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How to handle this? Kait. 3 kids; Iowa 2345 posts
10th Sep '13

Our 5 year old seems to have an addiction to food. She is not overweight, but she wants to eat constantly and doesn't care what she has to do to get food. She used to wake up at night to sneak downstairs to eat so we had to lock everything up and put a baby gate at the top of the stairs so she couldn't get down into the kitchen. If I turn my back she will eat whoever's food is around at the table (even baby food). Her teacher has called 3 times asking us we remind her that it isn't polite she asked other people to give up their food so she can eat it. Which obviously we have told her a million times. Anyway, we have a new issue now. We cannot afford to feed her $3 breakfasts everyday at school. Lunch is $3.55 there so we have her eat hot lunch at school, but feed her breakfast at home. We just got a letter home from the school yesterday saying that she has been late to class every day but 1. I drop her off at the front doors in plenty of time to walk to her classroom and not be late (they don't let you walk them past the front doors). I called to see what the heck was going on because I know I drop her off in time and they told me she had been going to the cafeteria to eat breakfast. I informed them that she eats at home a FULL breakfast every single morning and I signed a form stating no breakfast for her at school. The part I don't know how to handle is the fact she lied to me. Every morning I tell her "okay..go sit down in your classroom at your desk" and her response is always "I know. I always do." ... When I asked her about whether or not she is going to eat breakfast at school she lied for hours before finally telling me the truth. How would you handle this? So far the only thing I've come up with is no toys for today after school and I'm going to have her do little chores around the house to "earn" money. She has racked up $45 on the breakfast bill already.



I'm calling her teacher and the office to inform the lunchroom that she is no longer allowed breakfast. I just don't know how to handle her behavior.

cuteexplodenkitties 3 kids; Somewhere, MD, United States 1291 posts
10th Sep '13

I have no real advice but our 7 year old is the same way. All he does is eat and no matter how much he eats he wants more. He will eat a whole loaf of bread if it's left on the counter. We've mentioned it to his doctors many times and they never seem concerned.



Maybe see if a teacher can walk her to class?

♥TwinsRock♥ 2 kids; Buffalo, New York 4471 posts
10th Sep '13

That is a tough situation... It really surprises me that they will not let you escort her to her classroom at 5 years old. I mean, she could turn around and walk right back out the doors! Do they have any monitors around? I would talk to the principal and her teacher to see if they can let you take her to the classroom. Since she is being late, I really think they should let you. Or have a teacher/monitor escort her. She probably won't like it and it will probably embarrass her but in a way it will teach her that her lying is unacceptable and she can't be trusted to go right to the classroom.

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
10th Sep '13

I would consult her pedi on this and get her into counseling. Most kids use food as a coping tactic.

Kait. 3 kids; Iowa 2345 posts
10th Sep '13

She has seen pedi's about it and there are no health concerns of any kind.



The Kindergarten room is about 15 steps from the doors and you have to walk through the office to get anywhere in the building (that was randoms can't just walk in)...but once you go through the office you're in the hallway and you either go into the classrooms or go to the lunchroom or library. She sneaks off the lunchroom.



I was going to call and ask if I can walk her in from now on. I'm assuming they will be pretty understanding but who knows. It just stinks because winter will be here soon and I have a 24 month old and 14 month old that HATE having to take her to school already because I have to wake them both up and drag them out into the car. It's really the only option though for right now. I doubt they'll have a teacher escort her. There's a hallway monitor there to help with lost kids so maybe she could see her to her classroom. I'm going to start with a phone call this morning and see where that gets me.



I just don't know how to handle my 5 year old for the lying. It is NOT okay. We have to meet with the board now as well because she's gotten over 9 late slips already.....I'm a little upset we weren't contacted sooner.

Not here to please you 3 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 2214 posts
10th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:</b>" I would consult her pedi on this and get her into counseling. Most kids use food as a coping tactic."</blockquote>




Agree^

Kait. 3 kids; Iowa 2345 posts
10th Sep '13
Quoting Carla DiFiore:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:</b>" I would consult her pedi on this and get her into counseling. Most kids use food as a coping tactic."</blockquote> Agree^"


We have. Multiple times.

Not here to please you 3 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 2214 posts
10th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kait.:</b>" We have. Multiple times. "</blockquote>




Have you asked her teacher if she getting picked on or if their is a kid in class bullying her? My daughter didn't handle starting kindergarten well at all. Come find out their was a kid in her class that would not stop bullying her. I felt bad my daughter was being bullied and had it stopped. Wish I had better advice for you :( just so many things it could be! Or she might just have a extremely high metalism , so she not able get full.

Kait. 3 kids; Iowa 2345 posts
10th Sep '13
Quoting Carla DiFiore:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kait.:</b>" We have. Multiple times. "</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... advice for you :( just so many things it could be! Or she might just have a extremely high metalism , so she not able get full."


Yes, we've had two conferences already. No bullies and she is not being a bully either. This is not a new thing. She has been 'addicted' since she was 2. It just keeps getting worse and causing new problems (like $45 we have to pay the school now)...The pedi keeps telling us she's fine. Which she is, she's always happy. Just always hungry. She has gone as far as to tell people "I haven't eaten yet today...can I eat here?" and she does the same thing at home. I've had to call the school 4 different times to make sure she ate something because she swears up and down "I didn't eat at school. I need to eat now." ... and it was a lie every time.

Not here to please you 3 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 2214 posts
10th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kait.:</b>" Yes, we've had two conferences already. No bullies and she is not being a bully either. This is not ... [snip!] ... she ate something because she swears up and down "I didn't eat at school. I need to eat now." ... and it was a lie every time. "</blockquote>




I know it sounds weird but I wonder if she honesty doesn't remember when she eats. I don't know what tell you. Understand its frustrating though. But school shouldn't let her get that many late slips before calling you, they shoulda called you after the 2nd one and then again n again if it was happening. Not like 5 yr old can read time so you'd think they want make she get class on time. That who lets 5 yr charge breakfast wo parent signing a form for it. To them 45 may be nothing , but parents its like their gas or whatever. I'm so sorry I really wish I could help. But I'm at same lost you are with this:( hope something works out for you soon.

Gold 2 kids; Somewhere under Wonderland, VA, United States 40406 posts
status 10th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kait.:</b>" Yes, we've had two conferences already. No bullies and she is not being a bully either. This is not ... [snip!] ... she ate something because she swears up and down "I didn't eat at school. I need to eat now." ... and it was a lie every time. "</blockquote>




I would be concerned about the lying for sure. Is there a possibility of getting hetr into some kind of councilling to see if there may be some underlying issues that you might be missing?