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Life Insursance Beneficiary AamilahHifza Japan 46 posts
19th Sep '13

Is it just me,... I may be in the minority here...



But I feel like if my husband left, that he should want to make sure that I'm taken care of. That I'll be okay with out him. Right?



My SO got life insurance through his company for free and he put the kids as the beneficiaries. Not me. I don't think that's bad but it really hurt my feelings. I really depend on him while I'm pursing my education. If he were to pass away I would have basically figure out how to care for two kids with no job and no trade or anything to support us. Why would he want me to struggle like that? He says once I get my degree and make a contribution that he'll put me on the life insurance? But right now I don't struggle like him. I don't even know what that means.

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108769 posts
19th Sep '13

you posted about this already



It sounds like you're getting a little obsessive.



I just find it odd to be so concerned with financial issues in the event of the death of your so rather than the emotional toll a loss like this would take.

Squeaky McGee [11 wks] Due May 7; 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65284 posts
19th Sep '13

Wow. Okay, here's my honest opinion. You shouldn't expect him to fully care for you. I worked and went to school. It's very possible. So many women think they're entitled to stay home and it's irritating. With that being said, you are "contributing" by raising the kids. That's not an easy task. I wouldn't be upset if my hubby left his money to the kids; I don't need him to support me, but that's just me.

Squeaky McGee [11 wks] Due May 7; 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65284 posts
19th Sep '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" you posted about this already It sounds like you're getting a little obsessive. I just find it odd ... [snip!] ... with financial issues in the event of the death of your so rather than the emotional toll a loss like this would take."


Right? It sounds like all she cares about is his money.

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
19th Sep '13

Deja vu!

AamilahHifza Japan 46 posts
19th Sep '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" you posted about this already It sounds like you're getting a little obsessive. I just find it odd ... [snip!] ... with financial issues in the event of the death of your so rather than the emotional toll a loss like this would take."

It has nothing to do with the money. Like at all. It has everything to do with the emotion behind it. I'm his wife. I don't feel ENTITLED to anything. I just feel as his wife I should take care of my husband and he should take care of me. We should take care of each other. If shoes were on different feet, I would want him to continue to pursue his education. I would want to make sure that he was okay especially if I was the main bread winner. I wouldn't leave him to fend with himself for two kids.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46421 posts
19th Sep '13

Wow, is it about the money, or is it about losing your spouse....



Because it seems all you care about is money...

AamilahHifza Japan 46 posts
19th Sep '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Wow, is it about the money, or is it about losing your spouse.... Because it seems all you care about is money..."

Let me state again...



"It has nothing to do with the money. Like at all. It has everything to do with the emotion behind it. I'm his wife. I don't feel ENTITLED to anything. I just feel as his wife I should take care of my husband and he should take care of me. We should take care of each other. If shoes were on different feet, I would want him to continue to pursue his education. I would want to make sure that he was okay especially if I was the main bread winner. I wouldn't leave him to fend with himself for two kids."

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108769 posts
19th Sep '13
Quoting ArabellaG:" It has nothing to do with the money. Like at all. It has everything to do with the emotion behind it. ... [snip!] ... make sure that he was okay especially if I was the main bread winner. I wouldn't leave him to fend with himself for two kids."

you are perfectly capable of providing for yourself and are only concerned with being able to be home and not struggling if the guy dies.



kinda sad for him, imo

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108769 posts
19th Sep '13
Quoting ArabellaG:" Let me state again... "It has nothing to do with the money. Like at all. It has everything to do with ... [snip!] ... make sure that he was okay especially if I was the main bread winner. I wouldn't leave him to fend with himself for two kids.""

if the kids are the beneficiaries, he is not leaving the kids to fend for themselves.



and you're an adult, grow up ffs

Squeaky McGee [11 wks] Due May 7; 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65284 posts
19th Sep '13
Quoting ArabellaG:" Let me state again... "It has nothing to do with the money. Like at all. It has everything to do with ... [snip!] ... make sure that he was okay especially if I was the main bread winner. I wouldn't leave him to fend with himself for two kids.""


Leave you to fend for yourself? Yes, because dying would be his choice. :roll:

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46421 posts
19th Sep '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" you are perfectly capable of providing for yourself and are only concerned with being able to be home and not struggling if the guy dies. kinda sad for him, imo"


I do as well!

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
19th Sep '13
Quoting ArabellaG:" It has nothing to do with the money. Like at all. It has everything to do with the emotion behind it. ... [snip!] ... make sure that he was okay especially if I was the main bread winner. I wouldn't leave him to fend with himself for two kids."


Why are you so offended? He wants to make sure your children have money to live their lives, maybe go towards college, offer them the things you guys might not have had as children. You're a grown ass woman, fend for yourself and get the fuck over it.

GetItGirl 2 kids; Virginia 2074 posts
19th Sep '13

if he dies you would be the one controlling the money tho anyway i'm sure unless the kids are 18 and also you would get his social security and so would your kids.

❀Sarah❀ 2 kids; Cocking, EU, Europe 122570 posts
status 19th Sep '13

You are perfectly capable of finding a job and providing for yourself. You both should have your main priorities and thoughts be on the children. Sounds like his are.