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father's rights Kate (Grace's Mom) 1 child; Pensacola, Florida 97 posts
14th Aug

So I really just wanted some feedback and advice here. My ex and I broke up a year ago when our LO was a year and a half. Since then he has only seen her a handful of times and barely pays any child support. He has never had her overnight or even without my presence due to my lack of trust (he had severe alcohol issues). He recently moved to the opposite end of the state and is asking for her social security number. He has admitted to me that he wants it for veterans affair benefits. I don't feel comfortable with him having her information in order to benefit himself unless it is going to help him pay child support, but even then I don't think is right because he is being required to be paid much less in comparison to the actual cost of raising her. I know he could obtain a copy himself if he really wanted to so am I required to give him this information? I am concerned he will try to use it to benefit himself in other ways as well.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15213 posts
14th Aug

I would not give it to him. He would only be entitled to the benefits if HE had custody of her.



Now YOU need to go to court, file for custody, and child support.

Vicki McDonald Due September 28; 3 kids; Belleville, Ontario 927 posts
14th Aug
Quoting Red Bottom:" I would not give it to him. He would only be entitled to the benefits if HE had custody of her. Now YOU need to go to court, file for custody, and child support."


Agree!

BαtMαɳ Secret Bat Cave, CA, United States 53688 posts
status 14th Aug

Technically he is allowed access to that information since you don't have any sort of agreement written up in court.



Even with that being said, I wouldn't give it to him. If he really wants it that bad he can do the leg work to get it. I agree with RB, definitely go to court and get a custody agreement drawn up.

TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 22821 posts
15th Aug
Quoting Kate (Grace's Mom):" So I really just wanted some feedback and advice here. My ex and I broke up a year ago when our LO was ... [snip!] ... so am I required to give him this information? I am concerned he will try to use it to benefit himself in other ways as well. "


Don't be dumb. Make everything official under the law.