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another visitation ? This ish is bananas TTC since Mar 2014; 1 child; Georgia 1774 posts
25th Aug '13

When my son's father takes me to court and gets visitation, do I send things with my son (like food, clothes, diapers) or is it his father's responsibility to provide his things while he is there?
and also, his father, his wife, & their two kids live with his wife's grandparents meaning my son won't have a room or bed over there. Is that anything to bring up in court or is it okay as long as he has a roof over his head?

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45788 posts
25th Aug '13

How old is the child? Does he still sleep in a crib?



I would send the stuff the first visit, but leave a note with the particulars about what he will need to buy before the next visit, include sizes of clothes, diapers, etc. so there is no mistake.

Juggernog-aholic 4 kids; 2 angel babies; P, AR, United States 20116 posts
25th Aug '13

I would send clothes and possibly diapers. You shouldn't have to send food. And you can bring it up, but it may not do anything. As long as there is somewhere he can sleep (couch, playpen if he's young enough) then I would think it would be okay.

This ish is bananas TTC since Mar 2014; 1 child; Georgia 1774 posts
25th Aug '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" How old is the child? Does he still sleep in a crib? I would send the stuff the first visit, but leave ... [snip!] ... about what he will need to buy before the next visit, include sizes of clothes, diapers, etc. so there is no mistake."


yeah he does, he's 10 months.
Thanks.

This ish is bananas TTC since Mar 2014; 1 child; Georgia 1774 posts
25th Aug '13
Quoting Juggernog-aholic:" I would send clothes and possibly diapers. You shouldn't have to send food. And you can bring it up, ... [snip!] ... anything. As long as there is somewhere he can sleep (couch, playpen if he's young enough) then I would think it would be okay."


okay, thanks

Lorelei's Mommy ♥ 1 child; Scotts Valley, CA, United States 1463 posts
26th Aug '13

Honestly, I always say, my BD is fully responsible when he has my DD.
Maybe the first time bring what the child needs and then make it clear hes responsible. If he wants to have his son, he needs to be responsible enough to take care of the child.
You could bring up the living situation or you could just say, id like to know his sleeping arrangements since i know he wont have his own room.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45788 posts
26th Aug '13
Quoting Lorelei's Mommy ♥:" Honestly, I always say, my BD is fully responsible when he has my DD. Maybe the first time bring what ... [snip!] ... the living situation or you could just say, id like to know his sleeping arrangements since i know he wont have his own room."


I agree with this. In our situation, the judge was very clear that my daughter had 2 homes, and 2 parents....not just a parent and a babysitter. He was responsible for everything she needed at his house when she was there.