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Destinite TTC since May 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Florida 30892 posts
17th Aug

The lesson to learn? Don't f**k someone unless you wouldn't mind having a child with them. I bet that'd weed out a lot of sexual partners. :-)
Besides, if you were able to go back and change your baby's daddy, the kid wouldn't be the same kid.

Lumen.Ash Due November 23; 1 child; Denver, Colorado 1272 posts
17th Aug

I would never change my sons father because then he wouldn't be the kid I know and love.

However, if I could go back and change anything I would leave his father much sooner than I actually did.

C'est la vie 3 kids; Johnson City, New York 16524 posts
status 17th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:</b>" I wish women would rethink who they get pregnant with BEFORE it happens. I would NEVER change mine. ... [snip!] ... would NEVER change mine. But then again, I knew him well enough to know before hand that he would be the best dad in the world."</blockquote>




!! I agree. I knew my husband would be am awesome daddy when the time came.

Manda♥Bella 1 child; Midland, WA, Australia 29288 posts
17th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Destinite:</b>" The lesson to learn? Don't f**k someone unless you wouldn't mind having a child with them. I bet that'd ... [snip!] ... of sexual partners. :-) Besides, if you were able to go back and change your baby's daddy, the kid wouldn't be the same kid."</blockquote>



And those of us who didn't choose to have sex with our children's fathers?

Interrobang!? 6 kids; Ontario 1176 posts
17th Aug

Nope, I made sure he was the right person for me and for our future children before I even slept with him, let alone got pregnant.



Lie down with dogs and you wake up with fleas. Women need to be a little bit more selective with their "baby daddies." I know that's not fair but we have the biological burden of bearing and usually of raising children if we're left alone, so the burden is also on us to be selective with who we choose to father them.



My parents divorced, I'm sure my mother would say she wished she hadn't had me with my father, but whatever. He was the one who got shafted in the deal and he was the one who raised me for the most part, so I guess sometimes men do need to be selective too.

Destinite TTC since May 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Florida 30892 posts
17th Aug
Quoting Manda♥Bella:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Destinite:</b>" The lesson to learn? Don't f**k someone unless ... [snip!] ... kid wouldn't be the same kid."</blockquote> And those of us who didn't choose to have sex with our children's fathers?"


That's a whole different topic. Clearly, this wouldn't apply.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
18th Aug
Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" I wish women would rethink who they get pregnant with BEFORE it happens. I would NEVER change mine. ... [snip!] ... would NEVER change mine. But then again, I knew him well enough to know before hand that he would be the best dad in the world."


Ehh. People change. For all you know, her baby's father was great with children, therefor she thought he'd be a great father. Then the kid was born & he wasn't all that great with his own children.



OP, I can't say anything about your friend's status because I don't know her situation. However, I personally would not change a thing. DH and I were both 17 when we had DD and I think them two were the biggest blessings of my life. Without them, I would not be where I'm at right now.

yo moyo 1 child; Ishim, Russian Federation 1335 posts
18th Aug
Quoting Black Dynamite:" She's not saying she wishes she had different children. Just a different father to them. I can understand ... [snip!] ... can understand what she's saying. I think you might be looking into it too much. That being said, I wouldn't change anything."


Yeah, that's how I see it. And yeah I've thought that a few times. but life is what it is I suppose, and I don't obsess over it lol.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26141 posts
19th Aug
Quoting Mrs. Feliz.:" Stemming from a Facebook post. One of my friends posted 'I would never regret my daughters, but if i ... [snip!] ... the same children if she had a different BD. if you could go back into time, would you change anything? I wouldn't. Not at all."


The only thing I'd change is telling him that I was pregnant. I'd never tell him I was pregnant and would act like I didnt know who the father was.