When my daughter was about 3 days old, I had a full-blown change of heart about her name. And by change of heart, I mean that I realized I hated the name and cried about it to anyone who would listen. The name in question: Nora. We'd toyed with a bunch of options throughout my pregnancy and had narrowed it down to Nora and Charlotte. Within minutes of seeing her, we knew that she was not a Charlotte, and so she became Nora Jane.
We loved the name, and all was well until two days later when the cards and gifts started rolling in and I saw it in print: N-O-R-A. The name looked so weird to me. Flat. Strange. Foreign. I don't mean to offend any Noras out there. (In fact, the only Noras I know are totally awesome, which is another reason why I loved the name.) But it sounded off to me, too old-lady, unfeminine. And the more I said it, the odder it became. You know how that happens with a word you say over and over? I honestly felt that I'd made a terrible mistake, but one I couldn't remedy. Or could I?
I called my sisters and asked them if they thought it would be crazy to change her name. "Do you like it? Do you really like it? But do you love it like it or are you just saying that?" They tried to talk me off the ledge (and they both genuinely love loved the name), but I was determined to unravel. The thing is, I have historically been indecisive, so this wasn't all that shocking. I've been known to order something at dinner and then chase down the waiter to switch to a different dish. I hate this about myself, and yet, at 35, I haven't quite kicked the habit. In this case, I didn't have a different, better name I wanted to swap in, though I did consider just calling her Jane. I sound like a crazy person, right? My mind flashed back to my mother's reaction when I was about seven months pregnant and I'd told her that Nick and I loved the name Nora. ("Nora?!" she'd asked, unable to hide her shock.) My father's first impression was equally unsupportive. ("Huh?!" I think he'd said.) I thought of "Nora" the Explorer and cringed.
For a good few days I obsessed over the name and let it cloud my otherwise very happy postbirth mood. I remember sitting in the parking lot of my son's preschool crying tears of regret while my husband ran in to get Alex. One of the other moms came by, and I quickly dried my face. "Didn't you just have a baby?" she asked incredulously. "Yup," I said. "Three days ago, but I feel great and I wanted to get out." I'm sure she saw my red eyes and thought I was in some postpartum freak-out when it was actually just the typical panic-inducing second-guessing that I subject myself to from time to time. My poor husband, who has to endure my second-guessing shenanigans more often than he'd like, humored me for about a minute; then he told me that he loved the name and it was a great name and I needed to get over myself
I can relate, but I'm a year pp and still regret dd#2's name.
I hated my daughter's name from the time we left the hospital. When she was 3 and started preschool she told me it was a boy's name and she wanted a princess name. I started looking at names and two months later she picked Evangeline and we've never looked back. She's now almost 6 and we have one more piece of paper to file and one more fee to pay and it will finally be legal.
I started having doubts near the end of my pregnancy and after. Asking DH all the time "are we SURE we like this?" But I'm happy now and it suits DD.
<blockquote><b>Quoting The Bear and The Bird:</b>" I hated my daughter's name from the time we left the hospital. When she was 3 and started preschool she ... [snip!] ... back. She's now almost 6 and we have one more piece of paper to file and one more fee to pay and it will finally be legal."</blockquote>
Aww, I love Evangeline.
What was her birth name?
I started to dislike my son's name maybe a week after he was born.. for a few weeks actually.. but everyone knew him by his name and SO loved it.. so it stayed, and I think it fits him well now lol glad I didn't change it.
I didn't pick my older sons name, he ended a jr by default because we couldn't agree on anything before we left the hospital. It took me several months to refer to him by a name other than the baby and even then it's been a nickname. 12yrs later it's still seldom that I call him by his given name, despite him going by it at school and to friends. I just can't call him that. I toyed with the idea of changing it to his nickname and spelling it like Indian name that is phonetically the same but decided I'd leave that up to him.
I still don't find myself using Scarlytt's name :( I feel bad cause she doesn't respond to her name but rather moo moo. SO keeps trying to use it but it doesn't sound right to me. Maybe once she's a beautiful young lady it will fit her better, I can only hope.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Van D:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Bear and The Bird:</b>" I hated my daughter's name from ... [snip!] ... and one more fee to pay and it will finally be legal."</blockquote> Aww, I love Evangeline. What was her birth name?"</blockquote>
Jayden. Blegh. All her kindy stuff says Jayden and we hate it.
<blockquote><b>Quoting The Bear and The Bird:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Van D:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Bear ... [snip!] ... love Evangeline. What was her birth name?"</blockquote> Jayden. Blegh. All her kindy stuff says Jayden and we hate it."</blockquote>
Oh, she made a good choice!
I just dislike any -ayden/-aiden name.
Almost 15yrs later I still am in love with my daughters name.
With my baby I named him Lucas fully intending to call him Luke but now I don't call him that at all, he's not a Luke.
Absolutely. I do love my sons name, its just not him. It's more of a name crush and not a name I am in love with, you know? He goes by his middle, which I don't like any more then his first but it fits him to a T.
I didn't make the mistake with my daughter and I won't with future children, that's why I will always wait until I see them and DH is not to fill out any paperwork. :lol:
I love my oldest daughter's name still, but I regret the way we spelled it. Her name is "Baileigh" ( Bailey). She will be 6 years old on the 29th of this month and I am really sorry that we went the trendeigh route :(
We want to re-name my son. He is a junior but we have always called him Quincy, instead of Quinton (my husband). We actually do plan on legally changing it one day. I love my daughter's name though.
Quoting The Bear and The Bird:" I hated my daughter's name from the time we left the hospital. When she was 3 and started preschool she ... [snip!] ... back. She's now almost 6 and we have one more piece of paper to file and one more fee to pay and it will finally be legal."
Is it super pricey? DH looked into it and said it was a lot of work, but I still really want to do it.