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I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10437 posts
11th Aug '13
Quoting Lumen.Ash:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:</b>" Because he is your husband and the two ... [snip!] ... then.... yeah. Self explanatory."</blockquote> I guess I still don't understand because he's not his child."


It's his step child. He is HOH and his income falls on any type of assistance that you apply for.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45941 posts
status 11th Aug '13
Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:" It's his step child. He is HOH and his income falls on any type of assistance that you apply for. "


:!::!:



This was the case when we were applying for something for my daughter.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27047 posts
status 12th Aug '13

Miss... call me tomorrow or I will call you. You should get D to get off his ass and cover kindergarten, its his responsibility. Lily's school had the last year of full day kindergarten and now its only half day paid. Stupid budget cuts. Anyways ill call after I take lily to do her last minute school shopping :) caaallll me my mom has evil plans with the wh**e I have to tell you aaallll about ;) (gosh you gotta love my mom! We are such b***hes and we love it!) Give that boy a hug and tell the sister allo! Love you b***h!!!

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45941 posts
status 12th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" Miss... call me tomorrow or I will call you. You should get D to get off his ass and cover kindergarten, ... [snip!] ... you gotta love my mom! We are such b***hes and we love it!) Give that boy a hug and tell the sister allo! Love you b***h!!!"</blockquote>




If it isn't in the custody order, by law he isn't responsible for paying it. Also, if he isn't paying his child support, what makes you think he'll all of a sudden become this stand up guy and pay for something he isn't required to?

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45941 posts
status 12th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" Miss... call me tomorrow or I will call you. You should get D to get off his ass and cover kindergarten, ... [snip!] ... you gotta love my mom! We are such b***hes and we love it!) Give that boy a hug and tell the sister allo! Love you b***h!!!"</blockquote>




If it isn't in the custody order, by law he isn't responsible for paying it. Also, if he isn't paying his child support, what makes you think he'll all of a sudden become this stand up guy and pay for something he isn't required to?

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10437 posts
12th Aug '13

By the way......... why do you have to pay for school?

ɑutumnɑℓ 1 angel baby; ~, FL, United States 65762 posts
12th Aug '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" <blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" Miss... call me tomorrow or I will call you. ... [snip!] ... child support, what makes you think he'll all of a sudden become this stand up guy and pay for something he isn't required to?"


Yes.



I don't understand her whole lack of understanding on how it's her husband's responsibility now that he's the kid's step-dad and chose to take on another man's child.

ChristinaLynne Due October 7 (boy); 2 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29252 posts
12th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:</b>" By the way......... why do you have to pay for school?"</blockquote>




I live an hour away from here and here there is only 1 Title 1 school where full day kindergarten is free. My sons school is half day unless you pay as well. But you can qualify for assistance(which our household income does). It's typically 280$ a month without 80$ if you are on reduced lunch and 40$ if you are on free lunches.

ChristinaLynne Due October 7 (boy); 2 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29252 posts
12th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" Miss... call me tomorrow or I will call you. ... [snip!] ... child support, what makes you think he'll all of a sudden become this stand up guy and pay for something he isn't required to?"</blockquote>



Common sense some people don't have it

ChristinaLynne Due October 7 (boy); 2 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29252 posts
12th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mαkαnαni:</b>" Yes. I don't understand her whole lack of understanding on how it's her husband's responsibility now that he's the kid's step-dad and chose to take on another man's child."</blockquote>




Seems to me she just wants to abuse the system and get something cheaper or free.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27047 posts
status 12th Aug '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" Yes. I don't understand her whole lack of understanding on how it's her husband's responsibility now that he's the kid's step-dad and chose to take on another man's child."


Because her ex used to actually be a stand up guy... he used to actually do quite well for his ex and his child and if his child needs something, he should get off his f**king ass and do it, that's where I'm coming from. Yes, her husband married her and yes he would do whatever he could for his stepson. But fact being, her son has a biological father that needs to get off his ass and be the father he once was, be the MAN he once was (and that I know he is capable of being, I truly love the guy and know he is very capable of being a stand up guy he's just being a fuckmonster right now and has been ever since the day a mutual "friend" of ours decided to put her tits where it wasn't wanted in a relationship and a friendship) and ruined a marriage and friendship. Ever since, her ex has turned into a f**king moron and refused to get help after he went to War. He refuses to help his child. This was going on LONG before another man was in the picture, so it's not even a matter of her marrying someone else and he taking on someone elses child. It's the fact that he was once a stand up guy, his head got fucked up, refused help, a b***h put her tits where it wasn't wanted, and now a child is being hurt because of his actions. He should be helping his child. Just because she married someone else doesn't absolve the fact that he still has a biological father that has responsibilities. If that were the case, when she was married the state would terminate child support and say "Well since you are married your ex no longer needs to support your child and all rights are terminated." It doesn't work that way... he still has to pay child support, he still has to support his child even if a step father is in the picture.



Except, he's a f**k and he doesnt. And the OP will agree, I love the hell out of her ex and was there for every step of their relationship and wish that things worked out between them. But it didnt, and all he is doing is hurting their child. I love her husband, I still think her ex needs to step up and if he only dropped the friendships that caused problems in the past and got help he would be a phenomenal father. The old him would NEVER do the shit that he is doing now.

ChristinaLynne Due October 7 (boy); 2 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29252 posts
12th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" Because her ex used to actually be a stand up guy... he used to actually do quite well for his ex and ... [snip!] ... problems in the past and got help he would be a phenomenal father. The old him would NEVER do the shit that he is doing now. "</blockquote>




Then she needs to take him back to court.



And it still doesn't change the fact that when she files for it it's her household income not her ex's income and hers

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
12th Aug '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" Because her ex used to actually be a stand up guy... he used to actually do quite well for his ex and ... [snip!] ... problems in the past and got help he would be a phenomenal father. The old him would NEVER do the shit that he is doing now. "

WAh cry a f**king river. I feel no mercy for her or that bd used to be a stand up guy. my bd used to give me 400 dollars a month for the kids. guess who gets nothing now. you see me whinning f**k no. I do what I gotta do.

ɑutumnɑℓ 1 angel baby; ~, FL, United States 65762 posts
12th Aug '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" Because her ex used to actually be a stand up guy... he used to actually do quite well for his ex and ... [snip!] ... problems in the past and got help he would be a phenomenal father. The old him would NEVER do the shit that he is doing now. "


You make it sound like it's all that girl's fault. He's just as much at fault. If he's such a slacker about paying for anything, she should take him to court. Has she done that?



Should he help with tuition? Sure; but it isn't just on him. It's not a court order and she's now remarried and has a household income that's taken into account, not her BD's.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45941 posts
status 12th Aug '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" You make it sound like it's all that girl's fault. He's just as much at fault. If he's such a slacker ... [snip!] ... just on him. It's not a court order and she's now remarried and has a household income that's taken into account, not her BD's."


Exactly.



People don't seem to understand the difference between a custody order and child support.



In my custody order, we have a ton of financial stuff from the cost of medical/dental above what our insurance pays for to back to school supplies to extra curricular activities.