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I want another baby so badly. BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
17th Sep '13

I suppose this is the right place to post this?



My kids are both over the age of 2 and I really wanted to start trying for another baby around the 2 year mark. But a lot of things have happened in the last year that has prevented that from happening.
And now I don't know if SO will ever be comfortable having another child.
Both our kids were "mistakes" neither was actually planned, so we kinda just dealt with what came at us.
Now I have an IUD so there is a pretty good chance there wont be any "oops" babies in our future as long as I have it and I don't want to force another child on my SO.
I'm willing to wait until we are both in better places, mentally and financially but I am really scared that he wont EVER want another baby.
It's always been my dream to have more kids. I've always wanted at least 4. And SO knows this.
IDK. I know now is not the time to have one but it is making me so scared to think that I may NEVER have another one.
I want another baby so badly. Being a Mother makes me so happy and I'm fairly good at it :lol:
I wish everything in my life would just stop going to the shitter and I could do the things I want to do.

Kali'sMommy♥ 1 child; California 13723 posts
17th Sep '13

How old are you if you don't mind me asking? Just because you cant have a child now doesn't mean you wont ever have another one! Just get your head straight and your finances straight and then talk to your SO about trying to conceive another.. The worst thing you can do for another child is to bring him or her into a environment that is struggling financially IMO. Its just a bad day not a bad life. :)

MamaTay[Kennedi] 1 child; Greenville, Texas 4840 posts
status 17th Sep '13

I feel ya. But i have one of my own and SO has a son. Both were oopsies. I want to start trying in about a year to a year and a half. LOs half brother is 4.5 years olde than her and i want her to have a sibling close in age.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
17th Sep '13
Quoting Kali'sMommy♥:" How old are you if you don't mind me asking? Just because you cant have a child now doesn't mean you ... [snip!] ... child is to bring him or her into a environment that is struggling financially IMO. Its just a bad day not a bad life. :)"


I know. And that's why I haven't pushed it. I'm also only in my early 20s. So yes, I'm very young. I just... it seems like every time I even mention another baby to SO he is completely against it.
He says, not right now. And maybe in a few years. But his whole body language just screams NO!

Kali'sMommy♥ 1 child; California 13723 posts
17th Sep '13
Quoting BG Secrets:" I know. And that's why I haven't pushed it. I'm also only in my early 20s. So yes, I'm very young. I ... [snip!] ... SO he is completely against it. He says, not right now. And maybe in a few years. But his whole body language just screams NO!"


Well you have to remember that you have two. That can be more than he can handle at this moment in time. Just because he says no now doesn't mean he wont change his mind in the future. He is a human and humans are indecisive! You are very young and you still have so many more years of child barring in front of you. Just enjoy your two kiddos now and being a mom to them, the rest will follow.