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Leave it to me... Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
25th Sep '13

So I have had my first official boyfriend after my divorce for a month now. We talk daily thru text message or email at work, and every night from around 10 to midnight 99% of the time. I see him monday nights after he gets out of school, and thursday night at church. He has also asked many a time to come over last minute just to see me, even if for a few minutes.The weekends my ex husband has my girls I have seen him every day, I've met his brother and family and this past weekend I finally felt ok enough to introduce him to my family. Things have been going so smoothly and he is so sweet and kind and respectful....until yesterday.



Back up a second...on saturday when we were hanging out with our church group *which is how we met* he was showing me a video on his phone and he get a text from "juana meetup"...I didn't say anything. Then later that night playing pool with my family my sister and I both noticed on a few occassions him texting someone names Samantha. Now, he has a HUGE family and works with his cousins and such....but I doubt he would be texting his cousin at 11 pm on a saturday night. OK, now yesterday-he goes to school tuesday and thursday and is there all day. We usually exchange a few text messages inbetween his classes but nothing super indepth. But after he gets out and I'm on my way home from work we text or talk on the phone for a few before I get to the daycare to pick my girls up. I didn't hear from him yesterday at all. Then he calls last night at 7:45 and I was busy so I called him back around 9:15 and he was very distant and distracted on his way over to a friend's house. After about 5 minutes of kind of awkward conversation I told him I was going to let him go and go to bed. He jumped at the chance to get off the phone and that was that. After stewing on it for a bit, I text him about an hour later and asked if we were ok because he seems distracted and distant and I wanted to make sure it wasn't anything I could help with. Around 1 am he text me "oh yeah we're great". Then today again he's quiet but I realize he's busy as am I with work, so I invited him over to watch a movie tonight. And low and behold...he can't.



Am I reading to much into this? My gut feeling is something is up here *with another girl* and I am not one to put up with crap like this.



TIA

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 22172 posts
25th Sep '13

Have you had the "exclusive" talk yet?

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
25th Sep '13

Ask him straight out, no reason to beat around the bush.

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
25th Sep '13
Quoting Colt's mommy:" Have you had the "exclusive" talk yet?"


Oh yeah! 3 weeks ago. And we are both under the understanding we are exclusive and I flat out told him if he's going to be sleeping with me, he's not sleeping with anyone else. Just to solidify what I see mutual as meaning. And he agreed.

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
25th Sep '13
Quoting Crystal
Nae&Zoe's Mommy 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Red Deer, Alberta 665 posts
25th Sep '13

Wow thats totally shady.. I would wonder what was up to. . See who this Samantha is. Just be straight out and honest with him. I feel like you've been distant with me, and I've noticed a few things..

Amber + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19316 posts
25th Sep '13
Quoting Crystal
whitney ♥ ainsley 1 child; New Hampshire 16454 posts
25th Sep '13

I'd just ask him what's going on. Maybe something happened at work, or he's stressed about something. It could be a million things.

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
25th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nae&Zoe's Mommy:</b>" Wow thats totally shady.. I would wonder what was up to. . See who this Samantha is. Just be straight out and honest with him. I feel like you've been distant with me, and I've noticed a few things.."</blockquote>



Thanks! that's exactly what I plan on saying tonight. Is it weird that I don't want to do it over the phone? I'd rather do it in person. But I guess that's not really an option because I'm not allowing this to go on any longer than it already has.

user banned 3 kids; Lincoln, Alabama 10353 posts
25th Sep '13

I'd just come out and say it. Even if it's over the phone

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
25th Sep '13

Well I tried to talk to him tonight but he hasn't responded back. Last I heard from him was at 5:30 today and I had my girls with me so that's not the time to handle a conversation like this. I'm going to move forward with my life and consider this a learning experience. And tomorrow IF I hear from him I will tell him I'm done. Playing games is not something I tolerate.

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
26th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Totally in love with her:</b>" Well I tried to talk to him tonight but he hasn't responded back. Last I heard from him was at 5:30 today ... [snip!] ... a learning experience. And tomorrow IF I hear from him I will tell him I'm done. Playing games is not something I tolerate."</blockquote>




I'm sorry things are not working out how you hoped. :-(

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
26th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Totally in love with her:</b>" Well I tried to talk to him tonight but he hasn't responded back. Last I heard from him was at 5:30 today ... [snip!] ... a learning experience. And tomorrow IF I hear from him I will tell him I'm done. Playing games is not something I tolerate."</blockquote>




Sorry, that sucks. Better to get out now and save yourself a bigger heartbreak later on.

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
26th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥MOBAS♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Totally in love with her:</b>" Well I tried to talk to him tonight ... [snip!] ... I tolerate."</blockquote> Sorry, that sucks. Better to get out now and save yourself a bigger heartbreak later on."</blockquote>




That's what in telling myself. Thanks. I have survived before and I'll do it again. Thanks everyone for the feedback.

Nae&Zoe's Mommy 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Red Deer, Alberta 665 posts
26th Sep '13
Quoting Totally in love with her:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nae&Zoe's Mommy:</b>" Wow thats totally shady.. I would wonder ... [snip!] ... do it in person. But I guess that's not really an option because I'm not allowing this to go on any longer than it already has."


No its not weird at at all. Id rather talk in person too, lets your read ppl a lil better I find. My husband can say what he wants to me on the phone, but when its in front of me I can see if he's telling me a "story" lol
And good for you on not taking any of his shit! If he's already trying to pull that this early into it, my as well get out now instead of wasting your time. <3 Good luck!!!!!