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I dont want to break up but... Secret Service Texas 739 posts
18th Aug '13

I cant forgive my SO for cheating. I'm stuck between not being able to forgive him and not wanting to leave. With everything that's going on this is really hard.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
18th Aug '13

I couldn't either.

.Mummy. 2 kids; Vancouver, WA, United States 165 posts
18th Aug '13

Cheating is a deal breaker for me. You don't deserve that.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
18th Aug '13

Been there done that. Finding out my dh had contacted a prostitute was actually my breaking point. He showed no remorse for it. And even though I tried to move on I couldn't.

Secret Service Texas 739 posts
18th Aug '13

I feel destroyed but Ill miss him so much. I wish I wasnt so attached to him

Secret Service Texas 739 posts
18th Aug '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" Been there done that. Finding out my dh had contacted a prostitute was actually my breaking point. He showed no remorse for it. And even though I tried to move on I couldn't."


How long did you try for? Did he ever give any reasons for going out of his way to have sex? How did you finally end it?

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
18th Aug '13

I can imagine that being very hard. Your trust is completely demolished. You will constantly live in fear that he is doing it again, which is not something I'd ever want to think. I'm sorry. There might not be a way to overcome from this. It depends on the couple and how much work they want to make it work. I wish the best for ya, hon.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
18th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Secret Service:</b>" How long did you try for? Did he ever give any reasons for going out of his way to have sex? How did you finally end it?"</blockquote>




I tried for months. He said he was mad and wasn't happy with our sex life. And I told him I wanted a divorce he flipped attacked me called the cops and said I attacked him then he left never came back and stole all our savings and filed for a divorce and custody of our boys. So yeah. Its a mess right now. I'm hoping they can sepena his text messages for court to show where he had contacted a prostitute. I already got my medical records from where he was physically abusive ehile I was pregnant and the police report where he admitted to taking all of our savings. Did I mention he hasn't bothered to try and see or call to talk to yhe kids. I was bringing the kids to see him every few days at his office but he filed a restraining order even though I never even said anything to him but once when I was there. I had to tell the kids today when they asked to see them that he had the police say I can go there anymore. Its heartbreaking for them. I am ready for court so they can tear him a new one.

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 7099 posts
status 18th Aug '13

As hard as it is, I know leaving would be easier than forgiving his cheating. I would never be able to feel safe and secure being with a man who cheated on me. Especially the way he did. On your birthday with a teenager.



If you can't forgive him, you need to move on. There are other men out there. Ones who do not cheat. You can find one, I promise.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
18th Aug '13

Oh and for the record all I said to him that one time was he needed to give me half the savings.

user banned Due December 20; Georgia 1823 posts
18th Aug '13

I couldn't either. Honestly, if you don't think you can forgive him then you need to break up for your own well being.

. , ., VA, United States 74456 posts
18th Aug '13

He cheated on you with a 14 year old? And you're seriously contemplating staying with him? This shouldn't even be a question imo. You have to make the choice to value yourself more than that, even if you are "attracted" to him. There are plenty of other people in the world you could be attracted to.

Secret Service Texas 739 posts
18th Aug '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Secret Service:</b>" How long did you try for? Did he ever ... [snip!] ... he had the police say I can go there anymore. Its heartbreaking for them. I am ready for court so they can tear him a new one."


wow in this case Im glad you left his ass

Secret Service Texas 739 posts
18th Aug '13
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Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 7099 posts
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