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family bed CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
22nd Aug '13

What is your opinion on a family bed ( everyone in the family share one bed)? I just talked to a lady who has a six year old and three year old and they are both breastfed and sleep with her and her husband. I honestly think its so weird, its not beneficial to the kids at all. They probably wont ever get them out of their bed!

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey d**k Mountain, WA, United States 59994 posts
22nd Aug '13

I think if it works for the family, great.



If it doesn't work for a family, good, they don't have to do it.

JΔ$ Georgia 78990 posts
status 22nd Aug '13

Wouldn't work for us. I don't care what other families do.

user banned 2 kids; Iowa 7762 posts
22nd Aug '13

I know I'm in the minority here on BG but I think BF at 3 and 6 is just....just no.



As for sharing a bed, well I dunno. I wouldn't want to do it because I can't imagine you'd have any alone time with my spouse and that would drive me crazy.

Mari-C 18 kids; Nebraska 3695 posts
22nd Aug '13

Iif it works for other families, fine.
My daughters have their own beds and sleep in them every night. If there was one night where they wanted to crawl in, I'd be ok with that. But it will not be every night. DH and I need our alone time.

LPH TTC since Dec 2014; NO, OD, Ukraine 32163 posts
status 22nd Aug '13

Whatever works for them. I don't see how anyone could say its not beneficial, who knows their story. My husband shared a bed with his parents until he was eight because of sleep apnea.

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13935 posts
22nd Aug '13

DD sleeps better when she is in our bed. She's a mommas girl. But we don't let her.
I'm not sure what bad things can happen by sharing a bed? They won't be independent? Who knows, kids personalities are what they are.
If something does happen with her kids by sharing a bed then it's her problem, idc what other people do.

Sofie+#2 Due March 18; 1 child; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7787 posts
22nd Aug '13

It is beneficial for their emotional development, who are you to say its weird? It's what people do all over the world and have been doing since the beginning of time. It's natural to not force independence.
Do what works for your family.

Gold 2 kids; Thanksgiving, ., Turkey 46016 posts
status 22nd Aug '13

If that's what work for them. I co-sleep with my one year old still. My 4 year old likes having his own space now though. Do what works for you.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8800 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" It is beneficial for their emotional development, who are you to say its weird? It's what people do all ... [snip!] ... world and have been doing since the beginning of time. It's natural to not force independence. Do what works for your family."


Totally agree. Children are individuals and there isn't 1 right way to teach independence into a child.
All of our children sleep w/us till between 2-3yrs old and bf'd between 1yr and 38mo. Some kids are ready to be more independent sooner than others :)

user banned California 36390 posts
22nd Aug '13

Our 3.5 year old still sleeps with us most nights.

Ꭶwan♥Nemo 1 child; Kansas City, Missouri 7416 posts
22nd Aug '13

My 1 year old sleeps with my bf and I, but once he hits 2, Ill transfer him to a toddler bed. 3 and 6 is a little old for me, especially since kids sleep WILD. At some point, I think its time that child have his own bed.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
22nd Aug '13

It's not for us, but I don't think there is anything wrong with it or weird if everyone in the family is happy with the arrangement.

user banned Minneapolis, Minnesota 612 posts
22nd Aug '13

I have my four year old with me, but im a single mom and space is an issue we have one bedroom and I don't like it since my sleep is awful!

Iyahna :^P 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Southern California, CA, United States 14357 posts
status 22nd Aug '13

My three and two year old sleeps with us.It's a king bed.My three year old chooses to sleep in his toddler bed so it's not a big issue with us.I slept with my mom until i was 9 and transitioned well.My dad was also deployed a lot so my mom wanted me with her.