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BakerBabe (; Honolulu, Hawaii 422 posts
7th Sep '13
Quoting Redneck Mamma:" Maybe because he owes them money so they want to make sure he isn't going and buying shit he doesn't need instead of paying them?"


Well if that were the case, they should come to us as adults and speak with us about it and we could work out some sort of plan so we could save, along with paying them off. Instead of just demanding that DH sign over his entire check, and we tell them our exact expenses. They want to know every little f**king detail. No, that's ridiculous. I'm a grown ass woman, & he is a grown ass man. Hell, I'm not going to tell them what I spend my money on. It's none of their business. If I needed something as stupid as tampons, or something like that, you best believe I'm not going to tell them about it. And that's the kind of dumb shit that they wanna know about. They wanna know how much we make each check, and each thing I spend it on & why. Uh... no. Not gunna happen, sorry. The thing with DH & the shoes pissed me off. Like really, you need to see the damn shoes, & know exactly what he spent on them. Hahahaha, no. You're my in laws, not the damn money police.

Naturally Alternative 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 6016 posts
7th Sep '13
Quoting [JiLLiAN]:" This all sounds good. It depends on a lot of factors, how much do you owe? How often are you paying ... [snip!] ... If she's acting that nuts, there's probably been issues in the past, or what you're paying them clearly isn't working out."


Yeah it sounds like there is either more to the story or they really are bat shit crazy and you want as far away from them as possible... and once you pay them off, I'd never borrow money from them again...

BakerBabe (; Honolulu, Hawaii 422 posts
7th Sep '13
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user banned 2 kids; Medina, New York 1612 posts
7th Sep '13
Quoting BakerBabe (;:" Lol yeah. Cause it's that easy. To just move out. Bahahahaha with a minimum wage job & my in laws ... [snip!] ... happen overnight. I still have to change my name & shit so we can even get our joint bank account and all that fun stuff."



No shit, shit ain't cheap, that's why they want their money.



You don't HAVE to change your name to have a joint bank account, SO and I have one and we aren't even married.



Like another mama suggested, get a small loan, pay them back & start saving to move out.



They're clearly doing you a favor letting you stay there, instead of actually kick your ass to the curb. It's obvious they don't owe you anything.

Redneck Mamma North Carolina 8746 posts
7th Sep '13
Quoting BakerBabe (;:" Lol yeah. Cause it's that easy. To just move out. Bahahahaha with a minimum wage job & my in laws ... [snip!] ... happen overnight. I still have to change my name & shit so we can even get our joint bank account and all that fun stuff."


Is there low income housing where you live? I know its not idea but its better than living there if things are so bad. There are always alternatives. You should really just go ahead and pay them back and chill on luxuries since you are living there rent free. Like I don't even drive because right now we can't afford insurance for me. I don't have a cell phone right now because we don't have to extra for it and the internet is kind of a necessity since we do all our bill pay online but its not but 60 a month.

BakerBabe (; Honolulu, Hawaii 422 posts
7th Sep '13
Quoting lamr - 02-08-13-21:" Pay them their money back. If its between paying them back, and gas money to see your friends, they should get their money, IMO."


The problem here is, it's not between friends & paying them back.



We CAN do both. We have been. They just assume that we should be giving them the whole check instead of just a certain amount & that even then we shouldn't be spending the gas money to see anyone. Uhm no. If they're going to do that shit, then of course I'm gunna wanna gtfo. I'm not going to sit around at the house 100% of the time, it's just not going to happen.

user banned 2 kids; Medina, New York 1612 posts
7th Sep '13
Quoting BakerBabe (;:" The problem here is, it's not between friends & paying them back. We CAN do both. We have been. ... [snip!] ... then of course I'm gunna wanna gtfo. I'm not going to sit around at the house 100% of the time, it's just not going to happen."


Ok, so if they don't come to YOU as an adult to work something out, why don't you (or your husband, since he's the one that owes them) go to them to try and work something out?



Clearly you owe them thousands of dollars if they want his whole check.



