Okay so my daughter is 15 going on 16 months. She likes to act up ALOT. Everytime we go out to eat she wants to run around, when i tell her no she screams at the tops of her lungs and hits and throws things then when i pick her up she fights like hell to get out of my arms, its seriously hard to hold onto her, and she tries to hit me and screams louder the whole time. She NEVER listens when i say no. She just keeps doing what she isnt supposed to do. I am lost on dicipline techniques.. Ive tried EVERYTHING. Nothing works! And when she doesnt get her way she hits her head on everything.. Idk what to do when she acts up... Anyone else going through this with thier toodler that has any suggestions on how to dicipline?
She is trying to assert her independence, but she is unable to vocalize her emotions.
She doesn't need discipline, she needs empathy.
Quoting Spacetits:" She is 1. The only thing that works at this age is redirection. You should try and be a little more patient with her."
And it can get exhausting and embarrassing at a restaurant. Get a babysitter or stay home and cook....no one wants their meal interrupted by a screaming toddler.
No my son doesn't act like that :?
When he does misbehave though he's taken away from what he's doing and told not to do it, and explained to why not even though he's little (he's 16 months too). In rare instances if he keeps doing something, especially if it's dangerous we'll give his hand a smack but I can't remember the last time I've had to do that. Usually just getting to his level and holding our finger up and saying sternly "NO!" works. We don't really "discipline" unless it's something that could be dangerous to him, like standing up in his high chair, still then we ask him to sit down, and help him sit down several times (usually at least 3) before he gets disciplined.
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" She is trying to assert her independence, but she is unable to vocalize her emotions. She doesn't need discipline, she needs empathy."
THIS! Try to find out what it is she wants or does not want. Avoid going out near nap times and bed times. Give her the words she needs. She will catch on before you know it.
Uses phrases like "I'm know you don't want to leave the playground, I'm sorry. We will come back soon"
"I'm not sure why you are crying and screaming. Would you like a kiss or hug? Juice, milk, cuddles?"
Stay near your little one when they are distressed and let them know that you are there for them.
Here is something I read that I love!
From birth to age two is a child
I don't believe in any form of discipline before 2 years old...I mean, when they act like that the only thing you can really do is tell her that what she's doing is not nice and redirect her attention...When LO was younger we would take lots of toys and if one started getting boring we'd whip out another one..now that he's 3 and a half he likes to play games on DH's phone so that usually keeps him preoccupied...
she's gotta be very frustrated, I mean imagine being this tiny human who can walk and barely talk and people still don't really understand exactly what you want and you just want to show that you can do things by yourself AND you don't understand why they won't let you go off and just run and run away...it would get on any ones nerves...
....you should try taking her to the park once a day...we have a big backyard so LO would just run around in circles all day or we'd take him to the park up the road just so he could get to do what he wanted to do which was yell, run, and be a kid.
<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" She is trying to assert her independence, but she is unable to vocalize her emotions. She doesn't need discipline, she needs empathy."</blockquote>
:!: This. 110%.
Quoting Mrs.O!:" I don't believe in any form of discipline before 2 years old...I mean, when they act like that the only ... [snip!] ... day or we'd take him to the park up the road just so he could get to do what he wanted to do which was yell, run, and be a kid."
Do you mean discipline or punishment?
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Do you mean discipline or punishment?"
I'm curious too, because those are two VERY different things.
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Do you mean discipline or punishment?"
punishment, I re-read it and was totally gonna change it....lol..haha, my son was informed he was doing something he wasn't suppose to do but he never really did have repercussions for it..I mean, at 15 months he could barely talk let alone understand what time out or even a lecture about not doing naughty things was so I just calmly would tell him not to do it or we'd walk out of a restaurant or store until he'd calm down..
Quoting Mrs.O!:" punishment, I re-read it and was totally gonna change it....lol..haha, my son was informed he was doing ... [snip!] ... things was so I just calmly would tell him not to do it or we'd walk out of a restaurant or store until he'd calm down.."
Yeah. I considered time outs for mine but I had to laugh at myself. No way he'd manage that lol. Some people don't even discipline though, and they wonder why they have heathens ugh. I'd get chewed out because I said I would discipline my son from about 5 months. People hear "discipline" and read "beat my kid." They don't realize discipline is as simple as taking their hand down and saying "No, that's not nice," when they're mad and trying to claw you.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Spacetits:</b>" When people hear discipline, they automatically think you punish them. Redirection is practically distraction, ... [snip!] ... I don't consider that discipline. You're just changing things up without them realising it. Not really teaching anything there."</blockquote>
I consider discipline to be any form of "training" I guess you could say. And when they are repeatedly taken away from something and explained why I see it as training them what is acceptable and what isn't.
She acts the same way at home. If she doesnt get what she wants she freaks completely out. There is no distracting her. She remembers things. And the whole out of site out of mind doesnt work with her. Redirectoin doesnt work with her. Shes very smart and comunicates very well. She says up to 30 or more words. Knows all of her body parts and tells me everything she wants and needs for the most part. She just doesnt like to listen. She purposly ignores me. I try talking to her all the time and explaining things to her but if its not what she wants to hear she just screams and trys to hit me when i get to eye level with her. I guess its just a fase. Its just a hard one bc ive been having to go to public places alot for college purposes and stuff and have noone to watvh her so i have to bring her and she wont even let me talk to anyone bc shes acting up extremely bad.