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Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46581 posts
status 21st Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Always♥Faithful:</b>" I guess I can understand a parent feeling like their child isn't their "baby" anymore after he or she ... [snip!] ... school, that is a choice they will make; otherwise a summer job will be enough, IMO. Sexual activity wouldn't change my view."</blockquote>



Getting their license, yes....getting a car, hell no.



Getting a job to pay for a car is teaching them far more than handing over a car to them.

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4660 posts
21st Aug '13
Quoting eKnuckles:" I understand to a certain extent. If they want to have sex -a very 'adult' thing to do- then they should ... [snip!] ... have some bit of responsibility. But I don't see how that also means the parent should no longer be responsible for their kid."

:!::!: This.



I'm not naive, I know my children are NOT going to come to me when they become sexually active but I do believe that parents also can pretty much tell when something is going on as well. So I guess I wouldn't let my kids know ahead of time. I would just wait till my suspicions were confirmed and then enforce that rule. I'm kinda old fashioned I guess but I plan on having the whole sex talk with my kids and then it's out of my hands what they choose to do. I won't like it and I won't encourage that they go out and have sex. But I can control how I run my house. I agree though that it doesn't mean the responsibility is completely off the parent either. But I would certainly make it known that there are adult things you get to do when you make an adult choice.

Always♥Faithful 2 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 21664 posts
21st Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Always♥Faithful:</b>" I guess I can understand a parent ... [snip!] ... yes....getting a car, hell no. Getting a job to pay for a car is teaching them far more than handing over a car to them."</blockquote>



I never said hand the car over. I said help get the car. My parents bought my car when i got my license and I worked to pay them back.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
21st Aug '13

so is she going to be checking her Hyman on a monthly basis aka 16th Century nobility style?

Mari-C 18 kids; Nebraska 3695 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting Spacetits:" Sweet 16? Getting a kid a car? I must be a bad mom, because my kids aren't getting either of those. ... [snip!] ... to care for them until they are 18. They didn't make an adult decision. They made a normal decision based on human nature."

I agree. If I threaten my kids with not getting them a car or buying their everyday needs, what good is that going to do? I would think it'd make them rebel even more, and start doing other things behind my back.

Iyahna :^P Southern California, CA, United States 13585 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting Spacetits:" Sweet 16? Getting a kid a car? I must be a bad mom, because my kids aren't getting either of those. ... [snip!] ... to care for them until they are 18. They didn't make an adult decision. They made a normal decision based on human nature."

I am the only one out of all my friends that did not get a car at 16.It was rides from school from my mom or the bus lol.I'm still a bit jealous though at the kids that had one.

Iyahna :^P Southern California, CA, United States 13585 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting Spacetits:" My SO was given one from his mom. No way would I do that for my kids... They can get a job and get one ... [snip!] ... 1000$. They'll survive. My neighbour bought his daughter a 2012 Mitsubishi eclipse. It'd be nice to throw money away like that."

Very true.One of the reasons why my parents did not because they said i needed a job to afford the gas and the maintenance.I did not get my first one until i was 18.A crappy 94 honda but it felt good to pay for it out of my own money as crappy as the car was.