My SO's parents owe me about a grand and you bet your ass I want them to pay me back, but I know they literally can't, and SO doesnt want them to just pay me and risk losing their house I would be happy if they'd give me fuckin $20 a week but I know it won't happen.

BakerBabe (; Honolulu, Hawaii 422 posts
7th Sep '13
Quoting Super Mommy!:" You owe them money, that should be your first priority. You sound childish."


Lmfao, is anyone paying attention? We were paying them back every week... They've just decided that now they should get the whole damn check. & We shouldn't visit our friends & shit with what we have left AFTER they take the whole damn check.

user banned 2 kids; Medina, New York 1612 posts
7th Sep '13
Quoting BakerBabe (;:" Lmfao, is anyone paying attention? We were paying them back every week... They've just decided that ... [snip!] ... whole damn check. & We shouldn't visit our friends & shit with what we have left AFTER they take the whole damn check."


Why can't your friends come visit you?

Redneck Mamma North Carolina 8746 posts
7th Sep '13

Again OP do you have low income housing in your area? Even if there is a waiting list for it your name is on it so when something comes available you can get out of there.

Redneck Mamma North Carolina 8746 posts
7th Sep '13
Quoting [JiLLiAN]:" Why can't your friends come visit you?"


I asked that same thing and got ignored. If they were really her friends they could come hang out with her instead of her always driving to see them.

user banned 2 kids; Medina, New York 1612 posts
7th Sep '13
Quoting Redneck Mamma:" I asked that same thing and got ignored. If they were really her friends they could come hang out with her instead of her always driving to see them. "


meh, she just wants to b***h.

Peyton'sMommy♥ 1 child; Springfield, Ohio 16811 posts
7th Sep '13

I'm her sister and know her in-law's they are that crazy. His whole freaking check is a bit much considering they didn't borrow that much from them. It's not that they weren't paying them back, it's as soon as he got a job they started taking the whole check without even giving them a chance to make a payment plan and such.



And no-one here can say they would be okay with having to tell someone all their expenses and show them receipts and stuff. Screw that, I've lived with my MIL and currently live with my parents and I pay them both rent. We give them the rent in seperate checks because we still have stuff to pay. Yes we pay my parents for rent and utilities but we also have bills of our own and pay for our own food and other necessities. You don't see me going to them and showing them receipts of what I buy, they don't care. As long as we are paying them a bit of money each check and not blowing a whole check on fast food then it shouldn't matter. Also as adults they've earned the right to go where they want when they want, yes they live in their house but they shouldn't be told oh you can't go this place or that place.



And yes, the simple thing is move out..but it's not that easy.

Redneck Mamma North Carolina 8746 posts
7th Sep '13
Quoting Peyton'sMommy♥:" I'm her sister and know her in-law's they are that crazy. His whole freaking check is a bit much considering ... [snip!] ... shouldn't be told oh you can't go this place or that place. And yes, the simple thing is move out..but it's not that easy."


Why would they be taking more than what is owed?

BakerBabe (; Honolulu, Hawaii 422 posts
7th Sep '13
Quoting [JiLLiAN]:" This all sounds good. It depends on a lot of factors, how much do you owe? How often are you paying ... [snip!] ... If she's acting that nuts, there's probably been issues in the past, or what you're paying them clearly isn't working out."


We pay them every week. & no, they've really always been kindof nuts about it. & it's a lot, because it's basically just payments on his truck from back when he was unemployed. We paid as much as we possibly could. It's not a set amount it was just what we could which has been about 150-200. & then we use whats left of his check for gas to get him to work & MY check to go & see our friends and even that is a once a week thing. They still see it as just a we shouldn't go out at all kindof a thing. But when they drive me crazy like this, we just want to get out as much as possible just to avoid the constant banter, where ya goin, what are you doing? Gahhh.



(My mother in law has always been a little crazy. DH had to sleep on the couch when I moved in because we weren't married yet & we weren't even allowed to change in the same room, or be in the same room with the door closed... They never have trusted us for some unknown friggin reason.)