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Small Vent... What do you have to say? Momma Suzie Q & 2 2 kids; California 3867 posts
12th Sep

So anyways small Vent... our marraige has not been 100% and i know what i need to work on and i'm sure SO does too.. so this past week i have tried going above and beyond just to start making a differnece little by little and not trying to complain but yet again hubby goes to the sex subject and says we dont take our time anymore... i want to go longer with you and u want to go to bed right away... so im like UM HOLD UP!!!
When you get home from working a 10hr shift.. you sit at home and watch tv while the girls play.. i get home i cook i serve everyone ... clean i pick up the kitchen wash the dishes shower the girls dress them dry thier hair iron your uniform for work next day pick up toys clean up bathroom.. maybe read them a story or play with thme for like 10min... so by the time you want to have sex HELLS FCK YEAH im tired WTF.. then he has to nerve to compare me to his mom and my mom.. well saying my mom had 3 kids my dad was never home and she still massaged him gave him this and that whenver he wanted.. and your mom also right now has your dad like a king.. i said 1ST OF ALL.. we live in two diff time changes... 30-35yrs ago women were diff.. now we both work full time... and second of all my mom and dad dont have kids to tend to anymore!! HELLO!!
So its like wtf he always has this mentallity that i have to literally do everything and still make time for sex yes its true but fck give me a break!! ughhh any other men act like this to you??? I'm the only child and my mom taught me to be very independant and not depend on a man and never really told me how to act with men my parents they divorced when i was 6 so i never knew what or how to handle a marraige?? HELLO how is that my fault??? End of vent.. thanks ladies...

3sACrowd 3 kids; Alaska 3325 posts
12th Sep

If he wants to act and be treated like a child, he can go live with mommy. If my husband acted like this, I'd probably punch him in the balls, every day lol

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 20544 posts
12th Sep

My husband understands that I work full time and need help. He helps me out around the house a little more now that I'm working more and we have an agreement that he puts LO to bed on tuesday's and thursday's (and those are usually the nights we'll have sex, if we do). He cooks dinner at least once a week too and does most of the dishes during the week.

The Bear and The Bird 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42577 posts
12th Sep

I'd tell him if he wants to be treated like a king, he needs to start treaties you like a queen. If he wants sex, lighten your load.

Momma Suzie Q & 2 2 kids; California 3867 posts
12th Sep
Quoting 3sACrowd:" If he wants to act and be treated like a child, he can go live with mommy. If my husband acted like this, I'd probably punch him in the balls, every day lol"


He even saw how badly his dad treated his mom and yet still she was the old fashion traditional mexican wife that shut her mouth and did everything and when he wanted.. im sorry but im NOT LIKE THAT... he gets mad and even his mom told him one day... we live in different time zones now.. you cant expect her to be like me??? So he knows it he just wont let go of that my mom did everything crap... GREAT FOR HER... im so proud of your mom.. i do enough maybe not 150% but its enough for me.. if he is not happy then sorry dont know how much I HAVE TO FCKN sacrifice to make HIM happy and what about me right?? LOL

Momma Suzie Q & 2 2 kids; California 3867 posts
12th Sep
Quoting The Bear and The Bird:" I'd tell him if he wants to be treated like a king, he needs to start treaties you like a queen. If he wants sex, lighten your load."


yes that is true his way of helping me with the load is putting the baby to sleep because he is better at it.. ok great thanks... but there are also at least 10 other daily routine things that have to be done.. not all but its life... i tell him help me more so when the time comes im not tired... and he is like um yeah.. its your job... example.. yesterday i had dinner ready just forgot to make rice.. i asked him hey when you get home can you help me make the rice did he do it?? NOPE.. so when i got home i had to take another 15min and do the rice... its like WTF

A.V.N. 1 child; 402 posts
12th Sep

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Bear and The Bird:</b>" I'd tell him if he wants to be treated like a king, he needs to start treaties you like a queen. If he wants sex, lighten your load."</blockquote>



!!

A.V.N. 1 child; 402 posts
12th Sep

<blockquote><b>Quoting 3sACrowd:</b>" If he wants to act and be treated like a child, he can go live with mommy. If my husband acted like this, I'd probably punch him in the balls, every day lol"</blockquote>




! haha

Carley 1 child; Cheesetown, WI, United States 775 posts
12th Sep

My husband works 40+ hours a week and STILL helps with my son when he gets home/in the morning. He doesn't do a lot of the cleaning but would if I wanted him to, he does do dishes and take the trash out and such. Tell him if he wants to have sex, help more.

Momma Suzie Q & 2 2 kids; California 3867 posts
12th Sep
Quoting Riley Elise:" My husband works 40+ hours a week and STILL helps with my son when he gets home/in the morning. He doesn't ... [snip!] ... but would if I wanted him to, he does do dishes and take the trash out and such. Tell him if he wants to have sex, help more."


He thinks his part is watering the grass every night and taking out the trash every other day... and maybe maybe iron his uniform or putting the baby to sleep but as far as set responsibilities he doesnt do them consistently... or says i will take this job on from now on.. only water the grass and trash is his work for now.. which im like um wtf...