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Ugh *vent* Aubrie ♡ 1 child; Easton, Pennsylvania 625 posts
11th Sep

Just when I thought things were going great for us, my SO says he's unhappy. His reason? We don't have sex like we used to, but it's because it's painful for me because of my birth control. I go on Monday to get my birth control out and to get something different. I told him he knows where the door is, but if he wants to waste almost three years together and split up our family over sex, then his life will become living hell and he will regret ever leaving me. He already knows that if we split, he's going to be paying child support since I know that's all he will do. :evil:



I am just fed up with him only caring about sex or fooling around. I feel like he couldn't give two shits about our daughter anymore, he never does anything with or for her like he used to. He's such an a*****e!



I'm tired of being the only one trying to make this relationship work without sex 24/7. I don't mind sex every once in awhile, but it's not even like enjoyable sex. It's stick it in a few times, bust, bedtime. There just aren't feelings between us anymore. I'm busting my ass finding a new job, which I did today, getting my GED in November, and my license, but all he's worried about is getting his dick wet.



Then on top of it all, I find out he was talking to this girl and she sent him pictures. Of what? I have no idea, but he says they weren't bad. But when in the world would any girl be sending him pictures. We just got engaged in May and have a daughter. Obviously he's giving her the idea that he's the least bit interested in her, which makes me sick to my stomach. He's known this girl since high school, and when we first started dating she was texting him about losing her virginity to the perfect guy, then went on to say how perfect he seems. I've asked him for almost three years now to stop talking to her, he hasn't. I've stopped talking to like all of my guy friends because it made him uncomfortable.




UGH, I am just about ready to run away with Savannah to Salina, Kansas with my Aunt and Uncle. :(

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 6992 posts
11th Sep

You aren't happy obviously he's not going to change if you've been asking the same thing from him for 3 years and still nothing. Why stay? Why deal? If you're not happy then your child isn't happy and it could affect her later on. Don't stay in a relationship for your child. You need to be there for you.

Aubrie ♡ 1 child; Easton, Pennsylvania 625 posts
11th Sep
Quoting penispenispenisVAGINA:" You aren't happy obviously he's not going to change if you've been asking the same thing from him for ... [snip!] ... child isn't happy and it could affect her later on. Don't stay in a relationship for your child. You need to be there for you. "


I really don't know why I've stayed so long. Honestly I think it's because I grew up in a split family and that is not what I want my daughter to go through. And it really hurts me to think that's the way it's gonna end up going. :'(

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 6992 posts
11th Sep
Quoting Aubrie ♡:" I really don't know why I've stayed so long. Honestly I think it's because I grew up in a split family ... [snip!] ... that is not what I want my daughter to go through. And it really hurts me to think that's the way it's gonna end up going. :'( "


Well if you're not happy then there's always going to be tension. Your daughter will feel that and think that the way you act is normal. She's looking up to you for guidance and to be shown the way. You have to teach her that if she's not happy that she doesn't have to put up with it and can find true happiness somewhere else.

Aubrie ♡ 1 child; Easton, Pennsylvania 625 posts
11th Sep
Quoting penispenispenisVAGINA:" Well if you're not happy then there's always going to be tension. Your daughter will feel that and think ... [snip!] ... have to teach her that if she's not happy that she doesn't have to put up with it and can find true happiness somewhere else. "


As much as I wish it weren't true, you're right. I don't want her to think it's okay to be unhappy. I want nothing more than to see her grow up and be happy.
I'm just scared he's going to try some stupid shit and try to take me for custody or something like that.

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 6992 posts
11th Sep
Quoting Aubrie ♡:" As much as I wish it weren't true, you're right. I don't want her to think it's okay to be unhappy. ... [snip!] ... up and be happy. I'm just scared he's going to try some stupid shit and try to take me for custody or something like that. "


Just prove that you're a better fit parent and can give her what she needs. I don't know where you live but talking about going to KS she would need to be a resident of that state for 6 months and then you can file for custody there.

Aubrie ♡ 1 child; Easton, Pennsylvania 625 posts
11th Sep
Quoting penispenispenisVAGINA:" Just prove that you're a better fit parent and can give her what she needs. I don't know where you live ... [snip!] ... talking about going to KS she would need to be a resident of that state for 6 months and then you can file for custody there. "


I live in Pennsylvania right now, but for awhile my Aunt and Uncle have opened up their house to me, my fiance, and my daughter to start a new life. I'm 100% for it, but he wants to send us out there because he thinks it would be a better life for her because there is a lot of crime and just crap here. The town I live in is considered Mini Philly with the crime rates. :\