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Cast Your Vote:

    • The pastor was justified in his refusal to do the ceremony. -- Votes: 38
    • The pastor was in the wrong. -- Votes: 20
    • Other, (please explain). -- Votes: 5
Wiggity Wack 1 child; Connecticut 10780 posts
10th Sep
Quoting S&S *23 weeks*:" Wooooooooow. And this is why I refuse to get married in a church, go in a church or go TO church."

I don't go to church or believe in god, but I know the dress code and expectations because my mom used to make me go when I was a kid. If for some unknown reason I was planning to have a wedding in a church, there is no way in hell I would set foot in the church wearing that dress.

. Way, MA, United States 73774 posts
10th Sep

So it was in a church? Who seriously thinks that the dress in the picture is appropriate attire for a church? :? I don't think he should have to marry anyone that he doesn't want to.

Pregnancy Addiction Due August 10; TTC since Mar 2013; 7 kids; Wyoming 12152 posts
10th Sep
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Mama Van D 18 kids; Unity, Maine 2454 posts
10th Sep

<blockquote><b>Quoting Wiggity Wack:</b>" I don't go to church or believe in god, but I know the dress code and expectations because my mom used ... [snip!] ... I was planning to have a wedding in a church, there is no way in hell I would set foot in the church wearing that dress. "</blockquote>



Oh I agree with every word of this. I don't go to church but I would never think of wearing that to one. I just think it was kind of a dick move to cancel the ceremony Hal an hour before it was supposed to start.

Wiggity Wack 1 child; Connecticut 10780 posts
10th Sep
Quoting Mama Van D:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Wiggity Wack:</b>" Yeah, but with priest, pastors, ect, they ... [snip!] ... had some kind of dress code he expected them to follow, that should've been brought up sooner than an hour before the ceremony."

Yeah, but some shit is just common sense. The article didn't mention if the bride was church going or religious, but honestly, ask any person atheist or religious if that dress is appropriate for church and I think you get a universal "no".

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
10th Sep
Quoting Pregnancy Addiction:" They are just as responsible of finding out these things however. it was THERE wedding and they knew ... [snip!] ... dress...She should have asked prior to this if there was a dress code since it was her that wanted to wear something specific. "


They hired her. If I rent an area for a reception, THEY give me their rules. If they fail to mention that there is no dancing, that's on them. It wasn't part of our "contract." If the pastor had a dress code, that needed to be in HIS part of the contract of doing this service. It wasn't. He shouldn't get to decide a few hours before the service that there are suddenly additional rules he failed to tell them before.



I mean, you may feel the dress is slutty, but the point is more that dress wasn't mentioned by him before that. What if she wore an off-white dress and he decided two horus before that is HAD to be white white or it wasn't okay. That is my issue, changing the rules 2 hours before he was expected to do a job. It wasn't something that could be easily changed. He basically screwed their entire wedding because he decided he didn't like what she was wear, despite having given them no guidelines previously.

Mother of One plus One 2 kids; Ware Shoals, South Carolina 4418 posts
10th Sep

Meh. I see people get married in those see through top dresses all the time in churches. I personally wouldn't do it.

Pregnancy Addiction Due August 10; TTC since Mar 2013; 7 kids; Wyoming 12152 posts
10th Sep
Quoting Mama Van D:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Wiggity Wack:</b>" I don't go to church or believe in god, but ... [snip!] ... that to one. I just think it was kind of a dick move to cancel the ceremony Hal an hour before it was supposed to start."


I think it was a dick move to wear a dress like that to church.

[BLB] is TTC TTC since Jun 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Hasty, Colorado 16581 posts
10th Sep

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" But was the couple informed of this? That's my issue. If they were never informed of a specific dress ... [snip!] ... to turn away a couple hours before their wedding) then they should have presented it at the time the couple booked the place."</blockquote>




You never screen your dress with the pastor ahead of time. It's common sense. You choose a religious ceremony and you dress the part. It's your responsibility to be aware of the religious beliefs of the church you choose to be married in.



Most religions have unspoken dress codes. My church is 'come as you are' and amazingly I've never seen someone dressed in something like that.

S & S +1 1 child; 1 angel baby; Saint-Jean-Sur-Richelieu, QC, Canada 369 posts
10th Sep
Quoting Wiggity Wack:" I don't go to church or believe in god, but I know the dress code and expectations because my mom used ... [snip!] ... I was planning to have a wedding in a church, there is no way in hell I would set foot in the church wearing that dress. "


If you got it, flaunt it? :P

Wiggity Wack 1 child; Connecticut 10780 posts
10th Sep
Quoting Mama Van D:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Wiggity Wack:</b>" I don't go to church or believe in god, but ... [snip!] ... that to one. I just think it was kind of a dick move to cancel the ceremony Hal an hour before it was supposed to start."

Yeah, I think it would have been decent of the guy to offer to postpone the service, at least.

Pregnancy Addiction Due August 10; TTC since Mar 2013; 7 kids; Wyoming 12152 posts
10th Sep
Quoting she nan igans:" They hired her. If I rent an area for a reception, THEY give me their rules. If they fail to mention ... [snip!] ... their entire wedding because he decided he didn't like what she was wear, despite having given them no guidelines previously. "


Do we know for sure it was not in the contract?

Wiggity Wack 1 child; Connecticut 10780 posts
10th Sep
Quoting Mother of One plus One:" Meh. I see people get married in those see through top dresses all the time in churches. I personally wouldn't do it."

With and undershirt or slip?

Mrs. Daniel 1 child; California 547 posts
10th Sep

It seems really stupid to expect a church to not have a problem with that dress. She looks like she's going to the club. I think it's fair thy churches be allowed to turn away people for any reason they see fit. I'm anti-religion but you should find out ahead of time what kind of stance your church takes on modesty.

Wiggity Wack 1 child; Connecticut 10780 posts
10th Sep
Quoting S&S *23 weeks*:" If you got it, flaunt it? :P"

That's why I got married at the beach. :wink: