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Cast Your Vote:

    • never ever. i'd burn off their genitals first! -- Votes: 63
    • really? that's an option? -- Votes: 29
    • perhaps, i don't know yet - i don't have a teenager -- Votes: 84
    • i've already stocked condoms & plan b in their nightstand -- Votes: 19
    • sex is for bonobos & porn stars, of which my teenager is neither -- Votes: 6
Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38964 posts
20th Aug '13

wow.



thanks for all the thoughtful responses on every side of the possible spectrum, it's very revealing how varied people's responses and experiences are.



i'm not sure - even still, how i feel about it all.



i think it'll be touch and go, see where my kids are, who they're dating, how they're behaving in life in general, before making this call.



lots of food for thought.



i may have to reference this in 10 - 12 years. here's hoping BG's still around and my account still functions!

Mrs. Potato Dick Madagascar 20356 posts
29th Aug '13

I hate missing out on interesting threads :evil:

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27068 posts
status 29th Aug '13
Quoting Sexy Rexy:" . At 16 I was allowed to have my high school sweetheart sleepover in a different room. I think at 18 ... [snip!] ... so level-headed and responsible. As long as my daughter has a similar maturity level, I believe I will take the same approach."


My parents let me drink too. I never lost it, never went in a car with a drunk driver and if I needed a ride they gave it to me. I plan to do the same to Lily.



Call me a bad parent but I let my 9 year old have a sip of wine. She hated it, lol.

Mrs. Potato Dick Madagascar 20356 posts
29th Aug '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" My parents let me drink too. I never lost it, never went in a car with a drunk driver and if I needed ... [snip!] ... it to me. I plan to do the same to Lily. Call me a bad parent but I let my 9 year old have a sip of wine. She hated it, lol. "


I did the same thing for my 7 year old. My son was like "WHY DO YOU LIKE THAT?! IT'S SO GROSS!" Maybe it'll keep him away from booze for a few extra years. lol.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27068 posts
status 29th Aug '13
Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:" I did the same thing for my 7 year old. My son was like "WHY DO YOU LIKE THAT?! IT'S SO GROSS!" Maybe it'll keep him away from booze for a few extra years. lol."


Thats what I'm thinking too, lol. My nephew tried a sip of wine and Lily asked about how it tasted so I let her taste. She hated it. So now she knows she doesnt like it and won't feel pressured to try it with friends. I have no issue with it!!



21 is an asinine age to drink anyways.

Bangarang 10 kids; Muthafuckin, GA, United States 26624 posts
29th Aug '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" My parents let me drink too. I never lost it, never went in a car with a drunk driver and if I needed ... [snip!] ... it to me. I plan to do the same to Lily. Call me a bad parent but I let my 9 year old have a sip of wine. She hated it, lol. "


My stepmom started giving me sips of her drinks when I was like 12 or 13. I thought it was gross. I didn't drink until I was 18-19 in college and even then it was just Smirnoff Ice :lol: I never got into drinking until I was almost 21. Ha, I finally discovered liquor and got knocked up like three months later. I blame vodka.

Mrs. Potato Dick Madagascar 20356 posts
29th Aug '13
Quoting Gubler:" My stepmom started giving me sips of her drinks when I was like 12 or 13. I thought it was gross. I ... [snip!] ... into drinking until I was almost 21. Ha, I finally discovered liquor and got knocked up like three months later. I blame vodka."


I blame Soundgarden and Japanese booze from the 7-eleven.

Inc0gnitus 2 kids; Anchorage, Alaska 4325 posts
29th Aug '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" My parents let me drink too. I never lost it, never went in a car with a drunk driver and if I needed ... [snip!] ... it to me. I plan to do the same to Lily. Call me a bad parent but I let my 9 year old have a sip of wine. She hated it, lol. "

My mom tried that and it kinda backfired, my older siblings hated it but my brother and I loved it. She would buy white zinfandel for herself and my brother and I were constantly stealing some. My brother has had issues with alcoholism since he was 14.



I honestly think that kids are just individuals and the majority of what we do to raise them can't quantified into statistics for how they will act or what they will do.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27068 posts
status 30th Aug '13
Quoting Inc0gnitus:" My mom tried that and it kinda backfired, my older siblings hated it but my brother and I loved it. She ... [snip!] ... and the majority of what we do to raise them can't quantified into statistics for how they will act or what they will do."


I liked the alcohol my Mom let me try... I remember having beers and mixed drinks from a young age but it made it where I never went crazy. My Dad is an alcoholic too so I never went crazy because I know I am predisposed to it. Sorry about your brother though :(

Inc0gnitus 2 kids; Anchorage, Alaska 4325 posts
30th Aug '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" I liked the alcohol my Mom let me try... I remember having beers and mixed drinks from a young age but ... [snip!] ... My Dad is an alcoholic too so I never went crazy because I know I am predisposed to it. Sorry about your brother though :("

I loved having alcoholic beverages lol. I never went down the road to addiction though, I guess I just got lucky and don't have an addictive personality? It's okay, he denies having issues with it, but we all know he does. I think he knows on some level because sometimes (as in once or twice a year) he will try to go for a week without alcohol and will tell everyone, like he's super proud of it. But then he gets right back to drinking 5-6 nights a week. He isn't a belligerent drunk by any means, right now he's in that grey area where he's a functional alcoholic. We all just hope he never gets to that point where he hits rock bottom even though it has caused him a lot of painful decisions.

Monica♥YASDYARDFR 17 kids; Beverly Hills, California 57063 posts
31st Aug '13

I have seen people who allowed this and their teen still ended up pregnant. I don't think opening up their bedroom is going to make the difference in safe sex or not. My first boyfriend and I snuck around but we still used protection. My Dad would've killed me had he known and my mom was pissed when I told her I last my virginity. It still didn't push me to behave in risky sexual situations. I think it really comes down to the teen and their personality and level of responsibility. I had a friend in junior high who had her mother rent a hotel room for her to her lose her virginity. Her mom wanted it to be special...

Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38964 posts
1st Sep '13
Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:" I did the same thing for my 7 year old. My son was like "WHY DO YOU LIKE THAT?! IT'S SO GROSS!" Maybe it'll keep him away from booze for a few extra years. lol."


i let max try alcohol, he can't even drink it b/c the smell hits him first.



he says it's all "for adults."



he also thinks that only guys get drunk.