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ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting ~Preggersto#1~:" I'm sorry that happened! :( But, thank you for explaining all this, I'm new to the pregnancy myself, ... [snip!] ... has had a miscarriage. I mean it takes things a while to sink in for me! It took me 6 months for it to sink in I was pregnant."

It's okay. I didn't understand the first time around either. I begged them to do something to stop it because I really didn't understand what it meant to have a miscarriage. When I ended up needing a D&C I was even more torn up because after they explained what that meant it was the exact opposite of what I wanted them to do. I didn't know anyone who'd actually miscarried either so it was all new to me. Like, I knew it happened to people but at the same time it seemed like one of those things your hear about but never REALLY happens, know what I mean? The thing is, usually miscarriages happen because the baby isn't compatible with life. So a lot of times the baby never would have made it anyways, even if they could stop it. Not very comforting, trust me, I know but that's the truth. :(

~Fam[ily] of 3~ 1 child; Idabel, Oklahoma 523 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting ρiηkie ρie:" It's okay. I didn't understand the first time around either. I begged them to do something to stop it ... [snip!] ... never would have made it anyways, even if they could stop it. Not very comforting, trust me, I know but that's the truth. :("

Yeah, I know what you mean, I guess I need to start taking things in easier.... or at least trying so I will stop freaking out.

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting ~Preggersto#1~:" Yeah, I know what you mean, I guess I need to start taking things in easier.... or at least trying so I will stop freaking out."

I don't think you can take a miscarriage easily when it's happening to you or someone you care for. I know I couldn't. I won't say time has made me okay with it but I understand why it happens now. Doesn't make it any easier though. At any rate, have your friend schedule an appointment. Tell her to explain what's going on, they're usually pretty good about getting you in when there's a potential problem. I'll also say that I bled with both of my girls during the first trimester, I bled really heavily with my youngest and thought for sure I was losing her but they both ended up fine. I don't want to give false hope but it could still turn out okay. Good luck to her.

~Fam[ily] of 3~ 1 child; Idabel, Oklahoma 523 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting ρiηkie ρie:" I don't think you can take a miscarriage easily when it's happening to you or someone you care for. I ... [snip!] ... losing her but they both ended up fine. I don't want to give false hope but it could still turn out okay. Good luck to her. "

Thank you, it feels a lot better when there still is hope rather than not at all.

wifemom1013 Due October 30 (boy); 33 kids; Dayton, Ohio 405 posts
22nd Aug '13
Quoting ~Preggersto#1~:" Ok, so I officially hate the idiots at the ER where my friend lives! She is about a monnth or 2 prego ... [snip!] ... with being pregnant! (She just found out about a week or 2 ago, and has been looking for an OB) Rant over.... I apologize"

i'm sorry she may be losing baby but honestly there is nothing anyone can do but give her support... I lost a baby at almost 11 weeks & 6 weeks hospital did an exam, ultrasound, monitored me for hours & diagnosed me with a threatened miscarriage which ended in miscarriage or surgery... but if it helps I know quiet a few people who bled/clotted & their baby was fin. hugs <3

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 6861 posts
status 22nd Aug '13
Quoting ~Preggersto#1~:" But wouldn't they at least tell her she is having a miscarriage?"


Sometimes they can't. What they could do is draw some blood and check on her hcg level. That one draw by itself won't tell them anything though except that she's pregnant. If she's under 6 weeks pregnant, they wouldn't be able to see anything on an U/S.



It really does need to be handled by an OB who can do 2 sets of hcg to see if her numbers are doubling and to get an U/S done.



L&D won't see her until she's 20 weeks. She needs to call the ob and make an appointment. There isn't anything medically that the ER can do to prevent a miscarriage in the first tri unless she's hemorrhaging

Squeaky McGee [16 wks] Due May 7; 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65880 posts
status 23rd Aug '13
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" What did she expect them to do? This early, labor and delivery won't see her. If she is having a miscarriage, ... [snip!] ... If she is having a miscarriage, there is nothing they can do to stop it She needs to see her OB, even though it is far away"


This.