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Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38964 posts
21st Aug '13
Quoting Executive Transvestite:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mara:</b>" if he hid it. yep. i'd be all, "PEACE OUT, DUDE." ... [snip!] ... white collar non-violent variety (hacking, practicing medicine w/out a license, etc.). "</blockquote> Mara is alive!! :D"


and i baked cookies!



(no really, i did).



8 months pregnant YO!

user banned 1 child; :), :), United States 5380 posts
21st Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mara:</b>" and i baked cookies! (no really, i did). 8 months pregnant YO!"</blockquote>



Yumm!



Congrats! Hope baby is born happy and healthy!

MomDIA TTC since May 2008; 81 kids; Warminster, Pennsylvania 3812 posts
21st Aug '13

Lol I want cookies. I'm still watching. I also have a cousin who is waiting 3 years for her SO to get out of jail for armed robbery, I guess my biggest issue would be what kind of future could I have with a felon. Would he work? Would I support him? Would he repeat the behavior? Too much for me to deal with I think I'd walk away no matter what

Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38964 posts
21st Aug '13
Quoting MomDIA:" Lol I want cookies. I'm still watching. I also have a cousin who is waiting 3 years for her SO to get ... [snip!] ... he work? Would I support him? Would he repeat the behavior? Too much for me to deal with I think I'd walk away no matter what"


honestly, i don't think i'd be able to respect them the way i need to, to consider it "love".



i'd always be giving the poor guy the side-eye, anyway.



waiting for shit to get stupid or violent or crime-tacular. not my kind of relationship.



i'm not a romantic in that way i guess. love doesn't conquer a criminal background, not for me.

Mummy-2-2-Monsters 2 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 8949 posts
status 21st Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MomDIA:</b>" Lol I want cookies. I'm still watching. I also have a cousin who is waiting 3 years for her SO to get ... [snip!] ... he work? Would I support him? Would he repeat the behavior? Too much for me to deal with I think I'd walk away no matter what"</blockquote>




Well it really all depends on him and what he did, how bad of a crime it was and when he did it.



For hubs it was pretty bad offence. Mil took him in (she's his foster mum) and made him work and change and pay off his dues.. He is a completely different person and now owns his own business and following his dream.



It can happen but it takes effort and support. But you have to be willing to stand by and help if he is willing to change. It's sort of like dealing with an addict in that regard.



But it also depends on the severity of the crime too. (Murder, rape etc etc or just drug dealing, stealing cars, etc etc)

Black Cat 1 child; Fancy, PA, United States 3753 posts
21st Aug '13

Yes. It was for a guy I dated. He didn't tell me. I had to find out on my own.

MomDIA TTC since May 2008; 81 kids; Warminster, Pennsylvania 3812 posts
21st Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mara:</b>" honestly, i don't think i'd be able to respect them the way i need to, to consider it "love". i'd always ... [snip!] ... not my kind of relationship. i'm not a romantic in that way i guess. love doesn't conquer a criminal background, not for me. "</blockquote>




Exactly history repeating itself and leaving yourself to pick up the pieces and deal with the criminal you choose to deal with, support and waste time on.




As far as other ladies yes there are certain circumstances. But my opinion is when it comes to serious offenders, your future can exist with them but not without doubt in them and the potential of having to fully support them, yourself and whatever family you may have.

S & S +1 1 child; 1 angel baby; Saint-Jean-Sur-Richelieu, QC, Canada 369 posts
21st Aug '13
Quoting MomDIA:" If a guy you were dating turned out to have a serious criminal background? Would it change how you feel? Would you leave them? Why or why not?"


I left an ex when he told me he plead guilty to rape, not once but TWICE to 2 different people, both children. My SO has a record but from 15 years ago and he changed a lot so it doesnt bother me.

MomDIA TTC since May 2008; 81 kids; Warminster, Pennsylvania 3812 posts
21st Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting S&S *21 weeks*:</b>" I left an ex when he told me he plead guilty to rape, not once but TWICE to 2 different people, both children. My SO has a record but from 15 years ago and he changed a lot so it doesnt bother me."</blockquote>




Rape is a big red flag. Any type of sex offender I don't think I would give the time of day to be honest.

S & S +1 1 child; 1 angel baby; Saint-Jean-Sur-Richelieu, QC, Canada 369 posts
21st Aug '13

Yep I didnt know til we were already together. A 13 year old girl and an 8 year old boy, plus others who came up to me later saying he raped them but didnt go to the cops. I ran like the wind and moved (he lived in the house next to mine)

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 5691 posts
21st Aug '13

Yep,I would be out. I don't need the potential drama. Someone with a criminal background shows a serious character flaw that I couldn't ignore.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
22nd Aug '13

It depends. I have a "serious" criminal background but that is a result of my actions when I was seriously mentally ill. And 18 years old.



Unless it was a sexual crime against a child such as raping an 11 year old or some shit, not like he was 18 and a chick lied and said she was 16 when she was really 14 - I don't consider that a "sex crime."

Iyahna :^P Southern California, CA, United States 12634 posts
22nd Aug '13

depends.if they were honest from the beginning and changed i dont see a problem.Also depends what their background was like attempted murder or he is a sex offender.