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Venting Momma Rawks 1 child; Iowa 7176 posts
14th Sep '13

You know what I hate? My son's paternal grandparents.



I have lots of previous threads about them (I feel like that's all I ever talk about on this site). They're manipulative, rude, selfish, they have been physically and verbally aggressive with me, have offered me money to leave my son with them and "go away", have told my son mean things about me, say things making me seem like the bad guy, have gotten in my face, have shouted at me in front of my son and even in public places, tattle on me to my parents (and I haven't even lived with my parents since I was sixteen, and I'm going on twenty-four now), tell my son confusing things about his dad's death (he has come home from their house telling me it's his fault his dad died, saying that his dad isn't around because he didn't like kids, etc.). Anyway, they're jerks, to say the least.



So the second-to-last time I saw them, my family and I invited them out for ice cream after my son's tee-ball game. Everything was totally fine, until we were getting ready to leave. Then they got in my face, started "crying" and going off on me (they're hardcore bullies--but play the victim card), and the grandfather ended up grabbing MY child, going out a side entrance, and put MY son in the back of his van as if he was going to drive off with him against my wishes. So the next week, they show up to the tee-ball game (despite the chaos of the previous week) and I refused to acknowledge/talk to them, because... well, can you blame me?



So, ten weeks have passed since then. Which I celebrated in my last post (or maybe it's only been nine, I can't remember off the top of my head). So two days ago, my dad randomly asks if he can take my son to the park. I say sure, that sounds great. He shows up and as my son is getting into his car, he asks if he can take him 45 minutes away to the town where his paternal grandparents live. Apparently they started texting my dad and told him that I haven't spoken to them since the last tee-ball game, and acted as though I've been refusing to let them see him and ignoring them. Well I haven't had a single freakin' e-mail, text, phone call, or so on from them. So no, I haven't refused ANYTHING.



Well my dad starts arguing with me. Going on about how I can't keep my son away from them like this, and they're tired of dealing with me, and it's not all about me, and I'm in the wrong. Blah, blah, blah. LIKE SERIOUSLY?! You have seen ALL that they have done to me. You have listened to them threaten to call the police on me, you have watched them take away my personal possessions, you have watched them put me through Hell and back, you have seen them harass me to tears, tell me how it's my fault my fiance died by suicide, make snarky comments to me, etc. You KNOW they have not contacted me, so what the heck?!



Then I vent about it on my Facebook, which I don't typically do, but I was so, so, so mad then. Low and behold, my great-aunt, who I haven't even seen in years, comments and says that they've done nothing but try to help me and I wouldn't let them, that I'm the reason they don't see their grandson, and that I ought to be ashamed of myself. Yea... thanks family, for having my back.



Everyone else, friends and family, are all like :shock: over this whole matter and can't believe either of those family members (my dad and great-aunt are not related by the way) would say such things.



I'm just pissed about the whole thing.

ℕightingale 1 child; Mississippi 7933 posts
status 14th Sep '13

Do you have a restraining order against them? If you don't get one and avoid them like the plague fucking crazy people.

ℕightingale 1 child; Mississippi 7933 posts
status 14th Sep '13

I would also tell your dad if he wanted to take your son he just fucked his chances an he will not be takin him anywhere without you.

Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6487 posts
14th Sep '13
Quoting ℕightingale:" Do you have a restraining order against them? If you don't get one and avoid them like the plague fucking crazy people."


This exactly. That's completely ridiculous. :? And let your dad know that if he can't be respectful of your parenting choices, then he won't be able to take him out.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
14th Sep '13

I would get a restraining order and a protection order asap. They are being ridiculous.

Jenny&Boopy Due June 26; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7398 posts
status 14th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ℕightingale:</b>" Do you have a restraining order against them? If you don't get one and avoid them like the plague fucking crazy people."</blockquote>




This! I would stay as far away as possible. It's their own fault if they can't see him anymore because of how they are acting.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
14th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rain (aka Mama):</b>" This exactly. That's completely ridiculous. :? And let your dad know that if he can't be respectful of your parenting choices, then he won't be able to take him out. "</blockquote>




I agree.

Tikaytasha 17 kids; New York 11503 posts
14th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ℕightingale:</b>" Do you have a restraining order against them? If you don't get one and avoid them like the plague fucking crazy people."</blockquote>




This, 100%.



I'm SO sorry you've had to deal with them. I've read previous threads before of you talking about them, and I just have to say you're a nicer person than I am. After the first fucked up incident I wouldn't have even spoken to them. Assholes.

mommommommyma 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Armenia 1116 posts
14th Sep '13

I agree with everyone 100 %. Get a restraining order... like yesterday

Momma Rawks 1 child; Iowa 7176 posts
14th Sep '13

I don't think I can get a restraining order? I've read the guidelines for my state, and since I never filed a police report or anything over their behavior (I wanted to think it was just grief at first, but two years later, they're still batshit crazy), so I don't have any proof of anything other than he-said, she-said.



Grandparents rights in my state are pretty much impossible to obtain. I unofficially documented everything they've done via Baby-Gaga, and I have witnesses to their strange behaviors, so even if they attempted to pursue those rights, I think I would totally knock them off their asses.



Like I said, they haven't contacted us since the first week of July. Which is great for me. My son doesn't miss them, doesn't mention them, and is totally content without them. I just think it's really shady/shitty of them (but not unsurprising) that they tried to get my dad to sneak him up to them behind my back. But while my dad wanted to, when I said no, he knew better than to go against what I said (though I still think he's kind of an ass for even asking). Apparently he messaged them that if they want to see my son, they'll have to talk to me--surprise, surprise, they still have not contacted me. Grandparents of the year? I think not!

ℕightingale 1 child; Mississippi 7933 posts
status 14th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Momma Rawks:</b>" I don't think I can get a restraining order? I've read the guidelines for my state, and since I never ... [snip!] ... son, they'll have to talk to me--surprise, surprise, they still have not contacted me. Grandparents of the year? I think not!"</blockquote>




Well next time document everything and file police reports and get a restraining order for you and your kid. I'd be terrified they would try to kidnap him.

Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6487 posts
14th Sep '13
Quoting Momma Rawks:" I don't think I can get a restraining order? I've read the guidelines for my state, and since I never ... [snip!] ... son, they'll have to talk to me--surprise, surprise, they still have not contacted me. Grandparents of the year? I think not!"


Ahh. Well, they're still completely ridiculous. If you can't get a restraining order, at least you're standing your ground. They sound like a pain in the ass.

Momma Rawks 1 child; Iowa 7176 posts
14th Sep '13

My son is with me 24/7. I'm a nanny, so he even goes to work with me. They tried to take him for an overnight on a specific weekend and I said no (which is why the last incident occurred), and as it turned out, the weekend in question they flew halfway across the nation to attend a family wedding. Coincidence?



The only place my son goes without me is school, and the owner of the school knows the story with them. One of the forms they gave me to fill out at enrollment asked who had permission to get my son (which is myself, my mom, and my sister) and then asked if there were any restraining orders or otherwise people who under no circumstances should be picking up my son, and I put their names.



I tried really hard for about a year and a half to get along with them. I wanted them to have a relationship with my son. I talked to them about their behavior and just really wanted to make things okay. But then I realized that no matter how much effort I put into it, they weren't changing, so I stopped playing nice and trying. So now they can eff off, and it's their own fault that they're stuck missing out on my son (who by the way is totally awesome, so it's a pretty big loss :wink: ).

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
14th Sep '13

I don't know what their issue is but but I hope they fix themselves if they ever want to be full parts in your sons life. I'd lost my shit if anyone, related or not tried to put my child in their car.