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user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting 04090510:" Smbc?"



Probably single by choice.

Peyton'sMommy♥ 1 child; Springfield, Ohio 16811 posts
22nd Aug '13

I know many people who simply don't want kids, for me I can't understand it but just because I wanted to have kids doesn't mean everyone is. I know a lot more people who SHOULDN'T have kids but do then people who just don't want kids and simply don't have them. I think it's a good thing that they know they don't want children and aren't having kids just because it's what people deem "normal" and you are some "weirdo" for not wanting kids. It's better they have no kids then to bring kids in this world who aren't properly taken care of, hurt/abused, etc because their parents didn't want them.

Belle. { 27 weeks } Due February 14 (boy); 1 child; Alberta 5144 posts
22nd Aug '13

Giving birth and having a child was/is probably the most amazing expeirience of my entire life. Worth more than any vacation or possession. But I never knew it would make me this happy until I had a child, so they don't know what they're missing out on!

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27754 posts
status 22nd Aug '13
Quoting 04090510:" CFBC stands for "childfree by choice". The wikipedia link below goes into more detail about the lifestyle. ... [snip!] ... my perusing online, a vocal minority of CFBC gals are rather antichildren in general, not just as part of their own lives. :\)"


I know a couple. My old high school teacher... though I think shes a closet lesbian despite having a very long term boyfriend before teaching me years ago. I have a friend that DESPISES kids... like she can put up with well behaved ones but really hates them. Shes ALL for the types of debates we have where restaurants turn child free after a certain time, she doesnt like being in places where kids might be, she talks all the time on her facebook about how she wishes parents wouldnt bring their sick kids out and goes on horrid rampages like "I just went to the store and a kid was snivveling and touched the door knob, I had to go to the bathroom and scrub my hands, why cant parents keep their sick spawns home?" She really, really hates kids!

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting Thug Wife:" Giving birth and having a child was/is probably the most amazing expeirience of my entire life. Worth ... [snip!] ... possession. But I never knew it would make me this happy until I had a child, so they don't know what they're missing out on!"


You can't know that just as much as the CFBC woman can't know that you don't know what you're missing out on when she gets to go backpacking across Europ (for example).



People decide not to have children for their own reasons and I highly doubt they would say they're missing out on anything positive, from our standpoint as parents. CFBCers that I've talked to are quite happy they don't have to deal with kids on a 24/7 basis....or raise them.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
22nd Aug '13

not everyone is CFBC for selfish reasons .... my aunt had a stillborn when she was 22 and she was so traumatized by it she just never wanted to go through it again.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
22nd Aug '13

Wow, do we really need an identifiable acronym for that? It seems like a silly thing to give it's own label IMO.

Peyton'sMommy♥ 1 child; Springfield, Ohio 16811 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting The Andromeda Strain:" Wow, do we really need an identifiable acronym for that? It seems like a silly thing to give it's own label IMO. "

Everything needs one now don't ya know?

04090510 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Bapchule, AZ, United States 24595 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" I know a couple. My old high school teacher... though I think shes a closet lesbian despite having ... [snip!] ... I had to go to the bathroom and scrub my hands, why cant parents keep their sick spawns home?" She really, really hates kids!"


The restaurant thing brings to mind what a lot of others in the CFBC community have said: they wish movie theaters didn't allow children, and that all restaurants would ban them. I had an experience with the latter several months ago. We'd gone out to eat and wanted breakfast/diner food so we went to Denny's. Admittedly we went too late so my kids were acting up and making a general fuss. The way the restaurant was set up, we were seated at this ginormous booth and on the other side of the wall at a table were about 5 grown adults just finishing up dinner and BSing before they needed to pay and leave. The kids were being wild (I'm pretty sure due to tiredness); we tried our best to calm them down -and yes, we should've just left-and eventually my DH decided the kids had been going crazy for long enough and said he'd take them out to our van while I finished the rest of my food. A couple minutes after he'd gone outside with them, the group on the other side of the wall from us paid and got up to leave and as they were walking away, the man of the group glared at me and said, "Thanks for that." Man I was stunned. Sure my kids were being bratty and having a tantrum (they were 3 and 2 at the time) but IT WAS AT DENNY'S. A FAMILY RESTAURANT. Did he really think he was out to dinner with his buddies at a fucking fancy 5-star sushi place?



