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what would you do user banned
18th Aug '13

my DH wants to take the kids to his mothers house but i find his stepdad to be a threat to our children because he smokes around them i have put my foot down about this in the past but he obviously isnt going to listen if he is taking them there.



what would you do in this situation

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7116 posts
18th Aug '13

Tell him that you'll go too and there's NO SMOKING around the kids.

user banned Japan 155 posts
18th Aug '13
Quoting penispenispenisVAGINA:" Tell him that you'll go too and there's NO SMOKING around the kids. "


that just isnt an option because I am not welcomed there and I will be at work any how. it is incredibly frustrating

Laura [Syltherin] 3 kids; Florida 12072 posts
18th Aug '13

Its his house, he can do what he wants even if that means smoking around your kids. With that being said, you don't have to take them over there. You can't tell someone else what you expect from them when you are in their house.

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
18th Aug '13

If you're not welcome there, I guess I would work on a compromise where they can meet his family in a public OPEN space, and that you expect him, as the father of his children to look out for their well being and make sure they're not exposed to any smoke. At least in an open space they won't be stuck inside a house with a smoker.



But honestly, I don't know how good of a suggestion that is. :/ sorry.

user banned Japan 155 posts
18th Aug '13
Quoting Laura [Syltherin]:" Its his house, he can do what he wants even if that means smoking around your kids. With that being said, ... [snip!] ... you don't have to take them over there. You can't tell someone else what you expect from them when you are in their house."


your right. which is why i dont want my kids over there at all.

user banned Japan 155 posts
18th Aug '13
Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:" If you're not welcome there, I guess I would work on a compromise where they can meet his family in a ... [snip!] ... they won't be stuck inside a house with a smoker. But honestly, I don't know how good of a suggestion that is. :/ sorry."


:cry: suggested this before in the past then his mom has a tantrum and they dont talk for months.

user banned Japan 155 posts
18th Aug '13

its a loose loose situation

Laura [Syltherin] 3 kids; Florida 12072 posts
18th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Panda!B*tches:</b>" your right. which is why i dont want my kids over there at all. "</blockquote>




Have you suggested them coming to your house?

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
18th Aug '13
Quoting Panda!B*tches:" :cry: suggested this before in the past then his mom has a tantrum and they dont talk for months. "


Then tough shit for them. I was going to add that DH would probably stop seeing my in laws if I wasn't welcome in their place. If your in-laws want to see their grand-kids they will find a way to see them and not act like spoiled brats, and if they don't find a way then I wouldn't want my kids around them....My FIL is a heavy heavy smoker, and he goes out if his way to make sure the kids are not exposed to the smoke. DH expects that from him and would stop visiting them if FIL didn't do that for the kids.



It's a pretty crappy situation you're in :(

username1 1 child; Chicopee, MA, United States 30921 posts
18th Aug '13

i think you should roll your eyes at him

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
18th Aug '13

Rolll your eyes at him!!! :)




So just asking, how is spanking your child for having a natural human emotion okay, but smoking around her isn't? I think your spanking her for letting you know how she's feeling is more detrimental to her.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27906 posts
18th Aug '13

Why aren't you allowed over there?

user banned Japan 155 posts
18th Aug '13
Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:" Rolll your eyes at him!!! :) So just asking, how is spanking your child for having a natural human ... [snip!] ... but smoking around her isn't? I think your spanking her for letting you know how she's feeling is more detrimental to her."


If you would like you can smoke around your children. it isn't allowed around mine.
and i will spank her when i deem necessary seeing as i am the mother. spank or dont spank your kids idgf

user banned Japan 155 posts
18th Aug '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" Why aren't you allowed over there?"



we got into a big fight how i dont want him in my house because he lights up inside my home. so in return he said i wasnt welcomed in his.