I just got back from taking DS to talk to the deputy who works with me at the elementary school. We met at the jail/sheriff's office.
From the moment we got there the deputy was in total scared straight mode. He didn't hold back on DS at all. He even took him to a cell.
By the end DS promised to do good from now on and stop all the bad things he's doing and to listen to his parents. He was all yes sir and no sir.
Hopefully this will work. He's been a changed child since we got in the car. All yes ma'am and no ma'am and being quiet and asking permission and if I say no he just goes ok yes ma'am.
It was so odd, though. At school the deputy is always so goofy and a big smile on his face and joking around. When we met he was all business in total cop mode lol.
He said if it doesn't work, bring him back and he'll do it again.
I hate scaring DS, but I'm trying to catch it before he gets really really bad and really does have to go to jail.
Glad he's behaving! I hope this works. Sometimes it takes scaring a kid to do it. Scaring my brother is all that would work sometimes. It was never a regular thing but after he was a good kid for awhile he made friends easier too
I hope it works! DH and my dad both work a prison here I wouldn't hesitate to do this with DS if he ever needs it....
<blockquote><b>Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:</b>" Glad he's behaving! I hope this works. Sometimes it takes scaring a kid to do it. Scaring my brother ... [snip!] ... all that would work sometimes. It was never a regular thing but after he was a good kid for awhile he made friends easier too"</blockquote>
That's great it helped your brother! I'm hoping DS really got that he needs to straighten up.
Hope it works. My criminal law teacher in school did that with her DD because of shoplifting but all of the cops knew her so instead of doing the "scared thing" they took her back and gave her candy... so needless to say that didn't work well. Glad it sounds like he took it seriously for you :)
I think it's awesome they are doing this! They are nipping it in the bud real quick like and that's what's needed with these kids. Not when they're in high school.