So yeah, I'm a bit biased when it comes to the restaurant aspect. Movie theaters I get because one should NOT be bringing their infant to a rated-R movie with cursing and nudity, nor should they go to a PG13 film. I vote for PG and under, especially when it's a movie for small children, something like Despicable Me or Toy Story. I also can get behind the idea that, if a restaurant serves alcohol, children should not be allowed to be there say... after 8:00PM. Hell, even a religious center--if one's child is going loco because s/he needs the boob or had a poo or a needs a nap or whatever, services should not be interrupted. Ya gotta remove yourself and your child so as not to disrupt other people worshiping. But if someone is going to be vocal about too many kids at a zoo or a park or THE MALL for crying out loud, no. The dissenter needs to GTFO.

04090510 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Bapchule, AZ, United States 24595 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting The Andromeda Strain:" Wow, do we really need an identifiable acronym for that? It seems like a silly thing to give it's own label IMO. "

It's kinda nutty, for sure.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting 04090510:" It's kinda nutty, for sure."


It's like...everyone needs to explain their stance on everything and take a stand or make an opinion.



Who cares if or why a lady doesn't have kids? Do we really need to mark it as a movement "Omg these women don't have children but it's because they DON'T PLAN TO."



That's not really directed at you, I'm just kind of like "wut" at this whole thread. Haha.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting 04090510:" The restaurant thing brings to mind what a lot of others in the CFBC community have said: they wish ... [snip!] ... is going to be vocal about too many kids at a zoo or a park or THE MALL for crying out loud, no. The dissenter needs to GTFO."


I agree with all of this, actually. Like, to a T.



I'm not religious but when I was a church-goer, I always thought it was rude to let a child cry during service, especially considering that most places make reasonable accommodations for that sort of thing. The church I went to even had baby sitting where the women would do rotations to help everyone out. There was a tv hookup so they could watch the service.



I can't think of why I'd NEED to have my child at a restaurant at 8pm or later.

jo-jo 2 kids; ..., SA, Australia 2310 posts
22nd Aug '13

One of my very close girlfriends and her husband have no children, they are fantastic with kids have several godchildren and would definitely make awesome parents. They enjoy looking after family and friends kids, always going above and beyond helping when we organise christenings, Birthday party's, Christmas etc.. They also have very demanding jobs and enjoy their down time traveling the country/world together. I can honestly say they are truly devoted to each other and you can see how content they are in their lives with the decision they made.

04090510 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Bapchule, AZ, United States 24595 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting The Andromeda Strain:" It's like...everyone needs to explain their stance on everything and take a stand or make an opinion. ... [snip!] ... it's because they DON'T PLAN TO." That's not really directed at you, I'm just kind of like "wut" at this whole thread. Haha. "


No no, I get it. I probably should've asked "What do you all think of childfree women who are antichildren?" but it's late and yeahhh my brain decided to go night-night without me. Lol



The very militant antichildren childfree (mouthful) women I've encountered online go absolutely ape because they're all tired of being told "Oh you'll change your mind when you're older, " or "Well you won't understand until you're a parent," or any of the other rhetoric that we soulless parents apparently throw around.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
22nd Aug '13

I don't really have an opinion. To each it's own. I don't necessarily know one that does not want children. My best friend doesn't have children, nor wants children. Yet, she loves DD. She treats DD like she's her own, sometimes. So I think she secretly does, lol. Yet, swears she'll never get pregnant and is actually considering burning her tubes. I try to talk her out of it sometimes, just in case later in life she changes her mind and does want to have children. However, it's her choice & I'll support he one hundred percent.