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How was it with 3 Children? Susan0329 2 kids; California 4208 posts
11th Sep '13

Hi Mom's
I have my doubts and reservations about having a 3rd baby...Some personal others financially... we both work full time... he usually plays softball league after work during the week 2 days ... we have two girls ages 4 and 15months...



SO really wants a BOY and i would love A BOY also so i can experice that part of the world... but thats always 50/50 chance... however i feel we are always rushing no time the house is hectic...and $$ wise right (now) we are not ready maybe in 2yrs will be less tight.. (debt bills etc)

SO and i are not fully 100% good with our marraige at the moment.. i would say we are at 85% but that 15% hope to close that gap within the next 5 months...we plan on buying a house in about 2-3 yrs... hubby says lets just go for it now start baby planning and get it out of the way now.... I say lets wait and even THEN at times i dont want a 3rd?? Is that selfhish of me?? I will be turning 31 in 6 months (is my clock ticking?)

Have you had 3 children pretty close in age AND both of your work Full Time and worked out for you??? Do you have any regrets not having a 3rd? I'm the only child so i'm already blessed that my daughter has a sister...

sorry so long.. how are you adapting with 3?? Thanks Ladies...

La~La 4 kids; Houston, Texas 22036 posts
11th Sep '13
Quoting 2Girls & Blessed:" Hi Mom's I have my doubts and reservations about having a 3rd baby...Some personal others financially... ... [snip!] ... child so i'm already blessed that my daughter has a sister... sorry so long.. how are you adapting with 3?? Thanks Ladies..."


Ive got four and its utter chaos most days.

Susan0329 2 kids; California 4208 posts
11th Sep '13
Quoting La~La:" Ive got four and its utter chaos most days."


And I'm sure you have the PATIENCE like no other right??? I lack in that with my two girls and i hate myself for that. SO hates that..... i'm slowly trying to adapt to PATIENCE with kids... :)

Vicki McDonald Due September 28 (boy); 3 kids; Belleville, Ontario 927 posts
11th Sep '13

It's busy, but I have a great husband and he helps out when he can ( he's just not around a lot b.c he works a lot) We are expecting #4 now ( totally planned) so obviously it's not that bad! It's kind of nice actually, because sometimes 2 can get on each other's nerves, a third adds an element of distraction for them... and most of the time all 3 are fine with playing together. Financially... it's never a good time to have more kids is it? :P

Susan0329 2 kids; California 4208 posts
11th Sep '13
Quoting Vicki McDonald:" It's busy, but I have a great husband and he helps out when he can ( he's just not around a lot b.c he ... [snip!] ... most of the time all 3 are fine with playing together. Financially... it's never a good time to have more kids is it? :P "


True... My hubby works about 10hr shifts on his feet all day and is super tired when he gets home so he gets a little more slack than me and my office chair job but does help when he can..... are you a stay at home mom???

Clk 2 kids; Dexter, Michigan 11945 posts
11th Sep '13

We've been trying to decide the same thing. We know we need a house first, no way can five fit into this apartment. Not to mention it would be against the law lol. The thing is for us is I already compromised from five to three, and now may have to further compromise to be done now. I would actually like to adopt, not a baby, which is also something we talk about often.

Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38964 posts
11th Sep '13
Quoting 2Girls & Blessed:" Hi Mom's I have my doubts and reservations about having a 3rd baby...Some personal others financially... ... [snip!] ... child so i'm already blessed that my daughter has a sister... sorry so long.. how are you adapting with 3?? Thanks Ladies..."


i'm pregnant w/ #2 and planning to have this be it, but apparently the single hardest transition for parents is #3. after that it's easier again.



http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2320235/Why-stressful-number-children--BUT-mothers-MORE-relaxed.html




maybe it's b/c 2 = one for each parent to handle, i don't know.

Darcy Baker Williams 53 kids; Illinois 194 posts
11th Sep '13

I have 5....5 girls! Its always hectic, time is always short and is it ever really a "good time" to have another baby? we all have our issues and things we are working to improve. Your situation sounds pretty typical to me. will you be upset with a 3rd girl? Just in case. I don't regret having 5 even on the toughest days. besides, after the 3rd one you're prepared for anything!

Susan0329 2 kids; California 4208 posts
11th Sep '13
Quoting Mara:" i'm pregnant w/ #2 and planning to have this be it, but apparently the single hardest transition for ... [snip!] ... maybe it's b/c 2 = one for each parent to handle, i don't know. "


Yes thats how i feel right now... we can manage 2 pretty good some times i need to relax more LOL but a third i will just go bananas!! LOL

Vicki McDonald Due September 28 (boy); 3 kids; Belleville, Ontario 927 posts
11th Sep '13
Quoting 2Girls & Blessed:" True... My hubby works about 10hr shifts on his feet all day and is super tired when he gets home so ... [snip!] ... so he gets a little more slack than me and my office chair job but does help when he can..... are you a stay at home mom???"


Nope I have an office job too,( I work at a bank) and hubby works on his feet all day ( and starts at 5am) :P Aaaaand I don't really feel like a very patient person either. I feel like they're better at entertaining each other and I can get more done with them playing together in the next room though, ( our kitchen is right next to the living room so I can keep an eye on them while cleaning and cooking etc...) I come from a family of 5 though so I'm used to the chaos I guess... I was the oldest so I feel like I've been playing mom since I was like 8, until I actually became one :P

thewarmth 3 kids; South Carolina 14438 posts
11th Sep '13

Pregnant with #3 now.
I'm a little scared, but no backing out now! :)
Honesty, my two are easy, they are 3 years apart.
My third and middle will be 13 months apart though.



I think coffee and chocolate will keep me alive for the next 18 years..

Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38964 posts
11th Sep '13
Quoting Darcy Baker Williams:" I have 5....5 girls! Its always hectic, time is always short and is it ever really a "good time" to have ... [snip!] ... girl? Just in case. I don't regret having 5 even on the toughest days. besides, after the 3rd one you're prepared for anything!"


no loving parent can openly regret having any of their children, but it's not really a valid point or decision maker for those of us who choose to have less - for our own sanity / health of marriage / finances / whatever.

♥ Mrs. S ♥ Due September 20; 2 kids; Venezuela 13654 posts
11th Sep '13

I have two kids 20 months apart and we are slowly ttc for a 3rd.(Almost 2 year old and 3.5 year old) I thought about it for a good 6 months. We aren't perfect financially because I'm in school full-time but we do own a house with enough space. We live pretty tight money wise but have a savings just in case. I want to be done having kids by 30 (I'm 26). I just don't want to regret waiting too long or not having another at all.

Susan0329 2 kids; California 4208 posts
11th Sep '13
Quoting Darcy Baker Williams:" I have 5....5 girls! Its always hectic, time is always short and is it ever really a "good time" to have ... [snip!] ... girl? Just in case. I don't regret having 5 even on the toughest days. besides, after the 3rd one you're prepared for anything!"


Having another girl is not my main issue... its the handle of 3 time work/play time dedication to our kids and well $$ wise... i know with the help from hubby and team work we can do it.. but i dont want to feel like we dont give them the necessary time they desserve or im not patient enough because we work full time to give them what we can and thier future... and money right now is an issue for us.. thats the only thing holding me back! LOL

Susan0329 2 kids; California 4208 posts
11th Sep '13
Quoting thewarmth:" Pregnant with #3 now. I'm a little scared, but no backing out now! :) Honesty, my two are easy, they ... [snip!] ... My third and middle will be 13 months apart though. I think coffee and chocolate will keep me alive for the next 18 years.."


nice way to put it... LOL thanks