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Randilion 2 kids; Jared Leto's Pants, :D, Antarctica 10248 posts
17th Sep '13
Quoting MR098:" "Colt's mommy" That's what I'm hoping and my husband says that'll make him feel better about it. And ... [snip!] ... deciding on the ring. PS Ive never told him I didn't like the ring and I never made a big deal about the lack of research."


You had to have told him, or he wouldn't know anything was wrong.

Bun in the oven♥ Due February 15 (boy); NA, NA, United States 5361 posts
status 17th Sep '13
Quoting MR098:" "Colt's mommy" That's what I'm hoping and my husband says that'll make him feel better about it. And ... [snip!] ... deciding on the ring. PS Ive never told him I didn't like the ring and I never made a big deal about the lack of research."

Go back to page 2..i tried to help you make a decision by saying if you want a new ring or set that walmart has beautiful cheaper rings..

MR098 Japan 13 posts
17th Sep '13

I guess people aren't reading the past posts. My husband and I went to a jewelry store and happen to find out about the flaws (not worth what he thought, he spent too much, chips in diamond, engraved with someone elses' name) that he was mislead about when he bought it. He was so upset. I was too, so yeah he knows that it makes me sad that this happened to him. So, this is what I think about when I look at the ring and him too which is the only reason I would consider changing my ring (really downgrading, maybe using the word "upgrading" is what got people so against me)

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 22106 posts
status 17th Sep '13
Quoting Randilyn:" You had to have told him, or he wouldn't know anything was wrong."


Well, I feel like he might have felt bad on his own when they got it appraised and it was far less than what he thought. I think unless she assured him 100% of the time that she loves it, and would never want anyother ring and couldn't imagine any other ring, then he would want to fix it. And I'm sure it's hard to keep up that facade when there's obviously a bit more emotion involved.

MR098 Japan 13 posts
17th Sep '13

"Anxiouslywaiting" I did see that and appreciate you saying that because I will probably get something way cheaper (just a plain wedding band, like i've said), but I know my husband wants it to be all new and get a comparable e-ring and wedding band (since mine can't fit any other ring)

Bun in the oven♥ Due February 15 (boy); NA, NA, United States 5361 posts
status 17th Sep '13
Quoting MR098:" "Anxiouslywaiting" I did see that and appreciate you saying that because I will probably get something ... [snip!] ... but I know my husband wants it to be all new and get a comparable e-ring and wedding band (since mine can't fit any other ring)"

Good luck. I hope you find a ring you love.

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 8148 posts
status 17th Sep '13
Quoting MR098:" I guess people aren't reading the past posts. My husband and I went to a jewelry store and happen to ... [snip!] ... I would consider changing my ring (really downgrading, maybe using the word "upgrading" is what got people so against me)"


We aren't against you. At least I'm not. IJust feel like your feelings are misplaced. It is annoying that he was scammed. But either way, he had the best intentions. If you told him you didn't want to change it, you love it the way it is, I think you both could accept the ring.
Then you could get a wedding band that you researched the quality, that you love.

MR098 Japan 13 posts
17th Sep '13

Yeah the facade about how I felt was hard and he saw through it, but during the actual wedding he and I were too stressed to address it and now here we are.

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1804 posts
17th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MR098:</b>" I guess people aren't reading the past posts. My husband and I went to a jewelry store and happen to ... [snip!] ... I would consider changing my ring (really downgrading, maybe using the word "upgrading" is what got people so against me)"</blockquote>




my ring is worth absolutely shit and was only $20 online, i still get compliments on it and i still love it. why would you even take the ring to a jeweler in the first place if you weren't worried about it? of course he would feel like shit, because he would know what was wrong with it and would feel like he failed on making a moment in life so special because the ring wasn't "perfect" honestly the only people that are going to understand your issues are the materialistic girls that don't think anything is good enough unless there was a crap ton of money that was but into it.

MR098 Japan 13 posts
17th Sep '13

You guys are relentless. We took it because no regular band would go with the ring, so we went to a jeweler to get advice about the wedding band and then he just started telling us all this stuff and then of course that man felt so bad when he realized we didn't know all this stuff.

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 8148 posts
status 17th Sep '13
Quoting MR098:" You guys are relentless. We took it because no regular band would go with the ring, so we went to a jeweler ... [snip!] ... just started telling us all this stuff and then of course that man felt so bad when he realized we didn't know all this stuff."


Just talk with him about what you both want to do about it. There is no need for stress and regret over an engagement ring. It is supposed to be a wonderful reminder of your love. You two should agree on what to do, and just do it.



Obviously this post is going no where. You aren't taking any advice or listening to anything that is posted. You are just trying to defend your feelings.

Randilion 2 kids; Jared Leto's Pants, :D, Antarctica 10248 posts
17th Sep '13
Quoting Colt's mommy:" Well, I feel like he might have felt bad on his own when they got it appraised and it was far less than ... [snip!] ... he would want to fix it. And I'm sure it's hard to keep up that facade when there's obviously a bit more emotion involved. "


Idk, I guess I read it differently. I just feel like too big of a deal is being made over a ring she doesn't like. Her first post saying things like "I agreed to wait to get a new one til our first anniversary," etc., etc. just make it seem like she's not putting up a front in any way how she truly feels about it. Even if she didn't say she doesn't like it, sometimes other factors indicate she doesn't a lot louder.

MR098 Japan 13 posts
17th Sep '13

Yeah its going no where, so I'll stop. I appreciate the little advice I got. Most of it was just telling me how awful I am, so this may not be a good place to get support. Thanks to those that at least tried to be supportive and not tear me down or judge me without knowing the details.

♥ laura-marie + 1 1 child; Stalybridge, United Kingdom 1339 posts
17th Sep '13
Quoting MR098:" Yeah its going no where, so I'll stop. I appreciate the little advice I got. Most of it was just telling ... [snip!] ... get support. Thanks to those that at least tried to be supportive and not tear me down or judge me without knowing the details."


This is a great place for support but people here won't tell you just what you want to hear.
You were sounding rude and ungrateful, that's just how it came across.
Lots of people gave you advice you just decided to ignore it.
and no one tried to or wanted to tear you down or anything.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 22106 posts
status 17th Sep '13
Quoting ♥ laura-marie + 1:" This is a great place for support but people here won't tell you just what you want to hear. You were ... [snip!] ... Lots of people gave you advice you just decided to ignore it. and no one tried to or wanted to tear you down or anything. "


This is all true. No one got really after you about it. Though, if you can't handle this thread that did not get out of hand at all, then this may not be the best place for you. Or maybe you could at least lurk around before posting again and kind of get the feel of the place first.