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batmamae Due July 21; Fort Rucker, Al, United States 7559 posts
21st Aug
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" I'm not sure how it is manipulating. Joint legal custody is very, very common as it ensures that both ... [snip!] ... with the major decisions related to the children. If you didn't agree to it, the courts probably would have ordered it."


Well my ex is actually kind of a deadbeat and a pathological liar. He was fighting me against child support and told me there were a lot of things he would and wouldn't do if I decided to go for joint custody. So I agreed and now he's still trying to f**k me over and make me pay his bills and so on. It's a long story. He just wants to be in control. He doesn't even see the kids half the time for his visitation days either. He's just full of crap and a control freak.

speaktruth2powr 2 kids; Ontario 45005 posts
status 21st Aug
Quoting batmamae:" Well my ex is actually kind of a deadbeat and a pathological liar. He was fighting me against child ... [snip!] ... control. He doesn't even see the kids half the time for his visitation days either. He's just full of crap and a control freak."


He can't make you pay his bills, and joint legal custody doesn't negate child support.

batmamae Due July 21; Fort Rucker, Al, United States 7559 posts
21st Aug
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" He can't make you pay his bills, and joint legal custody doesn't negate child support."


Well it apparently does in Illinois according to my attorney.
And he lied and claimed that I opened accounts in his name and that I need to pay them. Just a bunch of crap. We're dealing with it and have been for months. But he truly does want to fight on everything, he doesn't want any responsibility financially.

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
21st Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting batmamae:</b>" Well it apparently does in Illinois according to my attorney. And he lied and claimed that I opened ... [snip!] ... it and have been for months. But he truly does want to fight on everything, he doesn't want any responsibility financially."</blockquote>




Are you sure you aren't mixing it up with joint PHYSICAL custody?

speaktruth2powr 2 kids; Ontario 45005 posts
status 21st Aug
Quoting batmamae:" Well it apparently does in Illinois according to my attorney. And he lied and claimed that I opened ... [snip!] ... it and have been for months. But he truly does want to fight on everything, he doesn't want any responsibility financially."


I think he is confused with joint physical custody.

batmamae Due July 21; Fort Rucker, Al, United States 7559 posts
21st Aug
Quoting *Mayhem*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting batmamae:</b>" Well it apparently does in Illinois according ... [snip!] ... want any responsibility financially."</blockquote> Are you sure you aren't mixing it up with joint PHYSICAL custody?"


Quite honestly I'm not sure. I'll have to go find the paperwork. I don't exactly remember which means which :?

speaktruth2powr 2 kids; Ontario 45005 posts
status 21st Aug
Quoting batmamae:" Quite honestly I'm not sure. I'll have to go find the paperwork. I don't exactly remember which means which :?"


Joint legal custody means that the child lives primarily with one parent and visits the other, the parent with visitation is required to pay child support.



Joint physical custody means that the child splits their time between both houses (50/50 or close to it), the only time that a parent would be required to pay child support is if there is a major income discrepancy.

batmamae Due July 21; Fort Rucker, Al, United States 7559 posts
21st Aug
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Joint legal custody means that the child lives primarily with one parent and visits the other, the parent ... [snip!] ... or close to it), the only time that a parent would be required to pay child support is if there is a major income discrepancy."


Ahh thank you. Then we have joint legal custody.

Dean Winchester 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Alaska 16777 posts
21st Aug

my papers say I am the custodial parent and I choose where she lives and goes to school. usually the custodial parent is entitled to that unlessspecifically stated in the paperwork




and my friend who was going through a battle with his ex wife had a temp order where she only had visitation (every other weekend and thurs evening) and he waa considered the temp custodial parent until the court date (which ended up taking almost 2 yrs) and he chose where the kids resided and went to school. she tried to enroll them in her neighborhood and he had to call and go up there with his temp order and unenroll them then enroll him where he lived. it was a mess and because he didnt know until his oldest (4) was talking about his new school uniform, he ended up starting school 2 days late because of all the mix ups. then he got his temp orders to specifically say they go to hool where he says.




start by calling or going to the school with your temp papers