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Spoiled Baby ((-We Did It!-)) 1 child; 1 angel baby; Iowa 659 posts
20th Sep '13

According to everyone around me, my almost 5 month old is spoiled. And it's my fault.



I am home with him 24/7. I will admit, he's in my arms more often than anywhere else. He does fuss when he's sitting in his bouncer (or other places) longer than 20 minutes. He likes when I walk around carrying him. But, he does sleep by himself. Naps & at night, he's in his crib or pack & play.
Also, I'm not too comfortable with him being away from me. My (future) MIL wants to take him for a weekend, my sister asks to keep him overnight. I'm just not at the stage yet where that's okay.



Certain family members are nicely letting me know that I'm spoiling him. He's lived a sheltered life thus far. That I never let him cry.
Am I wrong for doing this? Are there ways to break this habit? =\

user banned 2 kids; Minnesota 7318 posts
20th Sep '13

They are old fashioned and out of the loop. You have a little baby that is dependent on you for food, shelter, cleanliness, everything. It's important he feels secure and his cries are validated with affection and love.



You're doing a good job :).

✖Mandalorian 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Georgia 5386 posts
20th Sep '13

He's a little to young to be spoiled IMO. I was that way with DS because well, it was just us at home while DH worked all day. He is now 16 months old and VERY independent and active. I can't even get a hug most days lol. They're only little once.

HungryHippo 2 kids; Missouri 12139 posts
20th Sep '13

You're not wrong
He's a baby,mothers were meant to hold their babies,its instinct.
Don't listen to them,and if you aren't comfortable with him staying over night somewhere don't be scared to tell them no

user banned (boy); 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
20th Sep '13

Break a habit of a baby wanting and needing their mother? No.
Listen to your instincts and ignore them!

Dorian Gray fornication, ri, Wallis and Futuna 105373 posts
status 20th Sep '13

that's not spoiling a baby

Bee. 1 child; Halifax, NS, Canada 683 posts
20th Sep '13


Quoting ((-We Did It!-)):" According to everyone around me, my almost 5 month old is spoiled. And it's my fault. I am home with ... [snip!] ... lived a sheltered life thus far. That I never let him cry. Am I wrong for doing this? Are there ways to break this habit? =\"



I don't think you're wrong at all. I hate when people say a baby is spoiled because the mother always holds the baby etc. You can't spoil a baby that young! He needs your love & attention. I don't see anything wrong with it at all. I did the same thing with my DD (she's one now) and she's perfect. She sleeps fine at night, is fine when I leave her for a couple hours etc.



I'm still not comfortable letting her go with anyone other than my Mother though, TBO. But I'm super protective. She'd be fine I'm sure, but I'd be too worried. I don't blame you for not wanting anyone else to take him over night!

sweetgapeach 1 child; Georgia 72 posts
20th Sep '13

My little girl is two and still has not stayed overnight with anyone.

KK ♥ Jax 2 kids; Michigan 604 posts
20th Sep '13

I wore my baby at work for nearly 2 months after maternity leave, i'd set him down for tummy time on my desk right in front of me, let him nap in his swing when I had a lot to do. But he turned out great, loves his momma and is not overly attached. :)

Bambi78 1 child; United Kingdom 1696 posts
20th Sep '13
Quoting ((-We Did It!-)):" According to everyone around me, my almost 5 month old is spoiled. And it's my fault. I am home with ... [snip!] ... lived a sheltered life thus far. That I never let him cry. Am I wrong for doing this? Are there ways to break this habit? =\"

I still think hes too young to be spoiled. Enjoy him as much as you can.

Sara Go 1 child; San Diego, California 866 posts
20th Sep '13

A 5 month old can't be spoiled. My LO who is turning 1 soon can be left alone or in a "station" for no more than about 15-20 minutes. It's natural for them to want to go somewhere else or do a new activity. The world is a new thing to them. Yes he does want to be held sometimes but if I have to get things done I just put him down even if he cries for a little. He gets over it once he finds a new toy to play with.



You're doing a great job, enjoy these moments because in a few years he won't want to be in your arms anymore lol

Clk 2 kids; Dexter, Michigan 11927 posts
20th Sep '13

Spoiling has more to do with materialistic things then emotional needs. Comforting a baby or even child while crying isn't spoiling. Giving a child a brand new toy because they broke same type of toy for third time on purpose is spoiling.

((-We Did It!-)) 1 child; 1 angel baby; Iowa 659 posts
20th Sep '13

You ladies are one of the main reasons I love BG so much & keep coming back to it. I appreciate all of your opinions. You really made me feel better about this whole situation! :) :) :)

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
21st Sep '13

Every baby is different and every mother's techniques are different.. just do what you feel is right! My DD doesn't like to sit in one spot for a long amount of time anymore (she did up until about three months old) and I hold and carry her a lot, but she also sleeps in her crib (never coslept) and I send her to my MIL, my mom's, or a sitters five times a week (and she's stayed overnight at my mom's about three times now). What works for one baby doesn't work for another, just do what you feel is best.