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Super Mommy! Due July 31; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Costa Mesa, California 9193 posts
24th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Feliz.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Super Mommy!:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Feliz.:</b>" ... [snip!] ... feelings and are you positive that this what you want to do?"</blockquote> I'm pretty sure this is what I want to do."</blockquote>




It's your decision to make. Whatever you choose to do there is huge support system here for you if you need it.

Mrs. Feliz. 2 kids; New Jersey 9191 posts
24th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Super Mommy!:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Feliz.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Super Mommy!:</b>" ... [snip!] ... It's your decision to make. Whatever you choose to do there is huge support system here for you if you need it."</blockquote>




If I do proceed, I will definitely need it. Noone will support this decision.
In my family, that is.

Photo Assassin 67 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 1666 posts
24th Aug

OK--I am going to throw out the non-abortion thought out here.



I am pro-choice, so no worries.



How long were you and DH TTC? I am asking, because I felt exactly as you are about that time, and then again 10-12 weeks. (still pregnant)



DH and I had been trying for 4 years! And when we did find out we were pregnant (after 3 miscarriages) I was detached. Mostly because I wanted to prepare for another miscarriage, and knew that if this one didn't work out, we were going to be done, and raise the 2 we have now.



But, then it stuck. 10 weeks came, still there, and I started feeling depressed. And suicidal. I didn't want this baby! I honestly, still am coming to terms with it, and Monday I will be 37 weeks.



But-I think of what we went through to get here. Why would I be that person that tried so hard and then give up?



Are you ONLY concerns because you haven't grown attached to it yet, and feeling DD will be put on the back burner? DH is sensing you're not taking this well, which is probably why he is distancing himself, especially if you expressed to him you want an abortion.



Do you think if you got the abortion you will try again later, when you think its right? Or---regret it?



Write this all down, TALK to your husband. Tell him your concerns. You wanted this before, what has changed since then? Focus on that!

Mrs. Feliz. 2 kids; New Jersey 9191 posts
24th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Photo Assassin *36weeks*:</b>" OK--I am going to throw out the non-abortion thought out here. I am pro-choice, so no worries. How ... [snip!] ... all down, TALK to your husband. Tell him your concerns. You wanted this before, what has changed since then? Focus on that!"</blockquote>



I just came to terms I don't want another child... Ever. I'm not sure what has changed, at all. I just am not ready anymore. We were trying for three months.

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
24th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Feliz.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Mayhem*:</b>" Did something happen to make you want the abortion? ... [snip!] ... can't afford it. I'm stressed/depressed. I think it's what's best. Now DH isn't sure if he wants to be with me or not. Lovely."</blockquote>



Maybe it would be best to see someone (a doctor) before you make such a rash decision? If it's truly what you want, I understand...it's just that it seems like you might not be in the right state of mind right now, KWIM? I'm sure your DH is very confused as to what's happening right now. First you wanted a baby, now you got one and you want to abort. On the outside it doesn't make a lot of sense. Have you sat down with him and delved into why you think abortion is the right option for you at this point?

Mrs. Feliz. 2 kids; New Jersey 9191 posts
24th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Mayhem*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Feliz.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Mayhem*:</b>" ... [snip!] ... a lot of sense. Have you sat down with him and delved into why you think abortion is the right option for you at this point?"</blockquote>




He's against abortions, so he won't sit down and talk. He wants the baby, he said it is my decision. He will not pay for it though. I can not come up with 300-800 for an abortion though.. I only work part time. :/

slayera 4 kids; 3 angel babies; nowhere, ca, United States 705 posts
24th Aug

I think its just your hormones from the pregnancy. give yourself a little time to let it all sink in. maybe things get better, good luck.

Mrs. Feliz. 2 kids; New Jersey 9191 posts
24th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting slayera:</b>" I think its just your hormones from the pregnancy. give yourself a little time to let it all sink in. maybe things get better, good luck."</blockquote>




Thank you.

B★B's Mama TTC since Jul 2013; 2 kids; Waco, Tx, United States 11457 posts
24th Aug

Aww Mama I'm feeling for you now. I just remember all your excitement over ttc. Whatever you decide is your decision. If you need to talk im here. <hugs>

Mrs. Feliz. 2 kids; New Jersey 9191 posts
24th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting B★B's Mama:</b>" Aww Mama I'm feeling for you now. I just remember all your excitement over ttc. Whatever you decide is your decision. If you need to talk im here. <hugs>"</blockquote>




Thank you.

Iyahna :^P Temecula, California 11382 posts
24th Aug

:( I know how you feel.When i was TTC my youngest i was so on board until it happened.I kind of feel like i took the spotlight from my oldest. and it hurts until this day.Do what you have to do mama.Maybe in the future it will be a better time to bring another LO in.

*And baby makes 4!* Due May 4; 1 child; Ohio 3772 posts
24th Aug

I'm sorry you're struggling with this. I hope everything works out the way you want it to. ..

♥Lexies Mommy Due April 7; 1 child; California 6491 posts
24th Aug

Wow thats really hard. Maybe you should call and talk to someone at planned parenthood and figure out your options. This is a huge decision that you are going to have to deal with the rest of your life.

The Time Police 2 kids; Cold Lake, AB, Canada 33400 posts
24th Aug

I felt this way 100% when I was pregnant with my daughter!! I was so depressed. It got worse when I found out I was having a girl, which is what I wanted. I felt like a monster, personally. We were TTC, and abortion went over my mind a few times. This is a very big decision to make. Don't take this as my trying to talk you out of abortion. I am not against it at all, I had one 2 weeks ago. I just see myself in this whole situation! I would maybe set up the appointment in case you do decide to go through with it, and take a few days to really think about it. You can cancel it if you choose not to, or go through with it without having to wait and pay extra. Good luck <3

Mrs. Feliz. 2 kids; New Jersey 9191 posts
24th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Spacetits:</b>" I felt this way 100% when I was pregnant with my daughter!! I was so depressed. It got worse when I found ... [snip!] ... about it. You can cancel it if you choose not to, or go through with it without having to wait and pay extra. Good luck <3"</blockquote>
Thank you. DH is coming around to the decision, but I'm honestly still torn..