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[[Breezy]] 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 14104 posts
status 1st Sep '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" I'd be upset that he couldn't come home at a decent time or let you know when he planned on coming home. And I'd be pissed off that he was apparently being entertained by other women."


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Trust issues or not, it's not exactly a picture perfect image of a well-to-do husband on the night before his wedding anniversary.

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
1st Sep '13

Honestly....I think it was kinda 'not right' for you to not give him the night out. One hour is not enough time to meet up and have dinner, and the fact his friend is from out of town so they probably dont see each other often. I wouldnt have expected my SO to be back in one hour, and that would have taken that anger away.



As far as the pics.....I would have to see them to see what we are talking about.

Sarah & JT 2 kids; Bellevue, NE, United States 2574 posts
1st Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:</b>" Honestly....I think it was kinda 'not right' for you to not give him the night out. One hour is not enough ... [snip!] ... and that would have taken that anger away. As far as the pics.....I would have to see them to see what we are talking about. "</blockquote>



This! Being in a picture that just so happens to have females in it doesn't make him guilty of anything. Is it possible that he said that he'd be back in an hour bc he figured that's the only way you'd be ok with him going out with his friend? I'd give him a break. Yes, he should've called and said he was going to be out later but that should have been expected. If he never does this then he was probably just having a good time with his friend. We don't really celebrate anniversaries so that part wouldn't be a big deal to me. Talk to him when he gets up the next day. Don't get hostile. Ask him if he had a good time and how his friend is doing and then bring up the part about letting you know if he'll be out later and leave it at that

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
1st Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:</b>" Honestly....I think it was kinda 'not right' for you to not give him the night out. One hour is not enough ... [snip!] ... and that would have taken that anger away. As far as the pics.....I would have to see them to see what we are talking about. "</blockquote>




The problem for me would be that HE said it would be an hour...then drunk, photos with girls, and 6 hours later, he stumbles in.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
1st Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah & JT:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:</b>" Honestly....I think it was kinda ... [snip!] ... time and how his friend is doing and then bring up the part about letting you know if he'll be out later and leave it at that"</blockquote>



You left out the random women they drank with.

Carley 1 child; Cheesetown, WI, United States 775 posts
1st Sep '13

I'd only be upset that my husband told me he'd be back in an hour and was gone for 6, without checking in and giving me an explanation...text, call, whatever. I hate when people say things and do another, that's my biggest pet peeve. As for the pictures with other women in them, it wouldn't bother me--I have 100% trust in my husband.

Sarah & JT 2 kids; Bellevue, NE, United States 2574 posts
1st Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah & JT:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting A Beautiful ... [snip!] ... you know if he'll be out later and leave it at that"</blockquote> You left out the random women they drank with."</blockquote>




That still doesn't make him guilty of anything...

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
1st Sep '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:</b>" Honestly....I think it was kinda ... [snip!] ... problem for me would be that HE said it would be an hour...then drunk, photos with girls, and 6 hours later, he stumbles in."


meh....SO tells me all the time he'll be an hour and I just laugh and say 'yeah..okay'
I go see my friends too...even the ones that live with in 5 mins of me, we rarely wrap up our talk within 60 mins.

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1797 posts
1st Sep '13

I would be upset of the fact he lied to my face. saying he will be home in a hour and come home 6 hours later is lying. I fully trust my husband and know he wouldn't do anything, but i would be lying if i said i wouldn't be at least a little upset about the pics, since he said he was hanging out with the guys, if there was girls there why couldn't he invite you along?

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1797 posts
1st Sep '13
Quoting Spacetits:" Lied? Seems like he got carried away. Getting carried away and lying are two different things."

not everyone sees it that way... he had a phone, he could have at least called and said "hey babe just wanted to let you know i'm going to longer then expected" instead of just assuming that she was going to be ok with it and not siting up worrying about him

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
1st Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah & JT:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah & ... [snip!] ... You left out the random women they drank with."</blockquote> That still doesn't make him guilty of anything..."</blockquote>




Out parting with other women is an issue.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
1st Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Spacetits:</b>" Lied? Seems like he got carried away. Getting carried away and lying are two different things."</blockquote>




Not telling her any different is essentially the same. He knew he had not come through on his word and never made any effort to let her know of any new plans.

Cecily's Mama 1 child; 3781 posts
1st Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:</b>" Honestly....I think it was kinda ... [snip!] ... problem for me would be that HE said it would be an hour...then drunk, photos with girls, and 6 hours later, he stumbles in."</blockquote>




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user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
1st Sep '13

Reading some of these replies makes me thankful SO and I are secure in our relationship, and dont feel the need to HAVE to call, or defend ourselves over pics or be worried going out of the house into public will cause any grief in our lives.



We treat each other the way we want to be treated. I know if SO is late, or I see pics with girls or something....its nothing to get my panties in a knot about, and that when we have the chance to talk about it, Ill find out the innocence of it all and vice versa.

~*CountryMom*~ 4 kids; Hopkinsville, KY, United States 1404 posts
1st Sep '13

The girls? No...I could careless because he's not going to go smurf them and I know it. But what makes me upset is he one lied about the location (I'm picturing a apple bees not a saloon a hour away) two he couldn't call and be like hey I'm going to be out pretty late tonight. Three? The friend is in town till next weekend, why couldn't he pick that other weekend to go out instead of u anniversary or the night before, causing him to sleep in till god knows what time he actually willwake up (its 11:30 now) .... he just hid everything and that's the part I didn't like.....he would have been honest?? I wouldn't have cared one dang bit.