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.Sweet Dee. 1 child; New York City, NY, Hong Kong 4484 posts
17th Sep '13

I would go to l and d. Tell them you know a lot about what's going on as you have been trough it and if your doctor isn't going to take him the. You want to be monitored. Its nit good for to sit at home worrying yourself sick that something could happen to your child.

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4675 posts
18th Sep '13
Quoting Aiden&Jensen's Mommy:" Thank you! Yes he has IUGR my first DS (who is 15months old) had it as well.. but he has it worse than ... [snip!] ... want any children to have problems because I was selfish and got pregnant knowing ALL the problems I have during pregnancy."

Yep you sound just like me. Lol. Trust me, I've been there. I absolutely agree with you that if it's that bad, they should be getting him out right away. With my middle child, the drs didn't hesitate to take her out immediately after my last NST and ultrasound both showed she was in immediate danger. With my last, I had a different dr and didn't develop IUGR till right near the end unlike my middle daughter where it was diagnosed at 19 weeks. And the dr, knowing my previous history still chose to keep the baby in for another week to give her time to grow. Scared the crap out of me....I was constantly worried that I was gonna wake up and she would be still born up until the day I went in for my csection. She ended up not having any of the problems my other daughter did but still suffers some respiratory issues. So I guess in a way, that extra week was good for her. But at the time, I was furious that my dr wasn't taking precautions and getting her out immediately knowing my previous baby was almost delivered dead.



As far as being done with kids, that's only a choice you can make. I said during my last I wouldn't have any more kids because in every pregnancy, I've had some kind of complication. But the dr didn't inform me he couldn't tie my tubes at the same time as my csection until after it was done. So I opted out of it because I've already had 3 csections and a gall bladder surgery all in a matter of 4 years and didn't like the idea of having to come back 6 weeks after healing from my csection to be cut open again. I ended up pregnant again and although at the beginning it wasn't so bad, I've started having complications again so I know this time will absolutely be my last time. Not that I want more than four kids anyways. But I'm mostly doing it because I just can't jepordize my health anymore or my baby's health. Makes me so angry too that there's something so wrong with my body that doesn't allow babies to grow right and cause other complications. I feel like I'm defected in a way.

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 6862 posts
18th Sep '13
Quoting Trey&Genesis'momma:" Yep you sound just like me. Lol. Trust me, I've been there. I absolutely agree with you that if it's ... [snip!] ... wrong with my body that doesn't allow babies to grow right and cause other complications. I feel like I'm defected in a way. "


I remember having that battle with my high risk dr with my middle son. He was always borderline for qualifying as IUGR. They said it would be automatic induction or c-section if he was under the 10 %. At 35 weeks, he was measuring in the 11%, so they sent me for an amnio instead to check for lung maturity. Shocker, but his lungs weren't ready at 35 weeks.... :) Anyway, I did end up staying pregnant until the following week, but I did some research at home too. There have been several studies done to figure out if it's beneficial to induce an IUGR pregnancy before the mom's body goes into labor on its own.



The average result was a big fat maybe. They said a good portion of the time, the mom's body would spontaneously go into labor if the placenta stopped functioning correctly. Sometimes they'd induce a pregnancy and find out that the baby was actually much bigger than expected. That didn't help me at all, especially since I have PTL issues right from the beginning which they had been stopping at that point for over 20 weeks.



Anyway, one way or the other, he was fine when he was born. No NICU time. We did have to see a geneticist to make sure there wasn't something else going on. My placenta looked normal. It was just one of those things.



I do understand what you guys mean about having bodies that don't work. I use to get very angry at the normal people who could work full time jobs, have a couple of other young kids, be pregnant and then have a perfectly ordinary medication free delivery at 40weeks. :) My pregnancies have never and will never go like that. The issues for us keep piling up, so it is very unlikely that I will be having anymore children. Dh has a somewhat recently diagnosed genetic issue that the boys have a 50% chance of inheriting from him, I would have absolutely considered having another baby at some point down the road though if things were different.

