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Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45928 posts
25th Aug '13
Quoting penispenispenisVAGINA:" I'm not being rude. I'm speaking the truth. the judge is going to look at you and think that obviously ... [snip!] ... You're so concerned about your safety and this man scares you yet you aren't doing anything to stop what he's done/doing. "


All of this.



You've trivialized it by not filing a report.

Wonderstruck ♥ Due March 15; 2 kids; Seattle, Washington 508 posts
25th Aug '13
The Icebox {MBRD} 17 kids; New Mexico 18558 posts
25th Aug '13

A report would have been an official paper work trail of past occurrences, if it does happen again, take him asap.



Save absolutely everything he sends you. EVERYthing. And have copies, save it online, etc, in case something happens to your phone

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27009 posts
25th Aug '13



Oh good gosh, I hope the judges keep him far and away... that's just beyond not okay. :(

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7110 posts
25th Aug '13
Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:" Okay it's clear you've never been in an abusive relationship, but im terribly sorry im not as ballsy as you may be."


Wow! I was beat bloody and broken for 2 years!

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45928 posts
25th Aug '13
Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:" Okay it's clear you've never been in an abusive relationship, but im terribly sorry im not as ballsy as you may be."


That's not an excuse. I was in an abusive relationship, emotionally/physically/sexually.



Still, when my ex (and abuser) hit my child repeatedly with an electric fly swatter and threatened to lock her in the basement you are damn right I filed a report about him.

Momma R 2 kids; Washington 3631 posts
25th Aug '13
Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:" Even now could i do it, the mark on his face has gone now."

even NOW. you have the pic, you have the text , you have your child.

Wonderstruck ♥ Due March 15; 2 kids; Seattle, Washington 508 posts
25th Aug '13
penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7110 posts
25th Aug '13
Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:" Okay i'd without a doubt do it if that was the case, i honestly didn't know a bite was a reason to file ... [snip!] ... report, and believe me i'm kicking myself in the ass for not because that's definitely something I wanted to bring up in court."


You said yourself in the OP that you knew it was abuse......now you're changing your story.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45928 posts
25th Aug '13
Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:" Okay i'd without a doubt do it if that was the case, i honestly didn't know a bite was a reason to file ... [snip!] ... report, and believe me i'm kicking myself in the ass for not because that's definitely something I wanted to bring up in court."


Many judges will not accept texts, and social media contact as evidence because it is easy to fake.



Stop communicating with him that way. Request that he contact you through e-mail, letter or lawyer only.

Wonderstruck ♥ Due March 15; 2 kids; Seattle, Washington 508 posts
25th Aug '13
Wonderstruck ♥ Due March 15; 2 kids; Seattle, Washington 508 posts
25th Aug '13
Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45928 posts
25th Aug '13
Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:" I did not know that. I'll let him know to contact me via email. I don't have a lawyer right now. So i won't get in trouble if i block his number from my phone - if he still has my email?"


E-mail him and say that you won't be accepting text messages from him and the only way he is to contact you is through e-mail.

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7110 posts
25th Aug '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Many judges will not accept texts, and social media contact as evidence because it is easy to fake. ... [snip!] ... it is easy to fake. Stop communicating with him that way. Request that he contact you through e-mail, letter or lawyer only."


A lot of judges around here accept Facebook messages back and forth as evidence. :)

The Icebox {MBRD} 17 kids; New Mexico 18558 posts
25th Aug '13
Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:" I did not know that. I'll let him know to contact me via email. I don't have a lawyer right now. So i won't get in trouble if i block his number from my phone - if he still has my email?"


No, you won't.