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Should I be right there with him? InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
12th Sep '13

My son's school bus picks him up right at the end of our driveway, which is not very far from our house. The passed few days he has wanted me to stay standing on the porch while he walks to his bus ( he only goes out to the end of the driveway when the bus is there otherwise he is standing on the porch with me talking) He likes the independence and of course "I embarrass him" lol
he is in kindergarten, btw.



But today I noticed the bus driver kind of gave me a funny look along with another parent when I let him do this. I didn't see a big deal in letting him do it on his own I mean... I can't be right on top of him all the time.



What do you ladies think, am I giving him too much independence? or am I right in stepping back when he tells me to.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
12th Sep '13

I don't think it's a big deal if you stay on the porch. My mom never even came outside with us when we waited for the bus lol

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
12th Sep '13

If you both are comfortable w/the arrangement then there shouldn't even be an issue. The other parent was probably jealous that the bus stop is at the end of your driveway ,lol.
You should be proud to have such an independent boy :)

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
12th Sep '13
Quoting Spacetits:" I always take my son to the bus stop, but I don't think it's a big deal to let him do that."


I mean literally I can have a conversation with someone without yelling from my porch to the end of my driveway lol it's not very far at all.

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
12th Sep '13
Quoting 6 blessings so far....:" If you both are comfortable w/the arrangement then there shouldn't even be an issue. The other parent ... [snip!] ... probably jealous that the bus stop is at the end of your driveway ,lol. You should be proud to have such an independent boy :)"


it makes me sad but at the same time I am happy he is comfortable enough to not hold my hand and do things on his own. After all he is 5 years old and in school full time, he needs to do things on his own and feel confident while doing them.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
12th Sep '13

A lot of my preschoolers go to the bus alone. I know they're parents are just inside the door. But they send them outside alone and I'm sure watch out the window.

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
12th Sep '13
Quoting lolajessup:" A lot of my preschoolers go to the bus alone. I know they're parents are just inside the door. But they send them outside alone and I'm sure watch out the window."


He asked me if he could walk to and from school.... I was like UUUHH No. Not until you're a bit older and you have friends walking with you. We don't live that far from the school at all. Like less than a mile away.

✩BG Addict +2 2 kids; Ohio 25025 posts
12th Sep '13

It's really up to you and your son. My DD is in 1st grade and i could easily watch her from inside the house, like our driveway is right next to our front of the house. I still stand outside with her though. Gives us more time to talk. By the time she gets home at 4 it's like the rest of the night flies by and doesn't seem like we get much time together. She's not easily embarassed though lol

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
12th Sep '13
Quoting ✩BG Addict +1.5:" It's really up to you and your son. My DD is in 1st grade and i could easily watch her from inside the ... [snip!] ... like the rest of the night flies by and doesn't seem like we get much time together. She's not easily embarassed though lol"


That is what I like too, we get a nice talk in on the front porch and joke around a bit before school. He doesn't get a TON of alone time with me so its nice for us in the morning.

*beck-i* {JAS08} 3 kids; Prattsburgh, New York 4808 posts
12th Sep '13

Our kids walk down to the end of the driveway (not a very long one at that) by themselves and I don't see anything wrong with it. Esp if you can still see him and get to him if he needed you.

Mummy-2-2-Monsters Due July 11; 2 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 10687 posts
status 12th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting InkDMomma:</b>" My son's school bus picks him up right at the end of our driveway, which is not very far from our house. ... [snip!] ... the time. What do you ladies think, am I giving him too much independence? or am I right in stepping back when he tells me to."</blockquote>



If he likes it and wants to do that himself then its fine. Let them make those weird looks, you are doing nothing wrong in letting him be independent if he wishes.



My daughter likes her independence too. Second day of year 1.. She asks if she can walk to school alone. (We live across the street from her school, but it's a very busy main road with two stop sign people in charge of the crossing) makes me nervous... But I let her and she's been fine since.. It's almost the end of the school year.

Mum to a Monster TTC since Jan 2014; 1 child; 5 angel babies; Colorado 11565 posts
12th Sep '13

I have to be there with bub. The bus garage is really strict about "no unattended time for the child during transitions." Like the aide won't let him on or off the bus if I'm(or someone on the approved list) not right there.

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
12th Sep '13
Quoting Mum to a Monster:" I have to be there with bub. The bus garage is really strict about "no unattended time for the child ... [snip!] ... during transitions." Like the aide won't let him on or off the bus if I'm(or someone on the approved list) not right there."


There school is like that, they have to at least see us outside. Doesn't matter if it's us poking our head out of the door or what. I told the bus driver on the first day that I have a small baby and sometimes I might be feeding her at the time he gets dropped off so if I could stick my head out of the door if that would be okay and she said as long as she sees me she will let him off or on.

NopeNotGonnaDOIt 6 kids; Cuba 3000 posts
12th Sep '13

It's policy here that children in kindergarten cannot be unattended at the stops, wether pick up or drop off. They will not even let the child get off the bus if you are not right there at drop off. Maybe there is a similar policy in place and thats why the bus driver gave you "the look". I would make sure, the last thing you need is to be reported by some nazi driver. If not then good for him for being such a big boy! And I would just smile and wave at the looks next time, lol.