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4675 posts
18th Sep '13
Quoting Summerfrost:" I remember having that battle with my high risk dr with my middle son. He was always borderline for ... [snip!] ... from him, I would have absolutely considered having another baby at some point down the road though if things were different. "

Yeah it was annoying for me to trust my dr and hope that he knew what he was doing with my third. So far, so good as far as IUGR goes for this baby. My anatomy ultrasound showed he was actually measuring ahead of schedule so I'm taking that as a good sign maybe I won't deliver a third IUGR baby. But from experience with my last, I know it can hit at any given time. So I'm really not even out of the woods till the delivery. It's just other issues I'm having. I really think my body is trying to tell me no more babies. Lol. Aagh well I hope your boys don't end up inheriting the genetic disorder from their dad.

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 6862 posts
18th Sep '13
Quoting Trey&Genesis'momma:" Yeah it was annoying for me to trust my dr and hope that he knew what he was doing with my third. So ... [snip!] ... trying to tell me no more babies. Lol. Aagh well I hope your boys don't end up inheriting the genetic disorder from their dad. "


For me, my IUGR baby didn't start having issues until 30 weeks. My main high risk dr was out because of surgery and i got a different dr for a while. She made me cry at every appointment, once a week, until my other dr came back and induced me. The replacement dr would talk about all of the horrible things that could happen to my son, so by the time I left, i was a mess. I still dislike the other dr. :)



We got the boys tested and just got the results back last week actually. My middle baby got the mutation, but my oldest and youngest are fine. Without going on and on about it, it sucks, but it could have been worse. I'm not real crazy about the treatment options or option. If you want the full run down of it all, it's under one of my posts. Real short version is that it's something called FAP (familial adesomething polyposis)

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4675 posts
18th Sep '13
Quoting Summerfrost:" For me, my IUGR baby didn't start having issues until 30 weeks. My main high risk dr was out because ... [snip!] ... of it all, it's under one of my posts. Real short version is that it's something called FAP (familial adesomething polyposis) "

I hate when drs make us cry. Lol. Yeah my second child was diagnosed at 19 weeks and my third was diagnosed at 37 weeks I believe. With my middle child, I had NO idea how serious IUGR could be. Never even heard of it and luckily my drs tried to ease my mind and stay positive....till the day my last test came back bad and then they were like, "Oh my gosh! We have to get her out immediately or she'll be still born!" And then they kept reminding me before my surgery how high of a chance she had of being dead. I went into my surgery bawling my eyes out. And okay....yeah I'll probably read your post. I've never heard of that before. I'm sorry to hear your middle child tested positive for the mutation though :/

Aiden&Jensen's Mommy Due November 23; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 209 posts
19th Sep '13

Thanks for all of the support. I am still pregnant.. I have a non stress test tomorrow. I am just a wreck right now. I can't really sleep much. I can't even keep down much liquid.. and my son is still not really moving much. But again my OB just doesn't seem to care.. If I don't go into L&D tonight I am raising hell tomorrow at my appointment...

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4675 posts
19th Sep '13
Quoting Aiden&Jensen's Mommy:" Thanks for all of the support. I am still pregnant.. I have a non stress test tomorrow. I am just a wreck ... [snip!] ... But again my OB just doesn't seem to care.. If I don't go into L&D tonight I am raising hell tomorrow at my appointment..."

Give them hell. I would. You have every right to be concerned about your baby's health. I hope things get better for you though. Hugs <3

Aiden&Jensen's Mommy Due November 23; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 209 posts
19th Sep '13

Well my ob said that I can try natural things to go into labor but unless something changes I am not going to get induced...... SO and I are out walking right now. Just walked 2miles and getting a drink and going for more.... He needs out and I will do everything that is safe... mostly just walking and sex to get him out so he can get the care that he needs... But if I last until tomorrow when I go to my appointment the whole doctor's office will probably hate him!!! I'm done playing games. This is my child's life!!

Alison79 Due September 30; Japan 30 posts
20th Sep '13

Gosh I'm so sorry to hear this. I've had a very difficult pregnancy too and some growth issues that *seem* to have resolved. I can't help but feel like my body is not a very good incubator and I'm seriously wondering if this will be my only child. If we both survive my upcoming C-section with decent health, I guess it wouldn't be so bad. I understand how you feel and I also know what it's like to hate your doctors. I'm seeing high risk doctors and even they don't take anything seriously. They never told me I was anemic and they sorta laugh at me when I express concern about anything. My perinatologist literally said "why are you worried about that?" with a laugh when my baby went from 40% to 18% in two weeks. Good luck and I pray that you have a very good outcome!!!