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Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14359 posts
17th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting TG3:</b>" We have a celebrity here in Australia that's attempting IVF at 75 ... personally I think over 40 is selfish."</blockquote>



Having kids is selfish. But which is more selfish? To have a child before completing your education/career experience and owning a home and being financially comfortable, able to afford a child's college education, not to mention the wisdom that comes with life experience? Or having all those things at 40 and healthy? It's a trade off. I'm certainly not advocating one over the other for anyone else, but the older you are the more you begin to value those things. The use of donor eggs biases my opinion quite a bit though.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
status 17th Aug
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" <blockquote><b>Quoting TG3:</b>" We have a celebrity here in Australia that's attempting ... [snip!] ... but the older you are the more you begin to value those things. The use of donor eggs biases my opinion quite a bit though."


I couldn't do it at 40 ... I have plans for my retirement and later life which most other people probably think is selfish. The idea of having a 15 year old at home when I'm old enough to go into a retirement village isn't my sort of thing. Then again I was never all that bothered about having kids ... I did it because SO wanted them and even though I don't regret it now I don't think I would have been all that bothered if it had never happened.



Now in my opinion these women having kids at 50/60/70+ with donor eggs and sperm with IVF is selfish. I mean seriously could you imagine having to physically take care of your 80 year old mother at the age of 10?

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14359 posts
17th Aug
Quoting TG3:" I couldn't do it at 40 ... I have plans for my retirement and later life which most other people probably ... [snip!] ... IVF is selfish. I mean seriously could you imagine having to physically take care of your 80 year old mother at the age of 10?"


I'm going to have to agree with you there. I think 49 is really pushing it, although who knows what I'll think when I'm that age. If you'd have told me at age 20 I would be having a kid at age 40 I'd call you a liar. But beyond 50 I'm certain that's just too much. Even the healthiest of people can only live for so long.

Minion Due September 30; 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 19965 posts
17th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amelia Margaret:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting TG3:</b>" We have a celebrity here in Australia that's attempting ... [snip!] ... but the older you are the more you begin to value those things. The use of donor eggs biases my opinion quite a bit though."</blockquote>



OT, but you look nowhere near 39!!

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14359 posts
17th Aug
Quoting Minion:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Amelia Margaret:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting TG3:</b>" ... [snip!] ... things. The use of donor eggs biases my opinion quite a bit though."</blockquote> OT, but you look nowhere near 39!!"


Awww thank you! People are starting to do a double take on my age now. I'm fine with that. :)

Minion Due September 30; 2 kids; Toccoa, GA, United States 19965 posts
17th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amelia Margaret:</b>" Awww thank you! People are starting to do a double take on my age now. I'm fine with that. :)"</blockquote>




If that's you in your avi you look like mid-20s, no lie.

The Time Police TTC since Apr 2014; 1 angel baby; Cold Lake, AB, Canada 33303 posts
17th Aug

I do not want kids beyond 30, personally. Though, now at 22 I am done.

Secret Service Texas 723 posts
17th Aug

Im 23 and now I feel like time is running out fast

What if... 2 kids; Ontario 4587 posts
17th Aug
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" We wanted to have kids at 35 but it didn't work out that way. If you were still TTC at 40 you might feel differently."


I think having a baby at 40 is fine! you'll have a teenager in your 50's, and they'll be off doing their on thing for themselves while you enjoy your 60's. that isn't too bad at all! I hope everything works out for you

DisneyMommy 34 kids; Florida 6301 posts
17th Aug

Whenever you feel you are too old, or menopause.



My So is 40 and I am 33, and I should be 9 weeks pregnant, if I had not lost the baby. My first Husband had a Grandchild a year apart from our son,



30's and 40's really is not old, it may seem old to a teenager or early 20 something, but it really is not. Plenty of older people are more active than younger ones.
Having a finished education, financial stability, job skills and experience, relationship skills and experience, and life experience is a good thing when it comes to having kids.

Destinite TTC since May 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Florida 30828 posts
17th Aug

It depends, but I'd say by 40.

♛Queen Boo♛ 2 kids; United Kingdom 2526 posts
17th Aug

Before 40.
To me it's really not about heading into retirement age and having a teenager.

Interrobang!? 6 kids; Ontario 1176 posts
17th Aug

40-45 for me. I'll probably be done long before then but who knows, maybe we'll have that later-in-life itch for just one more and assuming DH and I are both healthy, I don't see why not. We'd have a more medicalised pregnancy though, tests and all.



For others, I don't care what they do. With lifespans (in Canada at least) getting longer and longer, it makes sense that the upper socially acceptable age for having young children should go along with it.

Secret Service Texas 723 posts
17th Aug

im starting to get a little more hope now lol thank you all

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
17th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Secret Service:</b>" 30 but I might need to change my opinion."</blockquote>



:?



You do realize that even WAY back when, a woman at thirty was still considered of suitable child bearing age-wise...right?