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fair and silly? Jessica Leigh Simpson 2 kids; Sanford, North Carolina 183 posts
13th Sep '13

For my comfort level I would like to know what you guys think about this silly arguement my husband and I had.
My daughter wanted my husband to brush her teeth and my husband refused. His reasoning was "because he's not good at it"
I asked him if he was going to brush my daughters teeth he said "I guess I have no choice"
I explained to him that I will be addressing this to our marriage conselor. His response was " I don't give a flying fuck what the marriage conselor has to say, actually why don't you go fuck him"
We start consueling Monday.
Then when was walking away he said well if she gets a cavity from me not brushing right then you'll be getting a job to pay for dental work"
When we married we agreed id be the homemaker and he'd work. Do you think any of this is fair?

Chibs 2 kids; Missouri 12147 posts
13th Sep '13

I think it was petty to say you would bring it up to the marriage counselor,just because he didn't want to brush your daughters teeth
Not worthy of bringing it up in counseling IMO

Chick+6.5! Due October 18; 6 kids; 1 angel baby; Colorado 7766 posts
13th Sep '13

I think both of your statements are uncalled for and seem a little childish tbh.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
13th Sep '13

You both sound like dipshits tbh. Him for his comment and you for yours. Your comment made it sound like you were going to "tell on him" or tattle to get him in trouble and his was probably the nastiest response he could think to that. He should have just helped her with her teeth, or, you know, you could have done it too.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46161 posts
status 13th Sep '13

Why are you telling on him to your marriage counselor? You sound like a freaking toddler.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 74924 posts
13th Sep '13

I don't think you should have told him you were going to bring it up to the counselor, but he is being extremely childish.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
13th Sep '13

Lol you told him you were going to tattle on him? If its that big of an issue then just bring it up. Or you know do it yourself. I don't blame him for being mean or pissed. I would too. He isn't your kid. Quit treating him like one.

Mishella Mase Due December 4 (boy); 1 child; Bolivar, Ohio 42 posts
13th Sep '13

Well, I'm glad you guys sought out counseling to try to work it out, that seems like an odd thing to fight about =/ I can see that both of your statements seem childish from the outside, but for that to happen over brushing her teeth, there are some underlying issues there... It's the little things that matter, and your daughter wanting him to brush her teeth shouldn't have started that kind of a fight. I hope you guys can work something out for the best <3

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7116 posts
13th Sep '13

you sound like you're 5. Going and tattling on him for not brushing your daughters teeth? You both need help.......

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
13th Sep '13

I think that both of you were stupid. Nothing he said warranted your "bring it up in marriage counseling" statement and his reaction was stupid as well.

user banned 1 child; :), :), United States 5380 posts
13th Sep '13

Yikes. Good thing you two are going to marriage counseling. :)

Cry Baby 1 child; ........, .., United States 16652 posts
13th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Crystal

Jessica Leigh Simpson 2 kids; Sanford, North Carolina 183 posts
13th Sep '13

Thank you Mishella! I know I should rephrased my comment to him with a little more respect but it came out wrong.
I always try to make him see how unfair he's being at times and the only thing I can say is let's see what the conselor has to say about this petty arguement.
AND for the ladies who said I should brush her teeth..well I would if my husband refused but like I said in my post my daughter wanted him to brush her teeth.
My LO will not open her mouth for me and she is perfectly fine when he does it.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
13th Sep '13
Quoting Jessica Leigh Simpson:" Thank you Mishella! I know I should rephrased my comment to him with a little more respect but it came ... [snip!] ... my daughter wanted him to brush her teeth. My LO will not open her mouth for me and she is perfectly fine when he does it."

Don't do it though. If you don't know how, wait until your session and let the Counselor teach you how to communicate with him. The way you're going now is only going to hurt any situation you're in.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 74924 posts
13th Sep '13
Quoting Jessica Leigh Simpson:" Thank you Mishella! I know I should rephrased my comment to him with a little more respect but it came ... [snip!] ... my daughter wanted him to brush her teeth. My LO will not open her mouth for me and she is perfectly fine when he does it."

Why doesn't he want to help her? That's really bizarre. If your LO is specifically asking for him to help then he should do it.