kait. 3 kids; Iowa 2345 posts
10th Aug
Quoting Vicki McDonald:" My 11 year old wears a helmet when riding a bike! it's common sense. And it's the law here. It's ... [snip!] ... are ever considered to replace them. Oh look, you kid is too stupid to take care of their kid, why don't you take over? )"


AMEN! The bio mom is a crack baby....so duh. Common sense.

eKnuckles Due February 13; Florida 3438 posts
10th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kait.:</b>" Yes, I've raised her since she was 1. She just turned 5 on March 26th :) I honestly thought her bio ... [snip!] ... my own and she's always called me mom and her bio mom by her first name. It's sad that she has to be in a situation like this."</blockquote>




So you are her mom, which is great. It would be so much worse if she only had her bio-mom to look up to. I hope they take away mandatory visits if her family is as bad as you say.

Kait. 3 kids; Iowa 2345 posts
10th Aug
Quoting eKnuckles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kait.:</b>" Yes, I've raised her since she was 1. She just ... [snip!] ... worse if she only had her bio-mom to look up to. I hope they take away mandatory visits if her family is as bad as you say."


They are. Her mom used to work through DHS, which is why things are this way. Now her mom got fired because she was "unfit"... but she still has the connections through the courthouse we had to go through. It just sucks. It's a sad, sad situation.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
10th Aug
Quoting Kait.:" On the cement sidewalk. While her mother sat 5 houses down smoking. She wasn't being supervised very well in my opinion. "


I don't think she was being supervised at all. I guess that's why DD doesn't wear helmets. I'm always behind or beside her. I wouldn't sit my ass down & just let her ride around as she pleased. What if someone snatched her. f**k that.

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11903 posts
11th Aug
Quoting Now and Forever:" I don't think she was being supervised at all. I guess that's why DD doesn't wear helmets. I'm always ... [snip!] ... beside her. I wouldn't sit my ass down & just let her ride around as she pleased. What if someone snatched her. f**k that. "

See I had this great idea to let Cylus ride his bike 2 blocks down to the gas station with me running behind him. f**k THAT! never again will I let him ride that far because running to catch up to him when his feet go twice as fast as mine just doesn't work out after a long day of work.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
11th Aug
Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" See I had this great idea to let Cylus ride his bike 2 blocks down to the gas station with me running ... [snip!] ... far because running to catch up to him when his feet go twice as fast as mine just doesn't work out after a long day of work."


Omg. Were you able to catch up to him? I'm the kind of terrified, over-protective, always thinking the worse will happen kind of mom. If I can't reach out and grab DD while riding the bike, she's going too fast. :oops:

lamr - 02-08-13-21 2 kids; Crazytown, ON, Canada 5923 posts
11th Aug

My 3.5 just started riding his bike so he doesn't have a helmet yet. Here a helmet is law, but not for bikes with training wheels (according to my husband, I haven't looked it up yet). We haven't gone for any real bike rides because i won't let him until he has a helmet



It's also law here that you can't smoke with the kids in the car. Shocks me that other places don't care about something so horrible.



I'd say there's nothing you can do.

Subtle As A Hurricane 2 kids; Texas 4126 posts
11th Aug
Quoting lamr - 02-08-13-21:" My 3.5 just started riding his bike so he doesn't have a helmet yet. Here a helmet is law, but not for ... [snip!] ... the kids in the car. Shocks me that other places don't care about something so horrible. I'd say there's nothing you can do."


It seems silly that the helmet law wouldn't apply to bikes with training wheels. The fall that got me stitches was on a bike with training wheels. I took a corner too sharply and somehow caught the training wheel at a weird angle. It caused me to fall into some bushes and bust my head. I was learning how to ride my bike at a park with my mom a block away from home.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26151 posts
status 11th Aug
Quoting Kait.:" Our 5 year old has had supervised visitation with her mother (her grandma is the supervisor) for the ... [snip!] ... smoke in the car around her. She said "well..." and that was it. Ugh. Does your 5 year old wear a helmet while riding a bike? "


My child will wear a helmet at all times at ANY age, otherwise her ass will be grounded for a seriously long time if I catch her without a helmet.