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Purposely having kids that will potentially die.. I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
15th Aug '13

If you know of a family that has 3+ kids within a few years, one or more of which have continuing debilitating medical issues, that MAY be hereditary (the parents have not been tested) would you think it was "selfish" or "wrong" for them to have more children? How about if they test negative as being carriers. How about if the child is struggling and that attention would be very
Beneficial to the child?




Not for me, my sons is not hereditary

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
15th Aug '13

I think it's odd and disturbing that someone would continue to have children knowing that they are going to die at a very young age.



Selfish though? I mean... what's really in it for you? You have the joy of birthing a child who dies within years or less?

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
15th Aug '13

Having a child is a selfish choice, generally speaking.



I think if you know for sure that the child will not have the "normal" life because of the inherited issue, then yes.



If the child has a chance of having the inherited issue, then no.



You take a gamble with a child having debilitating medical issues every time you have sex. Having a genetic makeup that increases the chances is unfair but if it's not a guaranteed outcome, then you just take your chances.

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
15th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dovahkiin:</b>" I think it's odd and disturbing that someone would continue to have children knowing that they are going to die at a very young age."</blockquote>




I didn't say at what age they would die, just that they would have continuing debilitating medical issues that could cause death

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
15th Aug '13
Quoting I Stab People:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dovahkiin:</b>" I think it's odd and disturbing that someone ... [snip!] ... didn't say at what age they would die, just that they would have continuing debilitating medical issues that could cause death"


Oh.



Well then... I don't know. I think it's odd and disturbing, still. I mean why would you CHOOSE to take care of multiple children with debilitating medical issues?

B,K,L,&T! 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Michigan 1094 posts
15th Aug '13

Please don't quote me but I can understand.



Somebody I love had a miscarriage and then got pregnant again. Her baby was born 2 months early with hydrops and passed away a couple months later. He was born with many issues. His organs didn't form properly and started shutting down. He also had some issues I don't feel comfortable talking about.



He passed away less than 6 months ago and they are already trying again. I don't feel like it's mine or anybody's place to judge. I don't know what that's like- I didn't go through it. I do constantly worry though.



& they both were tested and was found to have no genetic abnormalities with either of them that would have caused this.

Mitchell.family.of.5 TTC since Aug 2013; 35 kids; Tennessee 910 posts
15th Aug '13

I think it is a choice for the parents. Who cares as long as they are doing all they can do to give their children the best lives they can no matter how long they live.

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
15th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Levi's momma♥[TTC]:</b>" Please don't quote me ."</blockquote>




But they got tested. They did the responsible thing.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
15th Aug '13
Quoting Levi's momma♥[TTC]:" Please don't quote me but I can understand. Somebody I love had a miscarriage and then got pregnant ... [snip!] ... & they both were tested and was found to have no genetic abnormalities with either of them that would have caused this."


I don't see how that's similar. The child they had that was born without organs was a mutation. Mutations are genetically random. The OP is talking about someone who continually produces children with debilitating medical issues.

B,K,L,&T! 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Michigan 1094 posts
15th Aug '13
Quoting Dovahkiin:" I don't see how that's similar. The child they had that was born without organs was a mutation. Mutations ... [snip!] ... are genetically random. The OP is talking about someone who continually produces children with debilitating medical issues. "


Okay, I misunderstood the question. I thought she meant had the possibility to continually produce children with medical issues. Not actually doing so.

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11738 posts
15th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Levi's momma♥[TTC]:</b>"



Prayers for a healthy baby for them.



I can't imagine how painful that would be to go through

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
15th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dovahkiin:</b>" I don't see how that's similar. The child they had that was born without organs was a mutation. Mutations ... [snip!] ... are genetically random. The OP is talking about someone who continually produces children with debilitating medical issues. "</blockquote>




Yep this. This is multiple children, less than a year between pregnancies. With a potentially fatal and probably hereditary disorder that at least 1 has tested positive for, and they've had multiple children after that and want more

Mitchell.family.of.5 TTC since Aug 2013; 35 kids; Tennessee 910 posts
15th Aug '13
Quoting Dovahkiin:" I don't see how that's similar. The child they had that was born without organs was a mutation. Mutations ... [snip!] ... are genetically random. The OP is talking about someone who continually produces children with debilitating medical issues. "


OP stated they have 3+ kids and 1 maybe 2 have issues. Not all their children have issues. Who is to say any other children would have the same problem or be perfectly healthy?

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7116 posts
15th Aug '13

The ones that get me are the ones who have like 2 kids already 1 of which has medical problems that are undiagnosed(they can't find what's causing issues) The oldest one is suffering from mental issues from the issues the youngest is having. The parents turn around and have another baby and that child has medical issues all this while can't afford to pay bills and ask their page for help every time you turn around. :roll: That's where I judge. You can't pay your bills even from the beginning you have kids you can't support you have a sick kid you're always asking for help and gifts for your children..................

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
15th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mitchell.family.of.5:</b>" OP stated they have three kids and 1 maybe 2 have issues. Not all their children have issues. Who is to say any other children would have the same problem or be perfectly healthy?"</blockquote>




Who is to say they wouldn't? Do you understand probability of disorders passing down? Lets say, they were given. 50% chance if it is hereditary, they have been offered to be screened for it but declined, yet had another child