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DS won't lay down without..... ~Fam[ily] of 3~ 1 child; Idabel, Oklahoma 528 posts
26th Sep '13

crying! I haven't been holding him a lot, its even when some one other than me or his daddy pick him up. When i have him he wont lay on his back either. Is he just sore? I mean i try to leave him laying down as long as possible, but he cries so hard he starts coughing. HELP?

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
26th Sep '13

How old is he?

~Fam[ily] of 3~ 1 child; Idabel, Oklahoma 528 posts
26th Sep '13
Quoting lacTAYtor. ☮:" How old is he?"

1 week today.

user banned 2 kids; Minnesota 7318 posts
26th Sep '13
Quoting ~Fam[ily] of 3~:" 1 week today."


That's really normal. He's lonely. Hold him, rock him to sleep, whatever. Why haven't you been holding him a lot?

~Fam[ily] of 3~ 1 child; Idabel, Oklahoma 528 posts
26th Sep '13
Quoting Chim Richalds:" That's really normal. He's lonely. Hold him, rock him to sleep, whatever. Why haven't you been holding him a lot?"

everyone keeps saying holding him too much will make him where he wont sleep in his own bed. Im a 1st time mom so im confused.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46839 posts
26th Sep '13
Quoting ~Fam[ily] of 3~:" 1 week today."


He is not used to his surroundings outside of the womb yet, it can take infants up to 3 months to completely adjust to life outside.



He is used to dark, warm, quiet, close spaces and he is thrust into a big, bright, noisy world.



Hold him. He just wants to be in your arms.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
26th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Fam[ily] of 3~:</b>" 1 week today."</blockquote>




If he won't lay back at all without getting upset, he may have a touch of reflux that makes it uncomfortable. Mention it to you DR. Try keeping him upright as much as possible. But it could just be him wanting to be close to you. A lot of babies want to be constantly held. I mean, think about how warm and snuggled he was in your belly -- this is an entirely new thing for him! Do you have a wrap so you can wear him? The ergo and moby are my lifesavers -- I don't think I could get through the day without them.

user banned 2 kids; Minnesota 7318 posts
26th Sep '13
Quoting ~Fam[ily] of 3~:" everyone keeps saying holding him too much will make him where he wont sleep in his own bed. Im a 1st time mom so im confused."


Babies like to be held to feel secure. Some babies don't like their own bed and it takes lots of rocking and holding and careful arm-to-crib transfers and silent tip toeing away lol.

~Fam[ily] of 3~ 1 child; Idabel, Oklahoma 528 posts
26th Sep '13

Lol. he was doing really good but today he has been jumpy and upset.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
26th Sep '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Fam[ily] of 3~:</b>" everyone keeps saying holding him too much will make him where he wont sleep in his own bed. Im a 1st time mom so im confused."</blockquote>




Awh don't listen to them! The little guy just needs some cuddles and lovins.

~Fam[ily] of 3~ 1 child; Idabel, Oklahoma 528 posts
26th Sep '13

I think thats all it was, I held him for about an hour and a half and he laid down just fine! Thank you Ladies! It really scared me. :(

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
26th Sep '13
Quoting ~Fam[ily] of 3~:" 1 week today."


He spent 9 months nestled all snug inside you. He is still a newborn, adjusting to being out in the ''real'' world..... You CANNOT hold a newborn too much! They need to feel secure.
Have you tried a wrap or a baby sling, to carry him around?

~Fam[ily] of 3~ 1 child; Idabel, Oklahoma 528 posts
26th Sep '13
Quoting 6 blessings so far....:" He spent 9 months nestled all snug inside you. He is still a newborn, adjusting to being out in the ... [snip!] ... You CANNOT hold a newborn too much! They need to feel secure. Have you tried a wrap or a baby sling, to carry him around?"

No, I haven't. Well, not yet at least. When do you need to lay off holding a baby?

user banned 2 kids; Minnesota 7318 posts
26th Sep '13
Quoting ~Fam[ily] of 3~:" No, I haven't. Well, not yet at least. When do you need to lay off holding a baby?"


You never do. They'll just stop wanting to be held once they can crawl generally. If he's a big sleep fighter and you want to sleep train, people say around six months is when it's ok to leave a baby to cry to sleep, before then you're just not supposed to.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
26th Sep '13
Quoting ~Fam[ily] of 3~:" No, I haven't. Well, not yet at least. When do you need to lay off holding a baby?"


When you desperately need to use the bathroom, shower or just need a break. There is no magic time. Once babies are old enough to really take in their surroundings and occupy themselves (play with their hands, a toy, stare at a ceiling fan, etc) is when they usually become less clingy.
Hold your baby as much as you want , till he is whatever age you feel comfortable letting him entertain himself. If it takes women 6wks to get over the trauma of giving birth then imagine how long it takes a baby to get over the trauma of being born.
Congrats on your little blessing. Enjoy him as much as you can because they grow too fast!