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Nicola. 2 kids; Manton, MI, United States 12917 posts
Sep 17th '13
Quoting ♥ laura-marie + 1:" Haha thanks =] Sometimes I wanna scream and be like Why can she get away with being a nut job and everything but I have to be nicey nicey all the time. urgh. "


b***hes be crazy. :roll:



Sorry for some reason that came to my mind and I felt the need to say it. haha

♥ laura-marie + 1 1 child; Stalybridge, United Kingdom 1341 posts
Sep 17th '13
Quoting Nicola.:" b***hes be crazy. :roll: Sorry for some reason that came to my mind and I felt the need to say it. haha"


nah it's fine I usually think something along the lines of "well...she cray cray" and do a funny head movement lol so yeah im with you haha

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4766 posts
Sep 17th '13

I wouldn't personally let him go. I mean, yes his father is going to be there and he should get to bond with his brother. But there ARE other ways for them to bond besides letting him go to a birthday party that his half brother's mother is throwing. That's just me though. I don't see the need that he has to go to the party that his brother's mom is throwing when it sounds like you and his father throw his brother a birthday party too. It's not like you are completely keeping them away from each other so it wouldn't really hurt to not allow him to go to that side of the family's birthday party ESPECIALLY if you don't feel comfortable with it. In the end, it's only yours and his father's decision to make. Don't let anything else sway how YOU feel about it bc at the end of it all, you're the one who has to deal with it all.



As for when he's older, I think that's only a decision he is allowed to make so yes, sooner or later it will probably become an issue. At that point though, I would make sure he knows that if he were to ever feel uncomfortable about her, he doesn't HAVE to be around her because SHE is not his actual family.

♥ laura-marie + 1 1 child; Stalybridge, United Kingdom 1341 posts
Sep 17th '13
Quoting Trey&Genesis'momma:" I wouldn't personally let him go. I mean, yes his father is going to be there and he should get to bond ... [snip!] ... that if he were to ever feel uncomfortable about her, he doesn't HAVE to be around her because SHE is not his actual family. "


Thank you and like I said the older son stays at my house every weekend from friday till sunday at a minimum but sometimes more. she they see each other alllll the time.

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4766 posts
Sep 17th '13
Quoting ♥ laura-marie + 1:" Thank you and like I said the older son stays at my house every weekend from friday till sunday at a minimum but sometimes more. she they see each other alllll the time. "

Yeah that's what I'm saying. I guess I just don't get the big hype that it's "keeping the brothers away from each other" when they are constantly around each other. To me, going to one birthday party a year is not binding them as brothers. Blood is binding them and as long as they still get to see each other on a regular basis, there is absolutely no need to say, "Oh you're keeping them away from each other" IMO.

♥ laura-marie + 1 1 child; Stalybridge, United Kingdom 1341 posts
Sep 17th '13
Quoting Trey&Genesis'momma:" Yeah that's what I'm saying. I guess I just don't get the big hype that it's "keeping the brothers away ... [snip!] ... to see each other on a regular basis, there is absolutely no need to say, "Oh you're keeping them away from each other" IMO. "


yeah, Maybe I should have mentioned that in the origional post. My thought is that from next year he will probably be asking to go and I can't say no then because im not petty and im not going to be like "no because his mums a nutter" lol im not like that.
It's just that im not allowed to go which is wierd to me. Well it's just that she will be there lol that's the issue.
But this is my last year I don't have to have him near her. from next year he will ask to go and I'll have no choice. I just wanted to keep him away a little longer.

Good Queen Bess Due December 27; 2 kids; Ontario 49484 posts
Sep 17th '13
Quoting ♥ laura-marie + 1:" yeah, Maybe I should have mentioned that in the origional post. My thought is that from next year he ... [snip!] ... have him near her. from next year he will ask to go and I'll have no choice. I just wanted to keep him away a little longer. "


It's not just your choice. Your partner has a say as well.



If he wants his children to be together, you should go with it. His father and grandmother will both be there.

Delilah Rae TTC since Jul 2013; Japan 67 posts
Sep 17th '13

If she isn't even mature enough to invite you along then I wouldn't let him go.

Good Queen Bess Due December 27; 2 kids; Ontario 49484 posts
Sep 17th '13
Quoting Delilah Rae:" If she isn't even mature enough to invite you along then I wouldn't let him go."


So, you are telling her to use her child as a pawn because the mother of the other child doesn't want someone around who makes her uncomfortable?



Seriously? When you are in a co-parenting situation, sometimes you have to suck it up for the sake of the kids involved.

♥ laura-marie + 1 1 child; Stalybridge, United Kingdom 1341 posts
Sep 17th '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" It's not just your choice. Your partner has a say as well. If he wants his children to be together, you should go with it. His father and grandmother will both be there."


I know, I'm always left with the decision making so I just assumed it was the same. ok, well i'll be speaking with the grandmother too and make a plan.



urgh I keep going over it and changing my mind in my head.
she will say something about my son, i know she will and that's what worries me. it will be petty like a fb status or something but she will say something.

♥ laura-marie + 1 1 child; Stalybridge, United Kingdom 1341 posts
Sep 17th '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" So, you are telling her to use her child as a pawn because the mother of the other child doesn't want ... [snip!] ... Seriously? When you are in a co-parenting situation, sometimes you have to suck it up for the sake of the kids involved."


oh trust me I don't make her uncomfortable lol!
she will be all tight tops, b**bs out and three inches of make up on lol.
I'd be the uncomfortable one.

Good Queen Bess Due December 27; 2 kids; Ontario 49484 posts
Sep 17th '13
Quoting ♥ laura-marie + 1:" I know, I'm always left with the decision making so I just assumed it was the same. ok, well i'll be ... [snip!] ... my son, i know she will and that's what worries me. it will be petty like a fb status or something but she will say something. "


If you know that she is going to be petty, ignore it.

Good Queen Bess Due December 27; 2 kids; Ontario 49484 posts
Sep 17th '13
Quoting ♥ laura-marie + 1:" oh trust me I don't make her uncomfortable lol! she will be all tight tops, b**bs out and three inches of make up on lol. I'd be the uncomfortable one. "


Yeah, that's not what I was talking about...but okay.

♥ laura-marie + 1 1 child; Stalybridge, United Kingdom 1341 posts
Sep 17th '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" If you know that she is going to be petty, ignore it."


I do, but its hard sometimes when it's my boy.
I dont know how to explain it, I feel guilty and like I'm going to be throwing him to a bully and walking away.
do you know what I mean?

♥ laura-marie + 1 1 child; Stalybridge, United Kingdom 1341 posts
Sep 17th '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Yeah, that's not what I was talking about...but okay."


oh sorry, I mis-read then.