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Waiting for the right time. Nobody232323 Alberta 73 posts
2nd Sep '13

My husband and I recently got married. I'm 28 and he's 31. Long story short, I want to start a family ASAP and he wants to wait "until the time is right"... From what I have heard, there is never a "right time". I feel like I'm old and my eggs are snap cracklin and popping and I'm running out of time. Am I being impatient? Stupid?

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
2nd Sep '13

Well I wouldn't say you're impatient or stupid...it's just how you feel an you can't help it. However, you can't force him into having a child, so if he truly isn't ready right now, I'd revisit the idea at a later date. After all, you just recently got married so enjoy this time with just the two of you!

user banned Japan 155 posts
2nd Sep '13

probably should have discussed it prior to getting married

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26783 posts
2nd Sep '13
Quoting Panda!B*tches:" probably should have discussed it prior to getting married"


This... it's only going to cause resentment if you force him into parenting now.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
2nd Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Panda!B*tches:</b>" probably should have discussed it prior to getting married"</blockquote>




Also this!

Nobody232323 Alberta 73 posts
2nd Sep '13
Quoting Panda!B*tches:" probably should have discussed it prior to getting married"

Definitely did. I've just been reading a lot lately and it seems like all the mothers on here are in their early 20s or have like 5 kids by my age. Guess it's a moment of panic.

Nobody232323 Alberta 73 posts
2nd Sep '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" This... it's only going to cause resentment if you force him into parenting now."


I'd never force him into anything. Or "pull the goalie". Just looking for reassurance from other women I suppose. :/

*Bigheat09* Due July 8 (girl); 1 child; Woodstock, GA, United States 3585 posts
2nd Sep '13

Definitely wait until he is on board. I wanted another baby sooo bad for a couple of years now and DH wasn't ready for another at all. I just kept bringing it up and he would get upset about it. Then one day he came out an said he was ready and that we could try.

Nobody232323 Alberta 73 posts
2nd Sep '13

Quoting *Bigheat09* TTC #2!:" Definitely wait until he is on board. I wanted another baby sooo bad for a couple of years now and DH ... [snip!] ... just kept bringing it up and he would get upset about it. Then one day he came out an said he was ready and that we could try."



Thank you :) That made me feel better.

*Bigheat09* Due July 8 (girl); 1 child; Woodstock, GA, United States 3585 posts
2nd Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Skelly Bird:</b>" "</blockquote>




It takes time :) enjoy the alone time while you can! Once you have a little one it is damn near impossible lol.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
2nd Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Skelly Bird:</b>" Definitely did. I've just been reading a lot lately and it seems like all the mothers on here are in their early 20s or have like 5 kids by my age. Guess it's a moment of panic."</blockquote>




There are a lot of young mothers on here, yes -- but there are also plenty of "older" mothers. Don't worry...it just takes times. Enjoy your time with your DH now!

Sthrnprincess Due August 21 (girl); 3 kids; Upstate, SC, United States 7085 posts
status 2nd Sep '13

He will come around. When DH and I got married I was ready to get my IUD out and have another baby right away but DH wasn't. It wasn't until we were married a little over 2 years that he changed his mind and we started trying for a baby.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
2nd Sep '13

what are his stipulations for ''the right time' ?

Nobody232323 Alberta 73 posts
2nd Sep '13
Quoting 6 blessings so far....:" what are his stipulations for ''the right time' ?"


"a couple years"

DisneyMommy 34 kids; Florida 6301 posts
2nd Sep '13

You are not even close to being near your biological clock. Late 20's/Early-30's is a great time to start having children.