<blockquote><b>Quoting Super Mommy!:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Pretender:</b>" No, I just get really tired of seeing moms ... [snip!] ... to hold the baby than let him cry alone if you or the OP feel it's better to just leave him than she'll do as she chooses."</blockquote>
That's pretty dickhead of you to ASSume she leaves him in a dark room or stands there and watches him >:/
Quoting raptor mommy saves:" DS needs to cry a bit so he can sleep. He'll cry in my arms. There is a nice article on this by ask moxie ->http://askmoxie.org/blog/2011/01/tension-decreasers.html"
This actually helps a lot. He may be tired but trying to block out other stimulation so I will start either turning off the tv or turning the volume down quite a bit
Quoting The Pretender:" No, I just get really tired of seeing moms jumping on and judging other moms as 'neglectful' when it ... [snip!] ... kernels of disapproval in her mind that she's doing something terrible to her child is an ugly thing to do to another mommy. "
well its nice to see some people on here think this way, I hesitate now to even mention the word "crying" because i don't want to start a thread of wagging fingers...i once asked for help with my crying baby and pretty much everyone that responded made me feel like a bad mother and I was already emotional that day about my baby so after reading all the harsh comments I was in tears. When I called them on it, they said it was only "advice" and not judgements and that I was overreacting...of course.
Anyway, i have seen people write recently of 9 month olds having what seems like tantrums, like angry crying so I'm sure your 9 month old is not out of the ordinary. My baby also rarely calms down if I hold her, but it does seem to help - a little :) I feel horrible that all i can do is hold her and stay calm while she cries her eyes out for at least 20 min. But I guess all we can do it wait it out and hope its a phase.
I think there is a huge difference in deliberately letting your baby CIO (in the sense of sleep training) than a baby who.... cries lol.
Non-CIO doesn't mean the baby isn't "allowed" to cry EVER CAUSE OMG STRESSHORMONES. Just cause the baby cries at bedtime doesn't mean it's CIO. Correlation is not causation.
But just my POV.