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Vent. Need advice. Eating. Kelsie Lowe (Albrecht) 1 child; Saginaw, MI, United States 380 posts
11th Aug '13

Okay so I know because I'm pregnant I'm suppose to eat better for my baby so myself and the baby dont get sick but I don't have that large of a stomach and everyone says I don't eat enough for myself and the baby but I eat little meals at a time then in an hour or so I'm hungry again. I wish people would understand that I can't eat a big meal at once. How do I explain look I'm stuffed would you like me to go throw up what I just ate so I can finish what's on my plate when there was too much to begin with? I'm just so sick of people especially my finances mother getting on my case about how I eat. I just can't eat a lot at one time. My doctor even said if I can't do that then eat several small meals during the day but I just don't know how to explain that to everyone they think I'm full of crap and lying about it I guess idk. I'm just so fed up.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
11th Aug '13

Why does it matter what anyone else says about it?



That's just something that comes along with pregnancy. No matter what you do, someone's going to think you're doing something wrong/unhealthy.

Kelsie Lowe (Albrecht) 1 child; Saginaw, MI, United States 380 posts
11th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Andromeda Strain:</b>" Why does it matter what anyone else says about it? That's just something that comes along with pregnancy. No matter what you do, someone's going to think you're doing something wrong/unhealthy. "</blockquote>



I understand that but it's like an everyday thing where I'm "not eating right" and going to end up in the hospital or something. And it's just getting on my nerves.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
11th Aug '13
Quoting Kelsie Charlotte:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Andromeda Strain:</b>" Why does it matter what anyone else ... [snip!] ... thing where I'm "not eating right" and going to end up in the hospital or something. And it's just getting on my nerves."


Tell them you've spoken to your doctor about it and he says you're fine, and if they persist, tell them to mind their own business.



It's really not that big of a deal IMO. Just wait until you have the baby and then you'll REALLY see people telling you what to do and what not to do. A lot of times there is LITERALLY nothing you can do right for your family or family-in-law when it comes to children.

Waiting4Jan 1 child; 1 angel baby; Georgia 491 posts
11th Aug '13

Tell her very nicely to shut up, and mind her own business. Just do what you have to do to keep your food down. And every time you go to the doctor, call her up afterwards just to tell her that the doctor said you and the baby are healthy. After doing that a few times, I'm sure she'll get it. :D

Kelsie Lowe (Albrecht) 1 child; Saginaw, MI, United States 380 posts
11th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Andromeda Strain:</b>" Tell them you've spoken to your doctor about it and he says you're fine, and if they persist, tell them ... [snip!] ... to do. A lot of times there is LITERALLY nothing you can do right for your family or family-in-law when it comes to children. "</blockquote>




Yeah I just keep my mouth shut most of the time to avoid conflict but
It's so hard not to say anything. They come from where they eat a lot in one sitting and they are good for the next few hours. But even when I was little I could only eat small portions at a time and in a hour I was hungry again. I just hate being told I didn't eat enough. Really? How do you know what my stomach can and can't handle?

Kelsie Lowe (Albrecht) 1 child; Saginaw, MI, United States 380 posts
11th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Melissa48:</b>" Tell her very nicely to shut up, and mind her own business. Just do what you have to do to keep your ... [snip!] ... just to tell her that the doctor said you and the baby are healthy. After doing that a few times, I'm sure she'll get it. :D "</blockquote>




Ha I wish I could just say shut up. That would just cause more problems if I did that. It's just so hard to try and get people to understand it don't take a lot before I'm full.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
11th Aug '13
Quoting Kelsie Charlotte:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Melissa48:</b>" Tell her very nicely to shut up, and mind her ... [snip!] ... cause more problems if I did that. It's just so hard to try and get people to understand it don't take a lot before I'm full."


Well it doesn't sound like you're trying very hard..it's not avoiding conflict if there's already a conflict on their part.

♥MomToSilas+1♥ Due December 9; 1 child; ., IL, United States 11244 posts
11th Aug '13

Say something to them. Dont bite your tongue to "avoid conflict" because the more they nag the more you are going to get annoyed. Its part of pregnancy. You will never do anything right in anyones eyes.

Waiting4Jan 1 child; 1 angel baby; Georgia 491 posts
11th Aug '13

Well if she doesn't stand up for yourself, they are going to just keep at you. Sometimes we have to be a little snappy in order to get our family/in-laws to leave us alone and stop trying to control our lives/pregnancy. It sucks and it isn't fun, but I had to do the same with my in-laws, because nothing else worked.