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    • never ever. i'd burn off their genitals first! -- Votes: 63
    • really? that's an option? -- Votes: 29
    • perhaps, i don't know yet - i don't have a teenager -- Votes: 84
    • i've already stocked condoms & plan b in their nightstand -- Votes: 19
    • sex is for bonobos & porn stars, of which my teenager is neither -- Votes: 6
lolajessup Due July 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
12th Aug

Also my friends from HS who were allowed to sleepover with their bfs are all still with their HS sweetheart. Then there's me who had to sneak around that turned into a ho bag hookup girl.

Mara Due September 27; 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38964 posts
12th Aug
Quoting homes cool:" No. I'll discuss birth control, safe sex, etc. But I would find it very disrespectful for my teenage ... [snip!] ... my teenage children to be having sex in my home. I cannot control what they do, but I can set boundaries and make those clear. "


so you'd put them on birth control and expect them to have "safe sex" elsewhere?

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10431 posts
12th Aug
Quoting Mara:" i feel like the potential for that - if the entire thing is preceded by a parental meeting about sex, ... [snip!] ... them know, of course, that penetration doesn't have to happen unless both parties are fully willing to take that step / risk. "


I see what you're saying! But I just wouldn't feel comfortable with my daughters boyfriend sleeping over.. I just don't find it appropriate.

Two Princesses 2 kids; San Pedro, CA, United States 7196 posts
12th Aug
Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:" Yeah I guess so. but I'm not gonna walk into my 14 (saying 14 bc I lost my virginity at 14......) year ... [snip!] ... and say SORRY! and walk back out. No best believe I am picking him up by his p***s and throwing him outside, ass naked. lol"


I also agree with this. While I would like my girls to practice safe sex when they do become sexually active, I also better not walk on it either. I believe in knocking, and if you can't not be h*****g by the time I get in there there's gonna be a real problem lol.

Not Kayla 2 kids; Cold Lake, AB, Canada 33172 posts
status 12th Aug
Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:" Is there an age that you'd be ok with? Like would it differ if it was your 14 year old as opposed to your 19 year old?"


I would let them have sleep overs starting at 16.

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60838 posts
12th Aug
Quoting Mara:" so you'd put them on birth control and expect them to have "safe sex" elsewhere? "


Eh, no. I don't know. It's hard to think that far in the future. I do know that sex in my home isn't going to be okay with us. It wasn't okay with my parents, or DH's parents growing up, and we had full respect for their rules.



Personally, I hope they follow in our footsteps and wait until marriage. That is what we will teach them. It is up to them to take that path, but I sure hope they do.

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10431 posts
12th Aug
Quoting Two Princesses:" I also agree with this. While I would like my girls to practice safe sex when they do become sexually ... [snip!] ... either. I believe in knocking, and if you can't not be h*****g by the time I get in there there's gonna be a real problem lol."


LOL definitely. It's just how I was raised. I'm not gonna be like yeah okay my baby girl is upstairs having sex in her room I'm just gonna continue washing my dishes..... awwwwwwwkward.

Not Kayla 2 kids; Cold Lake, AB, Canada 33172 posts
status 12th Aug
Quoting Mara:" so you'd put them on birth control and expect them to have "safe sex" elsewhere? "


Like the department store bathroom... -cough cough-

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10431 posts
12th Aug
Quoting Spacetits:" I would let them have sleep overs starting at 16."


In the same bed?

Oncemore Suq Madiq, SH, Turkey 1454 posts
12th Aug

I wish I could find the video of an actual tribe or culture that practices this. They build actual huts for the teens to have "alone time".



Im sure there are some great pros and some cons.



However if this decision came down to my parents, they would rub scotch bonnet pepper on my vag and tell me thats exactly what sex feels like. My children wouldn't even have the gall to ask.

Hotpocket Due September 27; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Birmingham, Alabama 970 posts
12th Aug

My parents allowed my now husband to spend the night with me but he is the only boy they ever allowed. And we were both 18. I cant see doing it with just any boyfriend at any age less than 18. It never bothered us that my parents were in the house or that they probably knew. We were just excited to be in bed together. lol. Though we were COMPLETELY safe.

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3231 posts
12th Aug

No. I plan on being open and honest with my boys, but giving them permission to have sex under my roof? With their younger siblings around? No way. Ideally, I will be able to give them enough information, and they'll have enough self-control and respect for the young girls around them, that they'll choose to wait until adulthood.

Not Kayla 2 kids; Cold Lake, AB, Canada 33172 posts
status 12th Aug
Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:" In the same bed?"


Well, I don't have any spare beds. Just because they share a bed doesn't mean they're having sex. I don't have sex with my husband every night, and I sure as hell didn't when he was living with me at 16.

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10431 posts
12th Aug
Quoting homes cool:" Eh, no. I don't know. It's hard to think that far in the future. I do know that sex in my home isn't ... [snip!] ... and wait until marriage. That is what we will teach them. It is up to them to take that path, but I sure hope they do."


Shit it wasn't ok with my parents and I got pregnant at 14, 16 and 17 lol :(



I hope DD does this as well but I doubt it... not in this day and age. It's unfortunate.

Samantha ~ 18 weeks Due September 14; 1 child; Rhode Island 4868 posts
12th Aug

I agree with Mara. My mom let my boyfriend sleepover but set boundaries and I never had a pregnancy scare or anything like that. I didn't get pregnant until me and my boyfriend had been living in our own apartment for well over a year.