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can I leave him unsupervised? mommy2lilbean TTC since Aug 2013; Japan 146 posts
14th Sep '13

The other day I posted about keeping my 12 month old in a play pen, after reading the responses I removed the pen and he now roams free. Our house is baby proofed and the living room where he spends most his time is very safe and there is a gate so he cannot get out if I don't want him to. I am having a hard time getting some things done now because I am worried to turn my back on him at all. I have to go into our basement to do laundry, I forgot I have a load of towels in the washer from last night and they will be getting funky soon if I do not get them in the dryer. Is it okay to leave him alone in the living room for about 5 minutes to run downstairs and switch over laundry? I feel like the moment I leave the room he will hurt himself.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56009 posts
14th Sep '13

I'd put him in the playpen and do it.



What is wrong with using a playpen?

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
14th Sep '13

What's wrong with a playpen?? Id do that before no play pen!

Dillinger 1 child; ........, .., United States 17042 posts
14th Sep '13

For something like that I would use the playpen.

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
14th Sep '13
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" I'd put him in the playpen and do it. What is wrong with using a playpen?"


!!!!

The Blissful Six 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 10260 posts
14th Sep '13

Seriously, put him a playpen just for those moments. Who cares what anyone else thinks. The safety of your child should come first.

Van West Auckland, NZ, New Zealand 3179 posts
14th Sep '13
Quoting The Undead Jack Sparrow:" For something like that I would use the playpen."

:!:

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
14th Sep '13

I read your previous post and I see nothing wrong with that.. You said he is happy in it for maybe two hours a day? I would do the same if I took that time to clean and stuff

mommy2lilbean TTC since Aug 2013; Japan 146 posts
14th Sep '13
Quoting Carissa Biron:" I read your previous post and I see nothing wrong with that.. You said he is happy in it for maybe two hours a day? I would do the same if I took that time to clean and stuff"


Well the issue is our living room is too small to keep the pen up and to let him roam free, he wouldn't have much more room on the outside than the inside. I also used some of the panels from the pen to block him from certain things. So the play pen isn't an option, he has a pack n play I will have to bring out and leave for occasions like this. I felt guilty after reading everyone saying they wouldn't put their kid in one, it made me feel like I was hurting his development, even if no one actually said that.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56009 posts
14th Sep '13
Quoting mommy2lilbean:" Well the issue is our living room is too small to keep the pen up and to let him roam free, he wouldn't ... [snip!] ... they wouldn't put their kid in one, it made me feel like I was hurting his development, even if no one actually said that."


Like 3 people said something bad. Do you always do what other people say?



Using a playpen for getting stuff done is OKAY. As long as he isn't spending hours and hours in it. You sound like a good mom. Don't let other people get to you

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
14th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" Like 3 people said something bad. Do you always do what other people say? Using a playpen for getting ... [snip!] ... done is OKAY. As long as he isn't spending hours and hours in it. You sound like a good mom. Don't let other people get to you"</blockquote>



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mommy2lilbean TTC since Aug 2013; Japan 146 posts
14th Sep '13
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" Like 3 people said something bad. Do you always do what other people say? Using a playpen for getting ... [snip!] ... done is OKAY. As long as he isn't spending hours and hours in it. You sound like a good mom. Don't let other people get to you"


The opinions online are obviously not what I live by but I hear it from my parents all the time too and it seemed like everyone was saying that they wouldn't put their child in one, so I was feeling pretty shitty about him being in one and felt like I was in the wrong for thinking its okay. I am a new mom and have never been around children so its easy to question myself and if I am doing the right thing or not. I don't want to do anything that could harm him in anyway.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56009 posts
14th Sep '13
Quoting mommy2lilbean:" The opinions online are obviously not what I live by but I hear it from my parents all the time too ... [snip!] ... easy to question myself and if I am doing the right thing or not. I don't want to do anything that could harm him in anyway. "


Using a playpen as intended is not going to harm him in any way.

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
14th Sep '13

I put my 11 month old in her pack n play for a few minutes here and there when I need to get chores done or I'm cooking dinner. There's nothing wrong with it, that's what they're for. If you're leaving him in there all day long then it becomes an issue but otherwise, go for it and don't listen to other people.

mommy2lilbean TTC since Aug 2013; Japan 146 posts
14th Sep '13

Thanks ladies, I am feeling less guilty now. I will pull out the pack n play to keep in the corner for when I have to leave him alone for a couple minutes.