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Anxiety over starting kinder Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55055 posts
22nd Aug

No, not Cora. She is totally excited and confident.

It's me. My anxiety about her going to school. We did the school bus orientation last night and there were a couple of moments where I thought I was going to puke from anxiety.

I mean, it's real. In 2 weeks, Cora will be getting on that bus, going away for 7 hours, and then coming home. (She'll be gone from 8:15-3:30.)

I am internally freaking out. I know this is the right thing to do. I can't home school, nor do I have the desire to. And Cora WANTS to go so badly. She asks me every morning to count how many days until she starts school.

How did you get over your own anxiety about it?

(and just to put it out there, I have anxiety issues to begin with, so my head is already in panic mode on a good day)

Lilia's Mama (TTC#2) TTC since Aug 2013; 1 child; Florida 3592 posts
22nd Aug

I'm in the same boat with my dd. I am so depressed that she's leaving. She's starting vpk and part of me doesn't think she's ready and part of me thinks it's me that's not ready :(

Nut ღ Meg Beverly Hills, CA, United States 40235 posts
22nd Aug

Obviously we talk a lot, so you know most of this already. :oops: My anxiety pretty much stopped once I saw how excited she was to go back to school the following days. Along with how much she grew and gained so much independence. The "results" are what allowed me to 'relax' a bit.



You're in my thoughts, Kelly. I know first year can be very emotional.



On a side note: I cry every "first day". First day of preschool, first day of kinder jump start, first day of kinder, first day of 1st grade jump start... I'll probably cry next week too when she starts for the first day. I'm just overly emotional about the fact she is growing up. lol...

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55055 posts
22nd Aug
Quoting Lilia's Mama (TTC#2):" I'm in the same boat with my dd. I am so depressed that she's leaving. She's starting vpk and part of me doesn't think she's ready and part of me thinks it's me that's not ready :("


Exactly. Cora is beyond ready. She wants this. She is excited and happy and ready to go

But I'm not ready to let her.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
22nd Aug

You met her teacher, right? Is it a good school? Things like that make it easier, for me at least. I'm not anxious this year but last year I was.



It'll get easier as you see her grow and mature and make friends and come home to tell you what she's learned, you'll be happy and excited for her! And hopefully you'll grow to enjoy the break.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55055 posts
22nd Aug
Quoting Nut ღ Meg:" Obviously we talk a lot, so you know most of this already. :oops: My anxiety pretty much stopped once ... [snip!] ... cry next week too when she starts for the first day. I'm just overly emotional about the fact she is growing up. lol..."



I know. I remember what you were like the first day of kinder. And those first tough months when she was figuring everything out

We'll distract each other for the first week, okay?



1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11952 posts
22nd Aug

It gets easier. The first yeat is the hardest. This year dds teacher is super nice and that helped a lot. Plus she likes school mostly. She isn't a huge fan of homework though lol.

Capt Plzen, Pl, Czech Republic 9110 posts
22nd Aug

I had anxiety too, I still do but not as bad, today is my son's first day! I think once he walks into that school I'll be alright, it's just the unknown that gives me the most anxiety.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55055 posts
22nd Aug
Quoting Clockwork Girl.:" You met her teacher, right? Is it a good school? Things like that make it easier, for me at least. I'm ... [snip!] ... come home to tell you what she's learned, you'll be happy and excited for her! And hopefully you'll grow to enjoy the break."


I haven't met the teacher yet. Kinder orientation is the day before school starts so we'll be meeting her then.

I know her name and what room she is in. It's an awesome school district. Listed in the top whatever of the US. It's an IB school (international baccalaureate) so the cirrculum is very good.

I know she'll do great.
And I know I'll love the break, eventually

I actually cried the other night cause I realized that we won't be able to do what we want anymore. We can't just take off for the zoo or museum. Can't stroll downtown and peek in the shops. It's going to be a huge adjustment

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
22nd Aug

Did she go to pre-k?



Anticipating something is always worse than that something actually happening. Always.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55055 posts
22nd Aug
Quoting Supafly★:" Did she go to pre-k? Anticipating something is always worse than that something actually happening. Always. "



nope, no PreK, no daycare, nothing

The most she is away from me is when she has sleepovers with family members.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46773 posts
22nd Aug

Im dealing with those same feelings.
Cade will be starting Kindergarten on the 30th.
I am so so so worried. Ive gone to the extreme of cutting my hours at work so I could drop him off and pick him up myself because the thought of him riding the bus is making me sick to my stomach.



He's never had a sleepover either, or attended preschool... however he HAS attended daycare. It is a home daycare, though, and I know the provider well. He's been going since he was an infant, so it's not a worry for me at all. This whole school thing is foreign, though.



He's completely ecstatic about going... I can not handle it, though.
I don't really have any advice for you, as nothing has helped me other than just accepting the fact that they HAVE to get an education... and we have to just suck it up. :/

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55055 posts
22nd Aug
Quoting MunchkinWrangler:" Im dealing with those same feelings. Cade will be starting Kindergarten on the 30th. I am so so so ... [snip!] ... has helped me other than just accepting the fact that they HAVE to get an education... and we have to just suck it up. :/"


I don't have a car so Cora has to take the bus. And she is so excited for the bus so I'm not too worried about that

Part of me wishes it were half day kinder, but the district doesn't offer that :(

*sucking it up* Let's do this thing *cry*

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
22nd Aug
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" nope, no PreK, no daycare, nothing The most she is away from me is when she has sleepovers with family members."


Hm, that's a big jump. But she'll do great. It's just going to be weird for you not having her around. But you'll come to enjoy it.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46773 posts
22nd Aug
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" I don't have a car so Cora has to take the bus. And she is so excited for the bus so I'm not too worried ... [snip!] ... Part of me wishes it were half day kinder, but the district doesn't offer that :( *sucking it up* Let's do this thing *cry*"

:(



I'm sure we will get used to it, just like they will.
I also worry about how excited he is for school, that he may end up not liking it if something happens... like if he gets in trouble, or doesn't mingle well with the other kids. I don't want him to lose his enthusiasm for it.