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Cast Your Vote:

    • Suck it up. -- Votes: 13
    • Leave him. -- Votes: 6
    • Drop it. -- Votes: 12
    • Get pregnant w/o him knowing. -- Votes: 6
    • Other.. Please explain. -- Votes: 6
Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
11th Aug

I think I would leave. It's like he tricke me by saying he wanted a few then changing his mind

speaktruth2powr 2 kids; Ontario 45178 posts
status 11th Aug
Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" I think I would leave. It's like he tricke me by saying he wanted a few then changing his mind"


It might not have been a trick. Parenting doesn't come easy for some people. It takes actually having a child to realize when you are and aren't up to doing.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
11th Aug
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" It might not have been a trick. Parenting doesn't come easy for some people. It takes actually having a child to realize when you are and aren't up to doing."

!!!!!!!!!!!!
When DH and I first started talking about how many kids we wanted, he wanted 2, I wanted 4. Now that we have 1 with 1 on the way (both girls) he wants to try until we get a boy (way to jinx us on that one buddy lol) and I think I might be good with 2 lol

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
11th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" It might not have been a trick. Parenting doesn't come easy for some people. It takes actually having a child to realize when you are and aren't up to doing."</blockquote>




Yeah I understand that. We thought we wanted four but rethought that after having a child. But to be completely non compromising I would feel that way. I would stay if he had changed his mind but agreed to have one more

kthx. TTC since Nov 2012; Cleves, Ohio 65272 posts
status 12th Aug

Leave. I for sure want more than one child. If my SO couldn't make me happy with that... then I'd find someone who would.

TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 22822 posts
12th Aug

Certainly no deception.
Marriage is a partnership. I'd drop it for a while and bring it up later. Who knows what is shaping his view. Maybe it's financial stability, frustration with the current child, loss of fun and adventure.... Who knows? That can change as the kid gets older or other life issues change.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
12th Aug

I said other because it is too complex. If I was younger I'd stick around longer & try to work it out...etc.



I wanted more, we agreed to 4, we had 2, Dh said he was done, I was not. I was working on trying to accept that, because frankly I wouldn't split our family & hurt my BORN children that way because i wanted anther baby, that seems ludicrous...soooo.....we ended up with an oops & although I was terrified he'd be upset, eh is not & now I am the one feeling angsty. LOL I never would have gotten preggers on purpose without him on board & when i found out, I assumed I'd mc & I was so upset to have this happen now, when I really wanted another & I was so sure he would NOT be on board to TTC again, but all seems to be going ell & it looks like we will have 3. I am totally going to let go of the idea of having 4. We are getting too old for this roller coaster & Dh would never be on board with that anyway.