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GONE *KatteyBug* Due November 18 (boy); 1 child; Madison, AL, United States 2234 posts
2nd Sep '13

GONE GONE GONE

Chef Sarah ♥ TTC since Jul 2014; 1 child; Hollywood, FL, United States 10251 posts
2nd Sep '13

I can't really give you advice because I don't think watching porn is wrong and I think you're overreacting. but I do wish you both the best.

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
2nd Sep '13
Quoting Sophia's Mommy♥:" I can't really give you advice because I don't think watching porn is wrong and I think you're overreacting. but I do wish you both the best."


:!:



I kinda feel the same way...



I hope you all overcome this and get through it together.

ℐustice ℛenee Due November 17 (boy); 1 child; Georgia 1060 posts
2nd Sep '13

Not to come off as rude or anything, but I think you're overreacting. If he has only done it once since you sorted it out the last time, and he sincerely apologized for it this time, I wouldn't think much of it. Just because someone watches porn doesn't mean you're not good enough or that he doesn't love you as much as you love him. Once someone's watched something so many times it does become addictive and habitual. If he completely quit before, I'd trust him enough for him to quit this time too. He slipped, big deal? Move on and give him some slack.. Again, I'm really not trying to come off as rude or anything. :?

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16286 posts
2nd Sep '13

Although I don't agree with your stance on porn, I do think that if you guys have an agreement about leaving porn out of your relationship then you have every right to be angry if you find out he has been watching it behind your back. I am sorry, he should try to respect your wishes.

What's wrong, flat face? TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Texas 13678 posts
2nd Sep '13

This happened with DH and I and it wasn't so much the porn as it was him lying to me for years about it. The first time I was like this isn't happening again and the second time I told him I was leaving and he cried and begged me not to and I stayed and told him that if he did it again he was going to tell me or I would leave for real. He slipped up twice since then but he told me both times. It is an addiction (or it was for DH) and it can take years to get over. It is just like living with an addict. I had some pretty bad addiction problems so I was a lot more understanding once I figured out that what he had was an addiction and after I became more understanding about it that is when things started getting better. We prayed together about it and we talked to my mom and dad about it because they had been through the same things.
Contrary to popular belief porn is not OK in my book because it is adultery in your heart and mind. I also believe that if a man actually had any kind of respect for his wife he would not be looking at other women's naked bodies and masturbating to them. f**k that shit.
I also don't do porn because my cousins used that as their guide to molest and rape me and that is what happens when kids get a hold of porn and are fucked up.

☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆ Due September 18 (girl); 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Centralia, Washington 45399 posts
3rd Sep '13

I think personally youre over reacting if you could leave him so easily over porn why be with him?

ℐustice ℛenee Due November 17 (boy); 1 child; Georgia 1060 posts
3rd Sep '13
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Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
3rd Sep '13

I kind of feel like you're overreacting. If you're still having a healthy sex life, etc. I don't necessarily see the issue. It shouldn't be your way or the highway. You should BOTH come to an agreement based on open communication.

Chef Sarah ♥ TTC since Jul 2014; 1 child; Hollywood, FL, United States 10251 posts
3rd Sep '13
Quoting Nom Nom Nom:" Some of us actually have more self respect than others and demand that respect from our husbands."


So if someone watches porn or "allows" their SO to watch porn, they have no self respect and their SO doesn't respect them?

ShanShan07 Due June 3; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Tillamook, Oregon 553 posts
3rd Sep '13

Id rather my SO watch porn then look or flirt with woman in person i don't think porn is wrong. I would be lieing if i said i don't watch it every once in a while

laura+3.0 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Texas 14725 posts
3rd Sep '13

While I don't agree with your stand on porn, I can see where you're coming from. If he knows how you feel about it, I see why you're so upset. It doesnt mean youd leave him "easily", you just have different morals and standards than some of us and there is nothing wrong with it. Maybe y'all should try counseling? Or just you? To help you move on past it completely. Good luck!

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
3rd Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nom Nom Nom:</b>" Some of us actually have more self respect than others and demand that respect from our husbands."</blockquote>




And your definition if respect is different than others. Plenty of people don't find anything disrespectful about watching a video of two people bang.



Do you make your husband close his eyes during sex scenes in movies?

☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆ Due September 18 (girl); 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Centralia, Washington 45399 posts
3rd Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nom Nom Nom:</b>" Some of us actually have more self respect than others and demand that respect from our husbands."</blockquote>



just because I like porn doesn't mean I lack self respect and just because you're a bible thumper doesn't mean you're any better than anyone